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I think I know what you mean. You & your friend both 'love God' (that is, you do everything you do for a higher purpose than either of you know ... you don't want to make her suffer, but you don't want to help her if it'll cause you to suffer---I know it sounds selfish, but it's how everyone is (deep-down) ) I know, it kinda hurts---the 'mind-shift' that happens when you realize "you're not in the position you thought you were" (you thought you were moving directly to the center when you're actually still just circling `round the edges) ... when you thought you were 'on a mountain-climbing team,' when your "teammate" really just thinks of you as an 'interactive grappling-hook' and not as "a whole other PERSON same as them trying to get up the mountain" All you can do is just 'remember who you are yourself' ("a child of the Most-High" maybe, but definitely 'who you live with,' 'what THEY think you are' and 'what you DO.' (For instance, me: I live alone, but spend most of my time with people in my family at family-'get together's & -with people I know from church. And so it seems like what most of them do is 'rest peacefully'---and ya know, have fun. So that's what I do all day: have fun making sure things are at-rest in the right places.)