Are urban women gold diggers or over materialistic?

Yes, majority is. We have no choice ... we need security in this expensive world. For example in my case, most of my friends who married rich man are living in luxury. They do not need to work yet have maid at home to help out. In my case I am not materialistic, so I am now busy working to help in household expenses. Go home still have to do housework and cooking. So ... I do regret for not being materialistic. However, ,my personal opinion would be get a rich man but make sure he is kind heart, loving and generous. If rich and stingy, life is still lousy ...

Hello boy, I think you have a lot to learn here about women. Back in the days of old where women are reliant on their men to bring home the bacon, what happened? Now, thank God since there aren't enough men to fill up the demand for work force women are coming into the picture. I can assure you the self worth for women really appreciated and in some cases are excelling the men in quite a few departments. So you have the impression that women are materialistic because others are telling you that you can land a girl of your fancy just by "buying" your way through. Well, let me say that it is far from it but neither is going all romantic is going to win you some hearts. Not asking that you show your bank account or what's in your wallet but I don't think women are wrong to push you away if you do not understand us period. Women prefer men who are down to earth honest and capable - if he is rich then that will be bonus like striking the lottery's grand prize. It is a fact that we would want some sense of security, like a roof over the head, food on the table and some disposable money to handle everything from dailies to emergencies. Is that too much to ask for? Buying expensive gifts or expensive restaurants or vacations does not happen everyday literally even with the super rich. So don't be so sure that you can buy your way here. To buy it will be cheating everyone here. Yet, you cannot not do it on special occasions and if you do not know the reason for it, then you are not in the league. Take some more lessons. On the last part, I cannot help but feel greatly disturbed when you ask and I quote: "Also most of the divorce cases today are becuase of financial issues, women are not ready to share their income with their spouses. What is wrong in sharing your income with your husband or else what's the point in marrying a working woman who cannot financially help you in crisis." I really like to hear you explain this one yourself. You are looking for a woman to support you and that if you have a wife that works, she is to give her income to you. I think you must be from another planet. No offense, but I believe that's what I understand as I read your writing here. I think women are looking for capable men. Men who are able to take care of themselves and above all take care of their women who have to take care of their children. They do not want a byproduct (men) who needs to be taken care of, as if they (women) do not have enough to take care of. In your culture women though are detached from their families have to pay a handsome dowry for you men to take care of them. So, why shouldn't women expect more from you before they give you their hand?

hmm, you are generalizing.I don't know the practices in your society but here where I live most women strive for equality with their husbands or boyfriends. Most of the young people I know, married or living together share the combined financial obligations. It is true women want and should keep their own credit cards and bank accounts but in a committed relationship they will come to an agreement about sharing their financial costs. As far as always picking the richer guy and perhaps suffering physical and mental abuse I really don't think intelligent women would go that way.

When we have enough money as a couple we have CHOICE to work or not to work after having children. Without money that choice is not there. Off course women do not want some one who is filthy rich just enough money so they can take break from their career to rear children few years.

Hi friend, I think most of women have been smart now, they tend to realistic that life need money and most of them do not want to be poor people when they were married. I think they are not materialistic but they are realistic. I hope you understand that live in the urban more hard than in the rural. Have a nice day.

Hi there. Some women are really into material things. They defend that idealism by saying that they are just being practical. Although I agree that we need money to live, I believe that we don't have to, and we should not live for just money. I know times get harder these days, everything gets more pricey, and wages don't really increase so much. Maybe that's why more women look into men's bank accounts and job titles first before dating or marrying them, but I, for one, will never marry someone who is just rich. Love is more important for me, because money is easy. You just work, and you earn. You can save little by little. But love? Cliche as it sounds, you just can't buy it. :)

when it comes to having a family, where we of course want any relationship to head, we prefer those who are stable financially. We have to live a good life. |Nobody wants to suffer hardship. That is why men with money is preferable.

It's not sound for a man to conclude that eligible girls in urban societies are gold diggers or over materialistic. Such kind of women can be found in all strata of society. To look for a woman with all the good qualities for a wife is quite a long process. You have to court her so the two of you can talk and discuss things together When you feel that the two of you can talk issues freely and with the least inhibitions that's called the engagement period or you are now engaged. The engagement is very important for it is the time for you to weigh things and decide if she is meant for you. If you are convinced that all she cares is your money. then you're free to leave her and look for another. The same process likewise works for a woman. She should avoid playboys, lazy, smokers, drinkers and those so attached to their families.

Hi ! Women nowadays are empowered ! You just look at women today as materialistic , but no they are not , they are just practical ! They have experienced hard life and it is never easy to be there . So why die in that situation where they have other option. Women are tired of being poor , so if have chance grab it now as long as the means is not sinful. It 's not only urban , it includes women even in rural places. I love women of today , fighter , smart , goal oriented and ambitious . Gone were those days where in they are confined to their houses only.

Not to generalized but partly correct, partly wrong. Correct for girls wants to indulge being treated as a PRINCESS/ Special for that the essence of courtship, women wants to be your queen, ask you everything even your time, to be your only one, give everything you had but partly wrong for the real point it that they just want to have the security in life even you, you also want to have the stable earning, a good (not actually big) house and a food on your plate that's why girls tend to be like that. But the worst is that they don't like their suitor, so that they suitor will get TURN OFF, so that the best way to end it. But honestly, that is only in courtship stage but when in the real life relationship women are really understanding and caring. And women really wants to help so, be wise in choosing for women will be the one that can give everything they had just for the love she cherish. This is just my own opinion please don't get offended. God bless.

Just how five fingers in our palm are not the same, same way all women are not the same, Just with that question that why women don't want to share their income with their husbands aren't you contradicting your statement that Urban Women are gold diggers. The truth is that one needs to realize that he or she should always be independent monetary wise, because today or tomorrow it will come in between the two individuals. Money can ruin the most amazing relationships on earth.

that's the reality nowadays women's are looking a secure future we cant deny the fact that this problem is not rare in our society girls tend to choose a man that has its resources for them to survive if ever the two of you will marry later. Money can buy love, money can manipulate ones needs, money is like a shining diamond thats y women like to shine like a diamond but not all womens are like this. tHERE are some aspects that mens is like womens so its unfair to say that only girls are used to it men's can be like this right.

I hate to speak ill of somebody. But i have to say most of the girls in China become more and more realistic. They want you to have a house in the city ,have a car, have a high-paid job and anything else. And you know what, the houses are so expensive now in China that many people can't afford it, especially the college graduates, even those whome have worked for 4-5 years. For example, lots of houses are sold more than 10000 yuan per square meter,some even 20000yuan, namely about 3225 in USD. You may think that it's cheap, not dear. But in Xiamen, China, the average salary is about 3900 yuan(USD 629). Is that terrible, guys?