insecurity is in her
By pentagan12
@pentagan12 (757)
Philippines
April 30, 2013 2:15am CST
I have known this person for quite so long. Unfortunately, she is the aunt of my fiance, the sister of my boyfriend's father. Even before, I was already aware of her negative attitudes; however, I never thought it is quite severe. On the uptown, since my fiance has a house their, we are neighbors. She also lives in our house here in the city, together with his husband. Their children oftentimes stay in our house as well. I've been treating them all so nicely that even a single centavo, we never asked from them to help us pay all the bills. They also didn't initiate to give us even just a simple amount of money for electric and water bills. I even offer them free meals almost everyday, thinking both of them have their own incomes. I also gave a lot of stuffs to her and her daughter. I bought them new bags and clothes. I just couldn't imagine why she used to back-fight me when I'm away. I just knew this now because our neighbors told me so. According to them she used to tell them negative feedbacks about me. She used to make stories about me. She really doesn't have the so-called debt of gratitude. And now, she can't blame me if I'm hating her for all the heartaches she's caused me. I'm gonna fight back.
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3 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Oh, that’s really bad of her. How dare she say bad things against you. Why don’t you confront her about it? Let’s see how she answers you. Don’t trust her 100% anymore. I guess it’s better if you’ll keep your distance. Let them pay their bills. Also, don't pamper her or her daughter. You should save your money. She's not worthy of your kindness.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
You know, we can't expect people to be always good to us just because we are good to them.
The thought of 'debt of gratitude' and those people who don't have it will really ruin our expectations. My aunt also had problems with my cousins with this.
Mind that when helping people, never expect anything in return. You can also consider the possibility that they will be mean to you for no good reason.
That is why, I believe I should not be too kind to anyone because it will give me expectations that they will do the same for me. If they talk bad behind my back, at least I will take comfort in the knowledge that they have not taken advantage of me and I have not placed trust in the wrong people.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
just be cautious of what you hear from others. they may also be untrue. what is important is your focus on what is truly important in life - family, career, relationships, faith, etc. do not lose sight of those important to you. otherwise you will lose them if you exert effort and focus on the unimportant things such as your aunt's behaviors.
