Telling You It's Not Important

We're each allowed to have whatever feelings we may have and categorize them with whatever importance we feel they have. What you're feeling may not seem important to me if that is what I were feeling.. but I have different needs, wants, and stuff than you do. Nobody should ever de-value someone else's feelings.

I get it and agree with you wholeheartedly. I think that hurt more people than it was thought it would. Those who give others no thought at all before saying something that hurtful are doomed to failure. It's very, very sad.

Of course it is very annoying. People have their own priorities but they have no right to remark on another person's priority.What is important to one may not hold the same importance to the other.But if the the person were in your shoes and you tell them so, they won't like it. THe double standard that goes on!

I have come to the point that any person who thinks they know me better than I know myself id fooling themselves and they are wasting both of our time. Just today a Christian friend said I will come to Jesus in time. Ah ,No! Never and I told her so but she still thinks it is going to happen. She can wait but it will not happen! It is a great way to get me to avoid you. Just keep thinking like you know what I feel and see what happens!

Your feelings about something are not being validated. That is always annoying.

Yes that is hurtful. It happens quite a lot to a lot of people. My church is always been important to me, and no one ever understood. I don't have transportation to church and it really kills me.

This kind of behavior is like somebody refusing to validate you--to make you sound as if you're making a big deal out of nothing and that you need to get over it. Until they walk a mile in your shoes, they have no right to say this to you. Not most of the time, anyway. However, there ARE some whiners who are trying to turn something into a lawsuit like that old lady did with McDonald's when she scalded herself down there by putting the hot cup between her thighs.

Hello Ambie Pam. Yes, it is very annoying when something means a lot to me and someone else says it is not important. I believe each person has things special to him or her. It is not nice to have a beloved website change like has happened on My Lot.

Well I know some things that are important to me is not necessarily important to the next person, but when I come across someone who is telling me something important to him or her, especially someone who is important to me, I do listen and try to understand. For example my son and his minecraft games... I don't find it to be important, but he and and he wants to show and tell me all the stuff he made and can do. So instead of telling him it isn't important, I try to listen and understand, but I don't have the same feelings he does about it. I don't know what is going on with you, but you are important to me and have been there for me when I was down, so I would not tell you what you have to say isn't important. Which brings me to the MyLot issue. I guess some people are leaving and though I will come here and visit occasionally,maybe once a week at the most, and just watch and see what happens. I can't remember, I thought we exchanged addys, and there are two MyLot groups on FB. In other words, when the new MyLot comes out, attendance here will drop and I don't want to loss touch with some of my friends.

hi dear Ambie that really reminds me of the way my mother treated me when I announced I would get married. She didnt like the idea and didnt accept my future spouse at that time. So I was not to mention anything about it like bridal dress, church service and what ever. I remember that I once called her when the original plans didnt pan out and got the cold response, thats not important at all. Your aunt just has finished making dinner....... so that food on her plate mattered more than her only childs wedding.