What to do with this relationship?
By biach17
@biach17 (196)
Philippines
March 5, 2014 2:21am CST
Okay, im in a marriage for 10 years. We are still in early months of 2014, my hubby and I fight like many times these months. I hate it. We are okay for 2 days and we arguing silently like 5 days. it so uncomfortable. We'd get okay after making love...ALWAYS like this. Issues and problems aren't answered because after the sex we ignored the problems and if the issue arises again we'll start arguing again and again and again....Im tired and im helpless maybe he's too. I know what should i do but i am scared whatever will come up after talking...
Please let me know what to do....do we need counseling? what status of marriage we are in?
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7 responses
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
5 Mar 14
Too much of anything is not a good thing. Arguing is one of those things. Too intense or too much can damage a relationship. Having said that keep in mind that some arguing is actually good for a relationship. In fact, without some release of natural conflicts I think it would be safe to say a marriage would be in trouble from lack of it. Love making is good.
Should there be a separate time set aside for facing life issues? This is debatable. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. We can not always expect to find instant or long term solutions to some issues. True or false?
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Mar 14
I think you've gotten in a bad habit of not confronting problems, and it's going to eventually drive you nuts unless you speak up. But some of it depends on him, and if you speak up, is he going to have a conversation with you?
@RyanViola (76)
• New York, New York
7 Mar 14
I think this is quite common scene in every true relation. You fight, you get close, you forget its a part of a relation. One think, please try to take out the decision and final result in your fights, which will surly make your relation more healthy. Go with the relation and live your life for one other then it will be more easy for you.
@mylady_crystal (7)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 14
if both of you care this relationship, then talking in clam. at least you had tried to save the problems. if don't work, may be just let him go.
@AngelLoliGennie (26)
• China
5 Mar 14
Try to talk and communicate in a calm way to make the problem solved, if still failed then try to say this in a tactful tone and also when you both are in good mood. Good luck!
@fire_boy (4)
• Changhua, China
5 Mar 14
I think the best way talking with each other throughly,and got we you both really thinking,and try to solve it,if doesn't work and you will have no pity
@angielou123 (2)
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5 Mar 14
I feel a 3d party would be good for you guys. You can both get your point across then with an outsider to tell you the bigger picture. If you still feel love for your husband then it must be worth a try. Both stay calm and when an arguement arises try and have a discussion instead of a row. Imagine what life would be like if you where single, would you be happier?
