Anybody Could Help Me?

Foshan, China
February 26, 2014 7:22am CST
I have broken up with my boyfriend for about a week,but I still miss him so much. Since the day when we broke up,we haven't said a word.We just like strangers and don't know each other.This makes me feel so upset. I always think that we can't be lovers, but we can at least be friends.In fact,it's just my wishful thinking.He said we could be friends,but I clearly know that he never wants to. It's just a white lie,isn't it?It's such a pity we can't be friends any more.We have so much wonderful memories and we know each other so well,but we just can't be together because of the family reasons. How I wish he could hear my voice and know how I feel,but at the same time,I don't want to bother him,because I understand it's no easy for him to let go that relationship.It's such a real dilemma for me. Everyday,I just can't help thinking why we can't be friends again?Does he think it's embarrassing to be my friend and don't know how to get along with me as a friend?These questions bother me so much that I can't sleep well every night. Anybody could help me solve this problem?
1 response
Johnny Greybeard
@johnnygreybeard (180)
• United States
27 Feb 14
Hi Cindy Chow, There's probably too many emotions involved. Perhaps on both parts. He could have another friend that prefers he distance himself, maybe not. I'm sure there were some circumstances as to the breakup. Being younger, it's only natural, usually ,not to let go easily. Even being friends may be difficult. Maybe focusing on your own goals will be more productive. Many of my younger years, I was certain I needed a girl in my life. One day, I started to think the distraction of my girlfriends was interfering with the way I needed to focus. Don't misunderstand me, I usually had a few female's in my life, but kept my emotions in check, and discovered that a loose rein was good. Instead of smothering, or being a controlling person, I let them be whoever they wanted. If I did not accept whatever behavior they had, I simply distanced myself, and carried on with my life. I did not get hurt so much like this. Try to take it easy and focus on yourself. It will get better!
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cindy chow
@cindymeimei (39)
• Foshan, China
27 Feb 14
Yeah,you are right.I have to focus on myself and start a new life.As time goes on,maybe one day we will forget each other and the misable feeling will disappear.So, I have to move on. I have to be strong and be better. Though I can't let go the relationship right now,I will try my best. At last,thank you so much for giving me some sugesstions.You are such a nice people.Thanks.
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