She thought I was pulling her leg

Wow that is sad and sorry to hear but your right it is not fair to you to if your the one buying the high price candy or treats when you can get far more candy or treats from any store if it was my kid doing that she would be buying her own stuff then lets see how often she throws it away

i think the price of the candies is irrelevant here. the fact that you took effort and spent your hard earned money on getting her something is admirable. you didn't mention the age of your niece. if she's still a toddler and her mom laughs at her unbecoming behavior, she's going to get the message that what she's doing is right because it makes her mom happy. at the risk of meddling, you should talk to your sister about this. and i hope you keep your word. the next time you buy her something and she doesn't appreciate it, make it the last. otherwise, she really won't believe you.

The mother should teach her kid how to behave in a proper way and make it a fun activity for the daughter. This little girl will never know the value of things, money and appreciation if she continues to do the same thing over and over.

i have nieces and nephews, too, and i don't hesitate to correct them if they're here or we're together outside. if it's okay with their parents, fine, it's gonna be their problem in the future when these kids have grown. but i will not let them do it to me or our parents. and i think it's common in many families. there are willful children who have no choice but to "behave" when a particular grandparent, godparent, aunt or uncle is involved.

My husband and mother were always buying candy for my girls. I hated to waste things but I since there were no food pick-ups I did throw some of it away. When my husband kept buying me these candies that weren't good for me I just started giving them away to the food bank as the town we moved to had pick ups. He finally got the message but now he keeps bring home cookies. I ask him to just let me buy sweets when I want them as they aren't good for me. Some of my family members have diabetes so I want to be careful. Maybe you could find something else to give her.

You did right not to buy your niece anything, because if she don't want it, all she is going to do is thow it away, and that is telling you, she is ungreatful for what you have done for her, so don't spend money, on a person like that, spend your money on yourself.

Her mom does not seem to be helping her learn that rude actions will have consequences. I do not blame you, why buy presents for someone who does not appreciate them.