Why so defensive?
By Red Curtis
@redspot (64)
Citrus Heights, California
November 2, 2013 8:49pm CST
Why is it when a person gets caught in a lie doe they seem to get so defensive and not just admit they were wrong? It's seems to me if you give a reason for something and that reason is found to be untrue or without merit then that wasn't the reason at all. If people didn't say anything then they wouldn't have to backtrack and give another reason or get defensive when proven untrue. It doesn't have to escalate into an argument if people just admit they were wrong or that they shouldn't have said or done what they did to begin with. Better yet just stop lying to make your point and tell the truth or don't say anything at all. Like my mom always said " if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" and lying is far from being nice.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
3 Nov 13
Most people have some weird issue with admitting to mistakes. Some people are so scared of being imperfect that they'll lie to cover their butts and then continue to lie even after they get caught. It really peeves me off.
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@redspot (64)
• Citrus Heights, California
3 Nov 13
That is one of the best things I have read in some time now. It seems that people may not understand that it gets harder to trust even the simplest things spoken if it is commonly untrue. Self preservation may be the one thing that can help a person and yet hurt a person at the same time. If people just took one second to respond then less people would use energy in motion (emotion) as a response and start using logic or truth making the world a better place. But then again I can practice what I preach and become a better person too.
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
4 Nov 13
I totally understand what you are saying with this, after being lied to for the majority of my relationship, I tend now to despise liars. I don't lie myself but have asked myself the same question that you are asking now and came to the conclusion that the lie is to either hide something worse or that they are just uninteresting and need to make something up so that they can get attention. No one likes to be caught out in a lie, that is why they would get defensive because the guilt of being caught lying is just as bad as the lie itself.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
4 Nov 13
You see everyone is different. Admitting mistakes is not everyone's cup of tea. People do not easily admit their mistakes and try to shift the blame on others. Admitting mistakes does not belittle them, they forget this point.
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@jewcial (135)
• Shanghai, China
3 Nov 13
I can say i do not lie in 24 hours,but who can say i never ever lie in the whole lifetime , it's really impossible , maybe only saint could do that ,go to ur question why they were founded lied become so defensive.U just put urself in their situation ,why u lie ? there must be worse or u maybe get losing sth if u do not lie , so can u understand them why so defensive ?they defence their profit or dignity or status in their area ,in China ,we call it face which human being spend their whole lifetime to fighting for !
Do u satisfy with me ,my bro
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@zc_enrique (6)
• Shanghai, China
6 Nov 13
Lying is far from being nice.I totally agree with you. Sometimes it is easier to lie than to explain or just say sorry, but you have to lie 10 times your lies to lie your lie. So better admit it.
