Wishing to be a perfect girlfriend.

my best advice? (and i have been using this for YEARS now....with boyfriends....and even room mates...) If you get upset about something, sleep on it......don't make a big deal about it until 24 hours later. if it is STILL causing you aggravation after a day then it is time to confront the other party about it. 9 times out of 10 it is an emotional/hormonal response and will have subsided with in a day. if after 24 hours the issue is STILL upsetting you, that is when you sit down and have a RATIONAL conversation......i don't mean yelling and slamming of doors, but a sit down convo where both parties can give their perspectives. personally since i have adopted this idea, (8 or 9 years ago?) i have only had to actually have the "sit down convo" part of this like 2 or 3 times...

Hi Erynn, the first thing you want to do is to talk with your bf to know why he wants to break up with you. I think there must be a serious problems, you need to solve them. When you are anger, you can keep quiet for second minutes to calm yourself down. If you really do something wrong, you should say sorry to him instead of yelling to him. I hope this can help you.

why do he wants to break up? is there any reason behind it?

hmmm.. there's no such thing as a PERFECT girl friend because we are just humans and we are born to be imperfect. I think,you just have to control your temper, my boyfriend is short temper and every time we quarrel I always say that we should break up. Just, always think what we would feel and as much as possible be reasonable for your feelings =)

I very agree with what's @pree2013 said, a relationship become to broke up is not up to one side fault but for both, I think the important thing that now you need to do is change yourself, it seems that some of us would lost ourselves for sometimes when we falling in one relationship, the one of who is more care about the other one would be hurted, so just be yourself and do something that you like to do, I think it will be toward to the good way that we expect to~~

Hey Erynn, First of all, I want to tell you that this is the first time (online) I am sharing my personal experience and I am giving a relationship advice to someone who I don't know at all! Lol!! But I can understand your situation. Well, I have been in the same situation but mine is worse than yours. My bf recently lost his dad and he is very depressed these days. I am alone in another country and I am depressed too and we had a lot of arguments regarding that and he almost like 2-3 times told me that if you continue behaving like that we might not end up together in the future. He said to me 'Please understand my situation and please cooperate, I don't want to end our relationship and please be with me always.' And now I am feeling very bad I am disappointed in myself and when I think about it how I have behaved with him in these past few days-months, I hate myself sometimes. What I am doing is, spending more time reading books and talking with my friends and basically engaging myself into some work and kept thinking about how much we love each other and I will make him happy and never wanna let him go. These boys are very emotional when they are in true love. And now I don't call him whenever I feel like instead he text me and we speak in the evening every day and I actually am very happy and he is also happy with my behavior. I never thought I would do that for someone because I was used to talking to him for like 2-3 hrs continuously during the night and 30 min-1 hour in the day any time I want to. But now I have realized how much he means to me that I can change my habits for him. Trust me it's not easy but also not Impossible. I hope this helps you and all the best for the future dear. Regards, Pree