i need a space for privacy
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
April 27, 2013 8:45am CST
I always want our bedroom to be as private as it should be. I do not even like the idea of having a television inside it because I have this belief that a bedroom is supposed to be a place for peace and relaxation but my husband really wants it so bad. He takes this as his lullaby. I did agree and tried to enjoy watching television or even watching some dvds when I feel like relaxing. What annoys me so much is when the kids take our bedroom as the living room because they also find comfort watching there most of the time. My husband even consents to that habit and so they also make the bedroom as their playground! (With my husband as the perpetrator of chaotic activities with the kids!)
I decided to transfer to the 3rd floor of the house occupying the room of my 7-year old son. Anyway he sleeps with us in the 2nd floor which sometimes I feel uncomfortable. I don't know if I am just inconsiderate but I also need some privacy.
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14 responses
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
27 Apr 13
Well, I understand you perfectly. All of us, at least occasionally during a day, we need our privacy, or take some time to be alone with ourselves, with nothing and no one to interfere!
However, and unfortunately, it is not always possible to do this!
For example, in my house, I have a separate bedroom, but however, I have continual visits in my bedroom from my family (one of all, my younger brother) who disturb my state of relax.
Although I never wanted to have the TV in the room!
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
All of us wants privacy at some point just like being alone for quite a time. Television really interrupts our time for peace.
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@arpecubha (47)
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 13
I think the bedroom should be a private place, where you can relax and even meditate. You are not inconsiderate - it's normal to want some time just for you, because after that you will be more effective for the family and friends.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 13
I think a bedroom is a place of rest. I don't want to have a television in my bedroom. I am happy to just have a small television in my lounge or living room. My laptop is portable. It usually stays in my lounge. I can see you need privacy and I like having that too. It seems your husband will put a television in all the bedrooms. You should speak to him about this matter. Good luck.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
27 Apr 13
Yes I also agree that our bedroom should be devoted primarily for sleeping and taking a rest. I only have one television set at home and that is placed in the living room. Well, you can request that the television set be transferred to one of the rooms.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
I actually have two, one in the living room and one in the bedroom. Just cannot understand why kids love to watch inside our room...
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
Hi ! Kids find that watching television as a bonding time for the family. I hope you get this essence . That is why they said they are comfortable in your room watching because the very thought that you are there around somewhat gives them a great happy feeling that they can't describe. Kids needs time and affection from parents that is why when in your room they grabbed that chance to interact , connect with both of you. Need for space privacy only can occur if the babies are sleeping already . No such thing as space for privacy when kids are still so young , they will never understand that instead they will misinterpret that you want a privacy.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
Im pretty much aware of that as well but sometimes its just i could not feel the privacy I have been longing for. There are times that I do also love watching and bonding with them but my husband and kids usually play wrestling in our bedroom!!
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 13
Yes, I am in total agreement with what you have shared. And I feel that you are right to transfer it to else where instead of keeping it in your room 
. Having TV in my room will never be my choice. My room should be a place of comfort for my rest and privacy 
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. Having TV in my room will never be my choice. My room should be a place of comfort for my rest and privacy .
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
It is really uncomfortable when I want to try getting some sleep and my husband still watch tv.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
27 Apr 13
I also think that bedroom should be a private place and should be the place to rest. I think most probably you can try to have additional television in the living and ask your children to watch the television in the living room. I think most probably if you want to move the television out of the bedroom you can do so or switch of the television and switch it on only when you feel you want to watch the television and not all the time.
@velvet53 (22533)
• Palisade, Colorado
27 Apr 13
Ii agree with you on your privacy. When my boy's were growing up they were never allowed in our bedroom unless they had permission to go in. That should be for you and your husband. If he wants to spend time with the kids then they can go to a different room. Myself, I would put a stop to it now. Your 7 year old doesn't need to be sleeping in there either. I sure hope you can work something out.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Well, I think the better solution for that is to talk with your husband and your kids. If they want to watch television, you should make a habit that you should watch in the living room and not your room and explain to them well that you came from work or if you are not working and just in the house, you need to rest peacefully without their presence. You can do it in a nice way. I guess.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Privacy is very much needed these days. We also have a TV in the room but it doesn't have a cable connection because my husband doesn't want any distractions while in the bedroom. I agree with him that the bedroom is a place of relaxation an watching TV is not a part of that. Although our room can be a mess at times because he and out daughter plays in the room when in fact, my daughter has a separate play room with all her toys in it :)
@tinayu (214)
• China
28 Apr 13
i very agree that a television should be put in the living room rather than the bedroom.before we decorated my house, we had talked the thing (whether the TV should be put in the bedroom or not?) over with each other.finally,we dicided to put a tv in the bedroom cos we wanted to watch programs lying in bed in winter.in fact this decision proved to be wrong.not only in winter, but also almost every day we lied in bed watching the tv programs in the evening.we talked little and moved little.we just devoted our spare time to the tv.i can't bear it and intend to talk with my husband.i hope that my husband would agree with me .wish me luck.
@sonusinghal34 (30)
• India
27 Apr 13
i also like want to live alone
because u can not adjust our thinking according to other person,we can adjust some feeling but u can not same think,,,,,,,
suppose i like watching cricket but not likes my wife that time we have to adjust each other when ever she went her home that time i feel batter,,,realy i feell more well ,,,that time i make my choice food and late night sleep nad watch my liking movies,,,so i suggest my friend if u have guts so live alone???
@anagelvisto (18)
•
28 Apr 13
for me it is fine to play on bedrooms but it depends in you and your family how you would handle it,you can do it sometimes not always
@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
1 Dec 15
We really need privacy.Our body needs it to relax without disruption..but we can never stop children looking and longing for parents for them to annoy and play.
