You have to stay all alone in your house.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58676)
Delhi, India
May 23, 2013 11:33pm CST
HI all!
Man is a social animal, so goes the saying. Man loves to live in a society and he normally loves to be surrounded by others. We all stay with our families and near and dear ones. Imagine a situation, where you are forced to stay in your house for entire one week without any family member(s) around you.
Will you be able to make it? Will you feel comfortable staying alone or after 2-3 days, you may start feeling bored, anxious or restless?
I would like you to share your experiences/views/apprehensions on this issue.
Thanks in advance.
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28 responses
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
24 May 13
I am one who really prefers to be alone in the house. I feel more in control of my time and my actions and don't feel that I need to be accountable to anyone. If the dishes don't get done for a day, I don't feel guilty, and if I choose to eat lunch at 3 in the afternoon, nobody will raise an eyebrow.
I don't feel anxious because there is nothing to be anxious about and I don't feel bored or restless because I rarely do, anyway, and know how to alleviate boredom by doing something different - going out to shop, visit a park or a museum or just pottering in the garden. If I feel that I need the company of people (which is rare), I may go out to the shops or to the pub and chat to anyone I meet and I can always phone friends and relations if I need to.
I am the Owl who Likes to Live by Himself!
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
24 May 13
@dpk262006 I do sometimes feel that I'm awake 24/7! Actually, I do sleep (and dream).
You might be interested to read some other people's comments on what I have said here:
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 May 13
@owlwings - I took inspiration from you and reproduced this -
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 May 13
Owlwings - It sounds interesting that you prefer to be all alone in the house because if you are alone you do not have to worry about others and their actions. You are right that when you are alone you can take your lunch or dinner, as and when you feel like or you could even 'skip' your meals and no body is going to ask you about it. I think you have become habitual of staying alone and you see it as normal thing.
You may term yourself as on owl but I feel you are a very matured owl who is alive and awake 24 x7.
Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts.
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@much2say (55515)
• Los Angeles, California
24 May 13
Do we get to be online during this time? Hee hee. I cannot recall a single day where I've been completely alone. There is always "someone" there, or at least "someone" around that I could see or talk to. And these days, with the internet or phone, I definitely would not feel alone.
If I were forced to be alone in this house, I guess it would all depend on the circumstances. If I know my family was being taken care of (hubby and the kids) and I could be worry free about them, then I would be ok with it. I actually like doing things on my own - alone - as I am a closet hermit. I can occupy myself - there is always something that needs to be done. I would probably see this as "opportunity" to be productive without any interruptions or distractions. Sure I would miss them greatly, but knowing I would see my family at the end of the week would keep me going.
But if there was cause to be worried about the status of my family, then it would be a different story. I would dread the entire week and be an emotional wreck. I think I could still occupy myself, but there would be no point in it if my mind was on wondering if hubby and the kids were ok or not. I'd feel trapped and alone for sure.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 May 13
[b][/b]much2say -
It is nice to hear that there is always someone around you. I think talking to someone on phone is different from being surrounded.
If your family is being taken care of then you do not worry staying alone.
It is interesting to hear that you like doing things on your own.
How come you consider yourself as 'hermit'?
I agree when one is alone, one could do things of his/her choice and could be productive.
It appears from your response that you are very caring, as far as your family is concerned and they must be proud of you.
Thanks for sharing your interesting views.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 May 13
@changjiangzhibin89 - could you stay alone?
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
25 May 13
Family always comes before everything ,no matter whether you are being on your own or whole family gets together happily.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
4 Jun 13
I almost here in my house alone for a month now when my youngest has to move to study her college in the big city where she was born and where she came from. So far I'm fine and very much contented even I'm alone I'm not lonely.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 13
@lynboobsy11 - Glad to see you here on mylot. It is interesting to know that as your younger one has moved from the house for her studies, you have been staying all alone and you do not find it problematic.
Thanks for joining and sharing.
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@allknowing (135966)
• India
24 May 13
I have absolutely no problem because I am never alone. I have fertile thoughts for company, I have my tv, my pc, my books, my music,my phone and if I may add my pet too. I don't think I will ever be alone that way.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 May 13
allknowing - Thanks very much for kick starting the post. It is interesting to hear that you could stay alone albeit in the company of non-humans i.e. your TV, PC and books and of course your music system. It means you are habitual of staying alone and it will not be a big thing for you.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
25 May 13
I simply can't imagine I stay in my house all alone as long as a week.I have never experienced that so far.Even though that way I may feel free and easy and I can surf the internet or do something with which I can relieve a dull time,all the same, I would feel as if I live in wilderness or I am in the grip of friendless feeling.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 May 13
It is OK changjiangzhibin89, it you cannot stay alone in a house. You are right that you could surf net, while staying along but you will miss the human company. Thanks for sharing.
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@TomatoMeans (22)
• Qingdao, China
24 May 13
Yep,most of people don't like live alone for a long time.Because they feel unaccustomed.
If we put a man in a single room as soon as he was born,I think he would be already feel normal.
But,this is so cruel! It couldn't be worse for a man's life
PS:It's hard for me to show my opinion!!!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 May 13
TomatoMeans - First of all welcome to mylot.
What you have said is not entirely untrue. Many people find it difficult to stay alone and they feel restless if there is no company around them. Hopefully you stay with others and you have not been staying alone.
Thanks for joining and sharing your views.
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@xiaolucy520 (18)
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25 May 13
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
24 Sep 15
Yep, when my kids are at the grandparents for the weekend. I am here by myself.
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
24 Sep 15
@dpk262006 I have done it for a week or more at a time. Usually they will go from my mom's house to their Aunt's.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 15
For how many days on an average your stay all alone? (when your kids are away). Do you feel comfortable staying alone?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 15
@rusty2rusty - Wow! Great! You are very bold and courageous.
@Archie0 (5652)
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28 Jun 16
I have lived alone for months almost with no one at all. I really felt better that time because I wanted to be away from everybody as I was into lot of stress and depression. And sometime it is really important to be away from everything and everyone. I have moved back to my parents house recently. But whenever I get some time to spend alone, I do travel back to another city and stay there alone for 2-3 days and sometimes even 4 days and I really feel so much better to be that way as I go and do shopping, eat what I want and sleep for long hours. It really feels so much better to be alone.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Jun 16
Welcome back to mylot!
It is great to hear that you have the guts to stay alone and whenever you get an opportunity, you go to some other city and you enjoy yourself because you feel liberated and you could sleep, eat and do other stuff without any interference.
For how many months did you stay alone?
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@Archie0 (5652)
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28 Jun 16
@dpk262006 I have my own house in a city far away from my house. It is like 2 hours long from my town. I don't stay for months. Before I stayed for like 5 to 8 months on my own. I had no to very little money for food and internet bills, but it was like I had locked myself and never went out. It was a different life. But now as my life has become little smoother and I work now I don't get much time to go and enjoy myself like I did before. I go for 4 to 5 days maximum and spend time with myself.
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@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
28 Jun 16
@dpk262006 Like how you wrote that. Guts to stay to alone. For some people that is so true. Being alone can be good for us but as @Archie0 said it is smooth to be working. I wonder depending on the job I guess if working out is getting out?
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 May 13
I have been in home since 2008. I have rarely moved out - except for the train journeys to Hyderabad for medical examinations and checkups. And since 2012, my wife has got posted in another city and as such, I am all alone confined in the house.
It has definitely made me depressed at times, I am pulled towards bad health and what not...
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 May 13
hi thesids - So you happen to stay alone by quirk of fate and you have become used to it. Thanks for sharing.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Sep 15
I don't have any problem with staying alone in the house for a day. There are moments when I enjoy loneliness
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 15
It is great to hear that you could stay alone in the house for a day. However, if you are required to stay for 4 days, will you be able to manage?
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 15
@swissheart - You are allowed to store your food but you will not have a luxury of any human being staying with you. Will it be fine?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
24 Sep 15
@dpk262006 probably yes but only if I had enough food because I wouldn't like to day of starvation
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@DooMLaZy (3)
• Ireland
24 May 13
I think personally after being alone stuck inside for maybe 2 days I would start to notice things a lot more, watch my back all the time. Every sound I hear in the house would scare me I'd be afraid its an intruder or something. One would feel lonely and restless. Some might say this response makes no sense because we live on our own a lot of the time. However, this is different, you can't leave your house for a whole week and when your on your own that feels like a lot of time.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 May 13
DooM LaZy - Oh I see if you are alone in your house you could feel scared by fake sounds. Don't feel that your response is odd or crazy. It is absolutely normal. A normal person would like to love in a company and you are not an exception. Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 May 13
@samtise - In brief you just cannot stay along in a house for a week, you would feel uncomfortable in this position. Thanks for sharing.
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@samtise (14)
• China
27 May 13
It seems an interesting topic, to be alone in one room is good for me if not so long time, yes That will get me a kind of retreat and refreshing! to some degree, It brings someone to stop to thing about what is to do next before going in a dash, but for sure , I will say no if it keep a long time , it will drive me mad, anyway sage is not me!
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
4 Oct 15
Is that with or without internet? I probably could make it if I had to. I would prefer to have my needs met, like enough food and if nothing goes wrong, like a water main break or something. Because I could easily take that time to write and in fact some writers go away on their own so they can write without distractions.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Oct 15
You are allowed to have internet facility. It is good that when you are alone, you will write something useful and it is interesting to hear that writers (like you) want to be left alone.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
19 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Then Yes! sign me up.
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@writerjo (2540)
• India
22 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Big brother show is coming to mind now .
I think an Indian Celeberity was acted in that .
But the moment will be intolerable for a person who is basically not reticent .
It will a peaceful stage for a person who loves isolation
I think I can be able to manage the situation , what I need is food , drink , computer , magazines like that ..
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 15
Big Boss or Big Brother show?
It means that you will be able to survive (read manage) if you are requires to stay 2-3 days alone in your house, of course you could have supply of food, drink and magazines etc. and PC with wi fi.
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@writerjo (2540)
• India
22 Sep 15
@dpk262006 I hope I am able to survive , in that sense ..
Of course PC without wi-fi
Big brother show is correct
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to: navigation, search Celebrity Big Brother ? ? Series 5 (2007) Housemates Name Entered Exited Shilpa Day 1 Day 26 Jermaine Day 1 Day 26 Dirk Day 1 Day 26 Ian Day 1 Day 26 Danielle Day 1 Day
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@Shyamalaa (525)
• Udaipur, India
22 Sep 15
I can spend a lot of time alone quite happily, but don't like to be alone all the time without any social interaction. My husband has to sometimes be on his own when I go visiting my children and doesn't like it either. The problem is that we don't have much to do in our town other than work, and that is one reason for not liking it when alone.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
22 Sep 15
@dpk262006
Maybe it would be okay for a few days but for me not any longer than that.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 15
It is not difficult to stay alone all the day and to be with yourself. My question was - if you are required to stay alone in your house for 2-3 days, will you feel comfortable or will you able to manage?
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
30 Sep 15
I just hate to be alone in a house; recently I had some work in my native town and had to go. I hated the thought of going and staying alone there for the minimum time possible too.However, God intervened and my son had a friend's wedding reception there on the same day. So I had to spend only one day all alone and that day was filled with so much of activity that I managed to stay alone.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 15
You do not like to stay alone in the house (I think most of us do not like to stay alone, who have grown up in a joint family system). It is good to hear that when you were to stay alone, an event took place in between and you could manage your stay at your native place.
To your second comment - It is an old discussion (2013) which I suggested to my friends (though 'suggest' option). Family is with me and I am with family.
@shaggin (72110)
• United States
22 Sep 15
Oh man that really sounds terrible to me. I would be so sad and lonely. I honestly hate the time I'm alone while my kids are at school because I miss them so much. I would be so sad if I had to be apart from them for a week. I am going to have the worlds worst case of empty nest syndrome someday when my children are old enough that they are grown and live on their own. Although they think that will never happen I know the day will come. I hated living with my family I moved out very soon after I turned 18 and I'd never go back.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 15
This is exactly what a normal person would feel, if she is asked to stay alone. I can understand that you get so much involved with your kids that you feel a void without their presence.
Please do not worry about future or the scenario when your children will leave you and will start living separately. By that time many changes will take place and you would acquire more patience to stay alone.
Thanks for sharing your candid views.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
31 May 13
TheRealDawn - You seem to be very bold as you could stay alone in house for at least 3 days. But 7 days' time seems longer for you..
Thanks for sharing and joining us.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 13
@dpk262006 I like my alone time, but I like being with people too. I could do a week alone, but not too much longer...
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 15
It means that you cannot stay alone at a stretch for more than one day. After spending one day alone in your home, next day you will rush at the mall to enjoy yourself.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 15
@SIMPLYD - Yes, this is what I was trying to convey that it is difficult to stay alone for few days and one starts feeling lonely and depressed.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Yes, that's because being alone in the house for many days would already give me negative feelings .
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
26 Sep 15
I would be absolutely fine, just a tad lonely. No problems as I enjoy the peace.
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@ashuli (1196)
• India
22 Sep 15
@dpk262006 ohhh no I will never be able to make it, sorry I will try to find as many reasons to stop my family from leaving me alone...
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
22 Sep 15
Don't worry we are not asking you to stay alone in your house.. It was just a thought/a question which was shaped into a discussion.
We wish that you are not required to stay alone in the house ever for 2-3 days at a stretch.
Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 15
@ashuli - Means for you it is even difficult to stay alone for one day? and by chance you are forced to stay alone for 3-4 days, God knows what will happen to you.
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