Domestic violence and why they choose to stay

Women stay for many reasons....Often they grew up in an abusive household and don't think or know they are deserving of more. Many are also fearful for their life and the lives of the children...they have already tried to leave or report it and the fears of being hurt were confirmed....this is compounded when the abuser is also a member of law inforcement... Too many times they have no place to go...domestic violence shelters rarely have a open bed to take someone in..a very sad statistic indeed. Men are less likely to admit the are victems because of the macho stigma involved. If you know a family that is in danger encourage them to leave...if you have a cell phone you no longer use..donate it to your local domestic violence shelter or charity. They can activate the phone and hand it out to people at risk so they have the means to dial 911... If you have have uneeded ot unused household items...you can donate those as well.. Most often those fleeing domestic violence leave with nothing but the close on their back snd they cannot return to collect any of their belongings...if they are still there to even collect...the abuser usually destroys everything. Never ever look away....call 911...call CPS...call the local law enforcement...you may be saving someone's life.

i have no idea there are places to go to and help is provided its not the end of the world but its mostly the fact that they dont want people to know that they are a poor judge of character

I think a lot of it has to do with self esteem. On some level they must feel they are worthless, and hopeless and deserve their treatment. I also think its a power thing. The abuser is showing their dominance over the victim and the relationship and it must be hard to break free of that. Fear would play a big factor. I watched my mum get belted up for most of my childhood, but she is still with the guy. Pftt.

I don´t know who suffers more... If the woman or the child. That kinda people don´t respect what others call home so they make their own territory like lions and beat anything they came across... They should all be locked in prison. I think women choose to stay because mostly of their children and the fear to be beaten or murdered...

they do not stay because they want to,fear is a strong emotion,you have to be there to understand,but the minute that you get the chance you go,but still live in fear of being found.

Abusers spend a large amount of time closing the woman's world off. He cuts off all avenues of escape. In fact, if you want to know why they stay, ask yourself why most prisoners don't try to escape from prison. The risks of trying are very real (the difference is she wasn't sentenced to her prison because of a crime; she just made a mistake). The price of trying to leave can be worse than staying, or at least equally bad. She is between a rock and a hard place.

a lot of women don't really accept that the abuse is happening...obviously it is happening, but somewhere in their mentality its justified in a way. they think that their husbands still love them and will get better. other times, they are scared to do anything about the abuse because they feel that the abuse might get worse or that the husband will try to harm the kids. it's one thing to realize a situation, but it's another to do something about it. my friend was in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship a few years back..and i would tell her all the time that it's not healthy to be in the relationship. she realized what was going on but her answer was always "but i love him." it took her nearly 2 years to figure out that she was just getting hurt and shouldnt be in the relationship anymore.