How to stop loving someone?
@nayo25 (30)
Sri Lanka
September 27, 2013 9:46am CST
Ok, so my boyfriend, we'll call him "M", loves me and I have recently discovered I am in love with him. Actually IN love. And my friend, we'll call him "D", is cute. Now, here's the problem:
Me and D are going to be shooting a movie together (small movie, we wrote the script). My character is supposed to have a crush on his, and his on mine. Now, we have discussed this together that it is ONLY acting, and anything that happens in the movie is for acting purposes only. But when we talked on the phone together (for like 2 hours, might I add) he replied "or will there?" to me saying "nothing is going to happen between us". And I laughed, thinking it was a joke, but he apparently didn't. In that phone conversation, he admitted to me that when he first saw me (he didn't know I had a boyfriend) he had a crush on me. And foolishly, I admitted the same to him.
My boyfriend, M, loves me a ton. He gave me a beautiful braclet with my name on it, and he's a bit overprotective of me. But that just means he loves me. Right? Right. Anyways, his relative just died and he had to visit another country for the funeral. Now, I am NOT going to break up with him just to be with D. If I do, he'll be heartbroken for two reasons: his relative, and me. And the whole school will gossip about it. And that means chaos. Utter. Chaos.
So, I'm trying to not like D. Any tips as to how I can do this? I see him almost every day at school, he's part of a small movie studio (group of friends studio) with me, and we talk on the phone a lot. I don't want to distance myself from him, that would make him feel weird and keep asking me "why are distancing yourself from me?".
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@blackbeauty16 (2)
• Jacksonville, Florida
29 Sep 13
Well first you should tell d straight up tht you dnt think its a good idea to tlk on the phone anymore and tht he should bak off a little if you really love m like you say you do, u would drop the feelings u have for d and just be with m, nd help him with the pain that hes tryin to cope with rite now. The last thing u want to do is hurt him even more. He loves you alot!
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@almostsir (10)
• Zhejiang, China
28 Sep 13
Are you sure that you loved D? In my opinion, you should keep D at arm's length until you think out who is that guy...you must make a choice or you will hurt them ,of course ,and yourself...
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
27 Sep 13
Do you ever post your own content or has plagiarism always been a habit of yours. Are you even human? O.o
2 Answers (question resolved) - Posted in topics: friend, love, boyfriend, loving, friends, movie - Answer: If you are sure that M is the right guy ...
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@xiaohongxiaohong (340)
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27 Sep 13
If you ask how to stopping loving D, I think you love your boyfriend more than D, maybe you just like him, not reach the love level. I suggest you can make clear to D that you already have a boyfriend, but it doesn't mean you must distance D, you can treat him as a friend.
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@knhandbag (9)
• Shenzhen, China
28 Sep 13
so ,the point is that who you want to be your friend or lover,ignore others ,just you decide it !
then think what you as a lover should do ,or what as a friend ?
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