Having a relationship is all you need in life

I really think that it depends on the person. I personally am married with children. And I am happy as can be. I really cant see it being better any other way. My kids bring great joy to my life and my husband is my best friend. SO for me that is a very important part of my life. I do know some people that in their eyes goes either way. Sometimes they are so sad and lonely and feel the need to have a partner and feel complete when they have children. And then there are people that I know that are completely happy being single.

It's just plain stupid and rude to insist you have to be a certain way to be happy. Speak for yourself everyone and quit fighting and putting each other down. If you hate kids, please do everyone a favor and don't spit them out. I'm no longer married. I have a friend here that can't keep her own life balanced but insists on pitying everyone who isn't in a relationship. Her relationship is almost all one way (hers) and I feel kind of sorry for her for feeling sorry for us.

You're quite right. It is possible to be a whole, happy, complete person in and of yourself. Not everyone needs kids or an "other".

I think the diffinition of happiness depends on how the person feels it when ever you have relation with someone or not. I can't rely my happiness with anyone else I can be happy alone, and I think no one has the right to force me to have a family to have a complete happiness.

like you, i completely disagree with what 95% of them said. i don't NEED a spouse or children to be happy/complete/have a life. in fact, when i look around me, i'm happier than those who actually have a spouse and/or children. i'm also more well-rounded, have a life (other than work/home/work/home/work/home like my married colleagues) and do the things i enjoy. it seems like the age-old adage of 'marriage is the grave of love' can't be more true. so many happy couples i have seen, becoming less and less loving once they got married. it seems that the single act of marrying alters the whole relationship. when they do have children, their whole world revolves around the child(ren) and they no longer know who they are.

People have their own ways of being happy. I am happy with what I do. Others ae happy withat they earn. And so to speak, others are happy being with someone else. We are all different. That depends on how we want to live our life.

hi Ricki I was happy single and when I met the man I knew I was meant to marry I was happy in that marriage and now in my widowhood I am single and loving it.WE can be happy single we can be happy married and we can be happy widowed as we are the ones who decide we will be happy. It's up to us as to what we need and we all should realize nobody else can make us happy as we are the ones who make ourselves happy.What is great for one is not for another so I s ay whatever floats your boat and makes you make yourself happy thats the way yoi should live. With you its your love of animals and all your brats and being independent and single. We all have to make ourselves happy.Nobody can can do that for us.

I never understand how people do not see that different people are happy in different situations. For me, I am happy in a relationship. We have been together close to 14 years now. I couldn’t imagine a life without them. I do not try for friendships, they never seem to work out, I confide everything in my partner. Most people find it annoying that we rarely even disagree. It has made it difficult to be friends with other couples because of little things like that. As people said I could not truly be happy if I did not have a lot of female friends, if I did not flirt with other men, if I did not have children. They spoke of having a job to mainly be away from the husband. That always made me sad to hear, but I suppose it is not my life, so I could not understand. Until a couple of years ago, we did not have children. And we were perfectly fine with that. When our child came along, there were a lot of changes, but we are still happy with our life, I would not wish my life on anyone though, because it is a good fit for me, and perhaps not most people. I have known very strong women that were single and childless but had many friends and good strong careers. People assume they are not happy, not having a boyfriend, not having children, but to them, the strong friendships and experiences they have make them very happy in their life. People who are dissatisfied with their own lives sometimes take it out on other people. Sometimes, it could just be that they could not imagine themselves being happy in that particular situation.

Personally, I'd be happier if I have that special someone to share my life with. Someone to share your happiness, your adventures, sorrows and success with . But, if worse comes to worse, Im okay with me living without a partner so long as I have my kid with me .