how did you spend your birthday during your debut (18-girls; 21-boys)?
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
April 27, 2013 6:04pm CST
and as i remember well, it was my 18th birthday where me and my friends sat on the stairway of our school way back in college. we are chitchatting about something and they greeted me happy birthday as well. i just do not know how to feel that time because i am a little ashamed not only to my friends, classmates but to all the people who knew that it was my natal day. it is because it should be a memorable day where there is a debut party. but there is none,so, i never experience a thing like that. it is not a big deal for me actually, it is just that, as a young girl before, it was a big dream seeing herself in a very grandeur event having a cotillion.
debut happens only once in everyone's life. it should be spent wondrously. but having a party is just an illusive longing when we are talking about practicality. i guess, when your parents cannot afford or refuse to host or to shoulder the expenses and all, let us just try to understand. living a life for now is not that easy where everyone could easily find money. but i guess, there is an another way on how to spend it memorably even without the physique decors in the halls and balls and expensive gowns, foods and etc. you can spend it with your parents, love ones, siblings and friends. i guess, afterall - it is the thoughts that count most.
so during that time, my mother gave me small amount of money enough for three persons (because that time i have two bestfriends) including me so that i can treat them in a fastfood restaurant. i just smiled when someone greeted me shyly because i know i cannot afford to treat them all 
so what about you, where and how did you spend your debut?
so what about you, where and how did you spend your debut?1 person likes this
8 responses
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
29 Apr 13
I don't think I HAD a "debut." I could be all depressed & -'no one loves me enough to give me a debut' about it, but I don't think I've ever seen anyone's "debut" ever (unless you count First Communion, Baptism, Confirmation, singing Karaoke or many of the other ritual/performance debuts I've probably had & seen ... but you don't think so much about the person appearing as you do about what they are doing up there 
)
The first debut of me-as-a-person will probably be my wedding-day, when I will finally be proud of who I am becoming (an active part in a family-machine!)
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The first debut of me-as-a-person will probably be my wedding-day, when I will finally be proud of who I am becoming (an active part in a family-machine!)
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 May 13
@missjahn Move in with me! (or some other guy) Yes, it will be very like a 'marriage'; but we/you-two will remain 'friends with benefits' (although a more-solid declaration of partnership might be helpful in being parents your child can be proud-of).
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
2 May 13
@mythociate where to find you. everything in here is just a dream... everyone is flaring away ahhaha
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 May 13
like mine when i had my 18th birthday. but i guess not because no one loves me, is just that i do not have money for the party or cotillion. of course, as a catholic, we must undergo first communion, confirmation. i love singing in the karaoke..
congratulations... as much as i want to settle down, it scared me to some manner and that if i were to choose, i do not want to get married and stay single forever in my life. no hassles, no husbands that will rant me but i want a kid. where should i buy that haha!
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
28 Apr 13
I never have been one for going out on birthdays. id rather make a cake and a dinner for me or the person celebrating.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
2 May 13
@mariaperalta very good of you that you can cook. i can cook but too lazy to do it but still doing it if starving hahaha... how ar u
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 May 13
Plus alot cheaper than paying those high rest. prices here in Mexico. Plus I think I cook better.
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I don't remember anymore. I think it wasn't even celebrated. We're not rich to have a celebration with all those visitors around.
But it's my dream to have one for my eldest daughter. She is 15 now and in just few years she'll be 18. I hope and pray I would have the resources when that time comes.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 May 13
it is possible if you believe it will be. as parents, we would like to see our children happy and live life at its best and also let them experience what we do not experience during our childhood days. i mean, it is not necessary to celebrate birthday parties to extreme happening but if we can afford, then why not. it is a one chance experience and it cannot be replayed once more. so why not make the best out of it. but if it is impossible, we could have another option and that is to celebrate it simply along with love ones and friends. i guess, it is the though that counts afterall ;)
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I didn't have a big party with the cotillion and everything. I just had a reservation in a restaurant where I invited my high school and college friends then after that, we went out for some night out :)
It wasn't anything fancy. Just a simple celebration with friends and family and partying the night off :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
that would be great. at least, it was being exerted with efforts still and being planned. it is the thought that count. as long as you spend it happily with the people who are dear to you, so the celebration is a successful one. i guess, you enjoyed it a lot and a worthwhile remembrance when you could remember it in a while :) great
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
I remembered in the olden days, my mother would cook two hard boiled eggs with "mee sua" (a kind of longevity noodle) for my dad during his birthdays 
. However, she does not celebrate birthdays for all our siblings and we never ask for it as well. It was just a usual day with nothing special. So, I do not have any nice memory about my 18 years old . 
. However, she does not celebrate birthdays for all our siblings and we never ask for it as well. It was just a usual day with nothing special. So, I do not have any nice memory about my 18 years old . @missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 May 13
yeah misua, i know that noodle. we used to eat it as viand cooked with sardines in it. just my mother gave me few pennies to treat my friends to eat in a fastfood chain and that was jollibee. i guess she had been given me 200 pesos or five dollars more or less. hmm.. it is alright, how could i ask for more that i do not have my own earnings during that time. and i was a student during that time. so i stay contented without regrets :)
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
28 Apr 13
On my 18th birthday, me, my family and very select, close friends just went swimming in our pool house. We prepared some food right there and spent the whole day swimming, doing karaoke, shooting pools and just having fun. My birthday is the summer time there in the Philippines so I figure this is much more fun than the usual traditional debuts which is also more expensive.
@vikasdangi (40)
• India
28 Apr 13
I just give a small party to my friends.
Small but very good I will always remember that.
