Life Ends After 30...
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
Canada
June 3, 2013 9:06am CST
I feel like I don’t want kids. I've felt like this since I was in the second grade and I still feel fairly passionate about it. I get a nervous and gross feeling in the pit of my stomach when I think about having kids and therefore don’t want them. I dont dream of a future family but at the same time it would be nice to have people to do that stuff with. Maybe my extended family could hold thta place in my heart for me...:s
But after 30 if all your friends and family are on that path, isn't your path to not do those things lonwly and therefore pointless?
My ex boyfriend and roomate are both 25 and see their fun years over and already see their lives as serious. Like school or work is the most important things....
What's your take on this subject?
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5 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
4 Jun 13
Welcome here on mylot.
You see it is your life and you could choose not to have kids or go for a life partner. Only thing which you should keep in mind is - every situations will have its pros and cons. If you are without kids you will have lots of freedom and spare time to spend, however, if you have kids all your life will start revolving around them.
Also, whatever decision you take do not ever repent it about it in life. What kills us at a later stage - guilt feeling of taking a 'decision'.
All the best. Enjoy your life.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 13
@melinda2008530 - I agree with what you have stated. Hopefully, you enjoy your life to the fullest.
@melinda2008530 (65)
• Wenzhou, China
5 Jun 13
Life is too short to worry about stupid things. Have fun. Fall in love. Regret nothing, and don't let people bring you down.
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@melinda2008530 (65)
• Wenzhou, China
6 Jun 13
@dpk262006 I am happy that you like the words.In fact,it's quoted from somewhere. It is beautiful words that can warm our hearts.
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@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
4 Jun 13
i am just about to turn 33......and a female.....i have be very serious about the notion that i do not want to have children since i was about 23.....it has nothing to do with not wanting to settle down and be responsible...(my friends with children still come to me with advice, ask for help, and refer to me as "mother beth" because that is the persona i have. I am a very "mothering" person...just don't want kids of my own. Which is why it has worked out great with me and my current boyfriend. He is slightly older than me, but his kids are already adults....that works great for me....he doesn't want ay more children...and i still have an extended family..(who is now busy having grandchildren!) to commune with...
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@spirit5257 (4)
• Tianjin, China
6 Jun 13
you seems so great~you don't have your own children,but you still love your life and enjoy your life~wish you great happiness~
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jun 13
Oh my gosh, my mother-in-law used to take her son aside and ask him "which one of you has the problem?" Because heavens it can't be that we didn't want to have children the first second we were married...
I think it's a private topic, and you should just give them the glare if they pester you and say something like "why would we want to discuss such a private topic"....
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32697)
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Jun 13
i want to have kids but i am not ready yet at this moment. we are mortals and kids are like our biological replacement,
well you have nephews and nieces and they will be your kids.
@melinda2008530 (65)
• Wenzhou, China
3 Jun 13
I am new here and this is my first response here. Actually,I also feel confused about the marriage.Since most of my friends have already been married and have had their children,I am still single.I feel nervous and don't know how to do? I feel Sorry that i can't give you suggestions. Do hope we can find our path correctly and make it meaningful.
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
4 Jun 13
Im happy you chose my discussion to use your first comment xp
