My friend's controllling obsession with my finances and choices is ruining our friendship.

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I have friend who I thought was my best friend for 20 years who is obsessed with my finances, goals and choices I make. I'm single with no kids and live alone. I started working at 16 and became disabled in my late 20's and began receiving Social Security benefits. I'm now in my early 30's. I moved back to our hometown 2 years ago and it has been a nightmare since. She hates the fact I'm on disability. She hates that I can't currently work. She always say "Get a job". She also judges every decision or choice I make and compares her life to mine. She's even still mad because I didn't want a apartment in her building 2 years ago. I just recently had to junk my only vehicle due to costly needed repairs and she won't let up on that either. She is constantly on my back and in my business and I'm sick of it. After I junked my car, she started a argument and now says she wants a break from me and she will call me occasionally. That's fine because I've had it with her, but I don't get the issues with her. I pay my own bills, not her. I don't ask her for nothing, but she acts like I owe her a explanation for everything I do. She has two friends that have never worked who live off of their parents, but she never says anything to them. I've been on disability for awhile. Its not my choice to be disabled, but I'm not physically able to work right now. She expects me to listen to everything she says. I've been a good friend and frankly I'm hurt that she just ditched me because I don't have a job. My finances should not affect her as we aren't a couple and do not live together. We have been friends 20 years. What more can I do.