Good to Evil is Easy. Vise Versa? I dunno...

"I'm thinking of running away, but then I'll have to be mean forever..."
Toyonaka, Japan
July 23, 2015 10:00pm CST
So, I used to think being mean or "evil" was cool and would make me popular. And it did. I was the most hated but at the same time most loved person at school. Most of my friends, despite being sweet themselves and not like me at all, adored it. But now I want to change. I don't really want to be hated anymore by half the school. I want to tell my friends, especially my BFF, but it's so hard. What if they don't like me anymore? What if my crush, Hiroshi Kaga, doesn't like me anymore? I don't know what to do! Advice, anyone? I'm thinking of running away, but then I'll have to be mean forever...
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
24 Jul 15
Sounds like you were a victim of peer pressure. You felt the need to fit in. And so you became a mean girl and tried to be cool. The problem with that is that no one likes a bully and everyone will remember you as a bad person in years to come. The best thing to do is to be yourself. Don't try and be like others and forget about fitting in. You are your own person.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
25 Jul 15
@simply_hana You're welcome. I hope you will be yourself now.
• Toyonaka, Japan
25 Jul 15
Yeah. Thanks...I needed that. :)
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@MusesM (584)
24 Jul 15
if you want to change,just change.be yourself,who care what other people might think.why do you so care about other's opinion.if they dont like real you,that's their problem not yours
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• Toyonaka, Japan
24 Jul 15
Yeah...thanks for the advice. :)
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@MusesM (584)
25 Jul 15
@simply_hana i might believe mean person will looks cooler,but who likes mean person?i know i dont:)
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 15
I think you choose the incorrect path of behaving as an 'evil' person to get popularity. May be you did not consult any sane person, before choosing that path. I feel it is not easy to change your image quickly. It will take some time (may be months) before someone could say that you are no more an evil person. However, it is said - [/b][/i]"it is never too late to mend"[b][i]. So you could mend your ways and if you turn nice to everyone, they will gradually start accepting you as a good person. All the best.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
24 Jul 15
Real friends won't expect you to keep acting like something you're not. You have to stop caring what everybody else thinks if you really want to change.
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• Toyonaka, Japan
24 Jul 15
That was my initial thought, but my maybe ex-friends will believe me and everyone else in the school won't. :) Thank you for the advice, however.
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• United States
24 Jul 15
as another said....just be you..friends will adjust/follow along....and is your "crush" only liked you when you were acting/portraying yourself a certain way, then maybe he shouldn't have been a crush to begin with. you need to be YOU...and people will love you for that.....
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
25 Jul 15
People tend to put people in grooves even at their first encounter. You have a difficult job on hand to change that.
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@springs (923)
• India
24 Jul 15
HI..
@much2say (55675)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Sep 15
@simply_hana -san Running away solves nothing - you run away only from the people but take with you the pain of unresolved issues. If you are making changes to better your life, then no one can say anything. You will then see who your friends really are - and hey, maybe you will influence some of them will make changes for the better too! You show Kaga-san your true colors and surely he will show you his - you will know in time if it was meant to be. But most of all, you have to be true to yourself - it's YOUR life, deshou?