When Do You Stop Giving to Your Boyfriend?

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He is just a boyfriend, there are no commitments yet, there is no engagement ring, no telling if you two will really end up in the altar in the end... I once put up a post here. My boyfriend's financial condition is terrible. His mom (who had stroke) was finally discharged from the hospital. He needed to file a loan just to get his mom out of the hospital (and the interest for lending is 20%), he had no other resources to turn to. He has already sold everything he's got. He has resigned from his job so that he could focus on taking care of his mom. (Actually, i feel like he feels guilty for not being there when his father died, he wasnt around when his father died and he couldnt bare the trauma of not being beside his mom when her time comes). HIs budget is coming low and may not able to sustain his mom's medications. I had given him financial assistance. Sometimes i even buy the medications for his mom. But i cant do this forever. He said he just wants his mom to get back on her feet so that he could focus on getting a job abroad. Ok fine... Work abroad, i say... but where will you get the money for the placement fee? From me? Again? I want to help him but i have my needs too... I have credit cards to pay... loans to pay... I told him i cant handle it anymore. And there is also this fear that he might just be ripping me off... Till when should i stop? A part of me feels guilty should i drop him like a hot potato, just when he needed me most. Honestly, there is also this part of me saying that "nah.. he doesnt need you. All he focuses on now is his sick mom, he just needs your money." If i do help him with that placement fee, i would really be back to scratch... and no telling if he would really come back to me when he works abroad. What if he is just using me? What if we really arent meant to be? I am risking my hard-earned money just for this? Is my boyfriend really worth it all? Should you reply... please be gentle ok... I am very open to your opinions...