why it's end up that i become the complainer?

Shanghai, China
July 11, 2013 9:37pm CST
Recently my roommate always complains to me . " I can't stand my boss, i don't like my job, if i were balabala....." I just want to cry to her " just quit it and stop complain to me !" but i can't do that, i feel sorry to her and all her words make me feel negative. After that i have to complain to another friend. I kind of lost myself in a vicious circle. What shoud i do? I do not want to lose this friend but i can not bear the complaints any more.
2 responses
• United States
12 Jul 13
It is strange how being around someone with a negative attitude can really start to rub off on you, isn't it? Keep in mind though, it works in reverse as well. I recommend spending some time with some good friends who have good, positive attitudes and let their attitudes rub off on you for a while to wash away the negativity from your roommate and thus "re-center" yourself.
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• Shanghai, China
13 Jul 13
Yes, i think you are right, i'll give it a try. Thanks a lot!
• Shanghai, China
12 Jul 13
why not solve your friend's question,don't avoid it
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• Shanghai, China
13 Jul 13
I have tried to give her some suggestions when she complained to me. But it seems like she did not need it. She just wants someone to listen to her complaint and that she may feel better. I just don not know how to help her to solve her problem, and i doubt wheather she knows want she want.