Family is Family No Matter What

I do experience it from time to time but I do not take it to heart. Some family members are just mean and not know how to take care of other's feelings . I have learnt not to hold any grudges and be at peace with them. I will not let this situations affects me negatively . After all, we are all family members. Even though we may meet up with one another occasionally, but there will be as usual like nothing has happened and we could meet in peace!

Pain is a part of life. It is important as it is inevitable. People have differences and sometimes, it is the unmet expectations and misunderstandings that causes us pain. I had my fair share of pain all throughout life. Broken promises when I was a child, rejection when I was a teenager, failure in adulthood and I know that there will be more to come but these pain that we felt before will help us understand and cope to our situation. You are right that when it comes to family, usually, the pain is deeper. This is because of our expectations. Since these people are close to our hearts, we are not expecting that we will feel pain because of them. However, disagreements and conflicts are spices of family life and it is also unavoidable. I know I have hurt my family a lot when I ran away with my husband and was not able to finish my studies back then, especially my mom. I was told that she's been crying every single day after I left. Until now that I already graduated and asked for her forgiveness, I am still feeling guilty about it because I let her down. I also have minor faults that may have hurt my loved ones especially when I fail to spend quality time with them back when I was working the graveyard shift. I have been hurt but I really do not like conflicts with the family so I just forgive and forget. I love my family so much.

Hurting a family member can be more painful. Family members are the ones who love us irrespective of the flaws and the failures. They can be our support at any time without expecting something back from us. But sometimes, there can be situations wherein we may actually hurt them. And this may bring in a gap in the relationship for a lifetime. I have never faced such a situation. And I hope I would never hurt someone in the future too.

Unfortunately, it happened to me all the time with really close member of my family and the others in it, but there is nothing we can do about it - the person is just like that and he won't change because of us - it really hurts, but that's the life. If everything around you is "pink" there is always something that will make it black. Like it says - "the blood will tell and can't become water"