Have you ever been in a relationship with a foreigner?
By secretbear
@secretbear (19448)
Philippines
April 26, 2013 2:08am CST
And with foreigner, I mean, someone from a different country with different upbringing, set of beliefs, environment, perception, language, etcetera.
I'm presently in a relationship with a foreigner and I must say that it's sometimes challenging. :p We're a few days away to our third month and he'll visit me next month. That will be the first time we'll see each other personally. :p :)
This is the first time I've had a foreigner boyfriend and sometimes it's just hard to relate with him. Sometimes, I find his way of dealing with issues exaggerated or too serious especially with issues in his country. Sometimes, I can't relate with his attitude toward certain things. I just think that maybe I just can't understand him because I have never lived in his country. We've been brought up differently and in a different environment so I guess that's why we're different on somethings.
But I like him a lot and I am just so excited to see him next month. :')
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30 responses
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Yes, I have been in a relationship with foreigner and I agree with you that it is challenging. We do have some misunderstanding too and I think that it is all because of our culture. Just like other relationships we do have ups and downs too. But one thing we keep in mind is that we don't let our misunderstanding to last for days or weeks. As much as possible, we talk very much to solve it.
It is a good thing that he will visit you soon. I can feel that you are excited because of it. You will know him more once he visit you. I am hopeful that you two last together. Happy mylotting!
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
26 Apr 13
I am married to one. I'm from the Philippines, he's from the US. And while it is true that it can be challenging and there will be lots of adjustments seeing as how we both have different cultures, background and upbringing, it made our relationship more exciting. We just make sure that we are open to each others' differences, and communication is the key. We have to be more patient and understanding when it comes to making them realize how we do things differently, and vice versa. We've been married only for 2 years now and while we have both hard times and good times, I have no regrets in marrying him. Marriage is a gamble, whether you marry someone from your own country or somewhere else.
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
9 May 13
@secretbear we met abroad, where I used to work. Then I brought him home with me to meet my folks. Then he would visit me regularly in the Philippines when my contract is up.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 Apr 13
It is always difficult to adjust with a person who belongs to some other country or religion. Cultural differences could lead to misunderstanding between two persons belonging to different life styles.
We wish you all the best. Hopefully your guy will turn out to be a nice person, as per your expectations.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
7 May 13
I met a lovely man on a train in Australia. I was on my trip around the world at 21 years old. We fell head over heals in love and we got married in England. Our marriage lasted just six years and then we got divorced. He was from sunny Queensland and we felt England was cold even in the summer.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
There are differences that you may find hard to deal with but it is just a matter of understanding and respect each other's opinion and ideas.
You will get to know each other in the long run- three months is still too early to know each other well.
What matters most in this relationship is love.
As long as you love each other- then everything will be fine.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
Well good luck girl. I did not yet experience how to be in a relationship with a foreigner. I am not against with foreigners and I am not a racist. If God allows me in the future and if I have a feeling with that foreigner that crosses my path then so be it. No harm in trying. I heard foreigners are sweet and caring.
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@sonusd (1547)
• India
27 Apr 13
from this site mylot I had an affair with a girl from different country.Initially I thought We both are in love but later I got to know that she had some other intention since then I do not believe in love with foreigner without seeing each other.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
oh wow good for you, i have a friend who really married a foreigner, the guy was from Texas. My friend i guess met her online too and the guy really went here to get married to her..and she is now living with her in Texas! She said it was a bit hard but they eventually worked it out.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Apr 13
My first long term boyfriend was a foreigner. He was from South Africa, but he lived in my country. When I met him he had already been in my country for several years, but there were still some differences between the way that we were brought up and the culture in the country where we spent our childhood and youth. He often talked about his country and I loved hearing his stories from the country where he grew up. I think that the differences between our countries were both good and bad. Sometimes it was a challenge and we often disagreed, but on the other hand I think that the differences were a strengh because we were able to learn from eachother and complement eachother.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
No,I have never been into that. I can understand the difficulty at first, but I know a lot of women who are in that situation and had gotten adjusted to the differences in culture and are now doing well with their foreigner husband. It's not culture that makes for a successful union. After all, there is such a thing as adjustment and understanding. Many couples who are of the same culture eventually divorce, which is not allowed by the way in our country.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
I guess relationship with foreigners are more adventurous and interesting. It would be nice to meet someone from different cultures and race. Nevertheless, can be quite dangerous too since you really don't know a lot about their values.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
Hi ! I really believed love conquers all . Love knows no boundaries , it goes beyond religion, caste or tradition. Like any other ordinary relationships , fights and misunderstanding spice the relationship but what is beautiful in here is at the end of the day , they are still together and everything is fixed. I got also mine and it was a beautiful relationship . It was destiny who brought us together.
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
Nope, I have never been in a relationship from a different country or a foreigner simply because I prefer a man that have the same culture as mine.I know we can get along better if we have the same country and culture but of course I do believe that love is not about the culture, religion, age,races,what's important is you love each other.It's good to know that he will visit you next month,I just hope that you're first meeting will be a memorable experience and don't forget also to take him a tour to beautiful spots here in our country.I know he will likely enjoyed.I just hoped that your relationship with him will Last.Have a nice day!
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@elaineyy (32)
• China
27 Apr 13
I never have foreigner boyfriend.But i knew a foreigner boy in my college,i helped him with his chinese,obviously,there are so many culture differencs and methods to deal with things between us due to different background and growth environment.So we are just friends. If you like him,i think you will find a good way to balance these difference and get accustomed to each other. The power of love is invincible.
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@stary1 (6612)
• United States
26 Apr 13
secretbear Many have been involved even married some one totally different in nationality, culture etc.
In my opinion it takes a lot of work and understanding. Not only do you have to compromise with him or her and respect each others cultures, but often the extended families cause conflicts. I wish you well in this adventure and if it becomes serious I would seek the advice of others who have been down that road. All the best to you!!
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
26 Apr 13
hi dear secretbear, been there done that, and meeting him in person was not such a great time at all. His parents were very nice people who did everything to make me feel welcome but I didnt feel too happy with him as he was not easy to be with. We were too different from each other so when the three weeks I spent there came to an end I knew I would not go back there to meet him a second time.
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@imaging_1 (64)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 13
No, I have never been in a relationship with a foreigner, to be honest, I have never even dated with a man who is different from my province! But I am looking forward to have a relationship with a foreigner, because I want to know what are the difference between us, and we can also learn from each other, such as the thoughts about this world, or different lifestyles or anything else!:P Maybe we are so different that we can't get along with each other so well, but I love challenges, if we have love, there is nothing can stop us! HA, I am just the person fond of novelties, life need novelty, doesn't it?
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
27 Apr 13
Good thing:
-You'll have a chance to know about another culture very well;
-You'll have fresh, exotic and surprising feelings for a very long time;
-You'll learn to live with someone different and special, which helps you grow mature;
But remember:
-to know more about him by talking or doing things with him. See his values, attitude, principles and other important aspects, and you'll know whether you suits each other or not, and whether you can accept him with all the differences.
-that you are equal individuals, you have more in common anyway, and more importantly you should respect each other in all respects, and you should respect yourself at the same time.
So...this is it! Enjoy your colorful future! Best wishes for you!
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@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
26 Apr 13
well I have been married to a man out of my country of residence and I suffer too much... I mean he was not what he was showing.... but it is all depends to people.. some of are good enough and honest then no matter where he or she is from, finally we are all human being and creator of God and we all live in this earth and earth is not belong to any of us, just belong to its own creator, God... I hope that you will have a true bf and he is enough good and honest to you... 
@gljcleeve (147)
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26 Apr 13
I'm English through and through and am (supposedly) with the Church of England, but for some time in my youth, I was going out with an Australian Jewess.
We tended not to take any notice of our respective nationalities or religions (except if we wanted to annoy each other so we could have the fun of making up again) and used to just get on with the many things that we had in common.
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