Are you satisfied with who you are? / myLot

Maseru, Lesotho

April 22, 2014 4:41am CST

At birth all children are potential geniuses. You are what have been imparted in you through all three forms of education which started with your parents, then your teachers and pastors and finally other social institutions. All have contributed in making you a good person or indirectly hurt you and impacted you negatively. The fact that as an adult there are principles that you do not agree with pertaining to parenting, indicates that you have to look critically of who you have become as a result of socialization. You modified your parents’ rules when you started a family so that you can weed out things you do not approve of or do not express your current perception of your chosen lifestyle. The question is, have you really undertaken this exercise with intention to remodel you? If not, please do yourself a favor; it pays to attend to minor details. Roses look beautiful and smell very nice; but they have thorns. So, have you discovered your thorns? You may not be able to change all flaws, but it will surely help you to know them as weaknesses and be watchful to not unconsciously allow them to spoil your efforts for better you. For example, if you cannot tolerate arguments, you will be careful not to put yourself on the sport. Rather you will try and find out why and hopefully identify that you could be a controlling person who wants to be right all the time. Such discovery may help reveal unresolved anger which when dealt with, will enable you to draw people to you and not repel them. I feel it is ideal to evaluate who you are versus who you would like to be. The process is liberating and will surely impact you positively. When you are aware of your shortcomings, you will not be so critical of other people. You will always note with compassion those flaws and find positive ways of interacting with others.

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StevexNxMonkey

@StevexNxMonkey (10)

• Pensacola, Florida

22 Apr 14

Very good conversation you have started here! I can't agree more with you. Perfect example I think in my own life about this would be Not really liking someone because of how I viewed them punishing their child. Where I saw borderline abuse they say teaching a lesson and not abuse.. In fact to this very day I try and incorporate some of the punishments they did with their child into how I deal with mine because of the outcome of the punishments executed. Their child is amazing,well driven,well behaved,super smart and such a sweet kid... I was not punished as a kid, okay maybe twice in my life...So you could see how I would feel real punishment was abuse.. I am glad I learned this lesson in life before mine grew up unruly because there was no punishments or consequences in the home...And that falls to the next thing I am thankful about.. To have the mind to NOT follow my parents parenting. I guess as generations come and go different things come and pass. The way kids are raised these days are not how kids were raised back then I hear this all the time. However I was not a live back then so how do you expect me to raise my kids that way... All i do I learn by watching others and also by trying different punishments to see what works with my kids and what does not........ As far as learning you're own weaknesses and strength plays a big part in your life I do agree with that as well. For instance say a female has a few guys she is into and all are into her.. If she knows her weakness is guys that have huge muscles piercings and tattoo's but they have never turned out to be anything but bad for her. She will be able to remind herself. This is my weakness,I can choose to over look this and fall victim to giving in or I can realize this is no good for me and move on oppose to someone who really has not identified their weakness and makes the same mistake over.. Being in tune with your body and who you are will always be more helpful in life rather then ignoring it.

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