Being compared

Hi1 Don't get upset, it is a very common problem or say trait of parents...... It is in their blood to compare their kids irrespective of the fact how kids would take it. I endorse your point that it is absolutely wrong and uncalled for to compare two persons, who have different backgrounds. One of my bosses used to say - You can not compare horses and elephants. Means horses could be compared with their own category. You need not pay any heed to any such unsolicited comparison. You could say that you are unique and should not be compared with others. Take it easy. I would say you are better cook in comparison to the person with whom you were compared.

That usually happens to me. And i know how bad the feeling of being compared to others. Well, to lessen the felling for being pissed of, I am just thinking it in a brighter side; that each and everyone of us have our own talent to be proud of. If someone cooks better that you can, then you must be happy for him anyway, you also have a unique talent that no one can. So go ahead and let them realized that they should not compare you to anyone else. Prove to them that you have your own talent that they can be proud of instead of letting yourself down by thinking what they are saying against you. Have a nice day.. Take care.

I always think we are the best judges of ourselves and if you have learnt the art of hearing something from one ear and leaving it out from the other then you have arrived. Have you?

Well, that is really disgusting. I was also compared with my childhood friend before from over all physical look to capability in school. Of course, she was better than me because she was a rich kid than I. Her parents can send her to exclusive school and she can be able to get what she wants. Well, I just take it (comparison) as blessing in disguise, as I pursued harder not to beat her but to prove myself that I am also worth it to be praised and admired.

It is such a normal feeling being pissed of when we are being compared to someone else especially if the comparison sucks like making it appear that the other person is better than you are. At some point, others might take it in a very positive light, trying to make themselves better. On the other hand, some also take it offensively. Either of the two responses are nothing but normal. However, the choice of being affected is still on your hands...

Everyone is different and has own individuality and no one like him/her to compared to others. But, you need comparison to others in order inspire. Elders normally compare you to others just to motivate you and try to take off that laziness and attitude from you so that you cannot become a caution to others if not an inspiration.

Hello Aja, that's not a good thing to say and do, why comparing the child who all of a sudden. they should be encouraging you instead of putting you down. if that is the case, ignore them and never cooked them food every again, let them bring their own food. how are they saying this? is it through insult or joke? but i think it's also their way of motivating you. we have the tendency to react. .

It feels really bad being compared with someone. But just ignore them instead and take it as a challenge. Best of luck!

I also dont like to be compared with others. My parents very often compare me with others. I believe that everybody in this world has their own ideology and mentality and different likes and dislikes. thats the reason, one should not be compared with others.

I think it is painful. Each person has special talent that does not to compared with others, except you are in competition in this field. Yes, sometimes, parents do not understand that their attitude was pain their daughter. Be patient. But, try to show your talent that better than your nephew to remind that it is not good compared you and other people.

It is not good to compare one with another as every individual has theor own talent and potential . I know how you feel when you are being compared to others. However, this is very common among the family members even in the work places. It will not do you any good too if you continue to feel bad and down. Take it positively and strive to do your best and do not be bothered by those unfair judgement. And you will be happy and will perform even better .

Just ignore what they say,tell them that cooking Is not your type

Just ignore what they say,do try to do something that they eould Impress by what you dont be carried away well let them know that Cooking os not your type.

prove them wrong

we should learn and realize it is not right to compare ourselves to other people because each and everyone of us are unique and special in our own ways. we should all learn to embrace our individual skills and talents and that each and everyone of us is different and beautiful. not too many can understand and realize this and sometimes this can cause a negative effect on the self image of their children or family members, the reason why some children tend to develop inferiority complex and low self-esteem. i myself have been a victim of this kind of attitude by other people and i grew up having some insecurities and low self-esteem..as i grow older i have learned a lot of things and now i learn to accept myself and other people and see the beauty in each and everyone and not to be comparing them that the other one is better or more beautiful. nobody is perfect and we all have our own strengths and weaknesses..

It is note really good to be compared with other people. I believe that each human being has his own talent that God has given. There is something unique in every person and what he is skilled at. If your are being compared just be mature and know that you have your own talent. Your family knows that too.

I hate being compared also but I just ignored them and just proved them wrong.