It is hard

well your not alone here I went though this last night a person that I cared about a lot and want to spend all of my time with had to listen to my ex and was saying all sorts of bad things about me well that since has ended any kind of trust with them that they would believe my ex over me so I will just stay single

I am really sorry. She obviously was not a good friend if she believed those things but it still hurts I am sure.

I'm so sorry. I've been through that, too, and it hurts a lot. It's the lack of trust that hurts most, when you've trusted and treasured this person and it turns out that they will believe anything about you. That's why I have few real friends, I only invest that much of myself in people that are immune to that kind of crap. I've never figured out why people to that, lie about others..they are lacking something important in their character, for sure.

HEck yeah, if she would believe others' words more than she would believe yours then that doesn't make her a friend to begin with. She should know better than to listen to any words against someone she considers as friend without hearing both sides of the story. But well, although it is sad, you will be far off better without her.

the one who doesn't believe u is not a good friend for your life.

that friend is not loyalty shes not a true friend

I'm so sorry. That is such a hard thing to try to deal with. You definitely have the right idea in that you should move on and find new friends. Who knows, maybe someday she will realize that listening to what has turned out to be harmful gossip just cost her a real friend. Maybe she'll come to her senses. There are gossipers in my family and my husband's family as well. Needless to say, I am not at all friends with these people. They are trouble and I don't think they'll ever learn. I have plenty of true friends that do not talk behind my back or otherwise cause problems.

If that is the case your friend is not so dear and not really a friend at all. Did you try to talk to her about the situation? I know it is hard to lose someone that you trust so much. Perhaps things can be worked out between you two? If you have tried that already it is probably best to just let it go and move on with your life.

hi mommamusic! have you tried talking it out with her? sometimes, what would make the other believe that what others are saying is true, is our incapacity to do our part, to prove that we are not guilty of anything accused of us. no pride is lost for a friendship that you would never want to run out of, if you will exert every effort to make her believe! however, if you already did your part to the best of your ability and still, she did not listen, then give her the SPACE that she needs while you continually pray for her to realize...soon! i hope trying on this would make you happy afterall :)

I know exactly how you feel , that happened to me before. people really need to learn a life lesson , i hate when people accuse you for things that you did not say or do. people really need to stop.