She is going to have a rude awakening
@ricki_911 (21625)
Toronto, Ontario
August 13, 2015 7:36pm CST
My sister had just called me a few minutes ago, I just want to know what type of world does she live in. Her boyfriend of 15 years and her just bought a house. Now it's their first house, and they have never lived together in the time they have dated. He lives at his parents, and she basically moved in. When she doesnt want to deal with him she went back to my parents house.
Now neither of them have lived away from home, and paid a bill together. So they buy a $850,000 house together. She keeps calling me to rub it in my face, well I just tell her good luck because if he leaves, or one of you looses your job you wont have a house.
This house has 6 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms and all upgrades granite counters, and so forth. They added an extra $100,000 upgrade to the house. They are having it built from scratch, and will be ready in Decemember.
Why I say she will have a rude awakening not only did they buy this ridiculous price house for her and her boyfriend only. They have nothing for the house, nothing but a bed. She thinks people are going to buy everything for the house for them. I said I'll buy you a spoon, they asked for a $3,000 leather chair and coach set.
They are in a dream world, and I'm ignoring them completely. She keeps making comments about what I have yet, I can say I bought everything I own by myself and don't depend on a guy to pay my bills like her. I may have plates from Walmart but they are just the same as the $200 set she wants.
I can't wait until she gets possession of the house in a few months, an realizes what it means to actually pay for a bill and not buy new clothes with the entire paycheque.
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@Letranknight2015 (51938)
• Philippines
14 Aug 15
She's not being practical and financially wise, a bit immature too. Not only that she would suffer for the most remainder years of her life if the bf choose to break up with her and she will end up with absolutely nothing.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
14 Aug 15
My point, but when she rubs it into my face this house she bought. But I have been practical in what I can afford by myself. She budgetted on just the two incomes, now if he leaves, or they break up. They have been together for 15 years and no committment together which is a big red flag.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
14 Aug 15
Um...that's crazy! When me and the hubby went house hunting, we knew what we were looking for: 3 bed, 2 bath and under $200,000. We got lucky with our spacious condo with a 3 bed and 3 bath and under $200,000. The HAO is through the roof though and we had a roomate for quite some time as a "just in case." Now he's moved out and were fine thankfully.
6 bedrooms for just the 2 of them? Why?! And does she know she actually has to clean that humongous house or can they afford a maid too?
Look I am not trying to be rude or sound jeloues. Good for them. But like you said if 1 of them loses a job, then bye bye house. And they aren't even married right? What if they decide things aren't working and 1 of them leaves. Seems very risky. I hope it works out for them
Ps: Tell them not to expect people to buy them outrageously priced house warming gifts unless all of there friends are super rich.
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@allknowing (135966)
• India
15 Aug 15
This reminds me of our cousin who put all his savings and bought property. They could not even afford to have a square meal after that. Your sister has done a foolish thing. And it is not nice that she disturbs your peace.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
18 Sep 15
I think it was our ancestors' hope for one of their future-generations to ... live like that (have everything paid-for and to not have to worry about it). I'm sure she's got all the finances figured-up; and--if something falls-through--you and your family can help I'm sure.
@jstory07 (139508)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Aug 15
That is an awful lot of money to pay fo0r a house. they should have got a smaller cheaper one.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
18 Aug 15
I got myself a small 2 bedroom 1 bathroom as it's just me and the animals. It suits my needs. But they both need the best and biggest. But when she keeps calling basically trying to guilt me into buying her something expensive that wont happen.
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@jstory07 (139508)
• Roseburg, Oregon
18 Aug 15
@ricki_911 wwe are downsizing to a smaller house next year after my husband retires.
@stine1online (835)
• Germany
14 Aug 15
Uhm, how old is she?
And his her boyfriend 15 years old or are they together for 15 years?
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
18 Aug 15
They are both 28 (well she is 28 he will be 28 in the fall). They have been dating for 15 years.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
14 Aug 15
I just can't imagine spending that much money on a house, let alone a first house. Plus, building a house for your very first residence is a lousy idea, in my opinion, anyway. Especially if they've never really lived together. Regardless of how long you've been together, living together is different. Seeing each other 24/7 with no escape except work and errands is a whole different game than living separately.
What happens if he's messy and she's tired of cleaning up after him? What if he's neat and is tired of her mess?
Have they thought about all the effort that goes into owning a house? It's not just buying it. It's maintaining it. We have 7 rooms, 2 baths in our house. Bought it as a fixer-upper (also don't recommend that for your first house, by the way). There are just normal maintenance things that you have to do to keep up its appearance, fix things as they break, or perform maintenance to hopefully prevent things from breaking. Plus cleaning! My goodness, my house isn't really all that big, despite having a lot of rooms, and it's a real chore trying to keep it clean.
It sounds like they haven't considered the cost of furnishing it, either, which is a HUGE cost. You would't think so, but all the little things add up quickly. It's not just the furniture, which is expensive in and of itself, but it's all the things you use in daily life that you wouldn't necessarily thing about.
I hope everything turns out well for them. It's great that they're moving in together and that they're getting their own house, but they sound woefully unprepared as to what that truly means or the responsibility they're undertaking. Hopefully they realize and start to understand before it's too late and something goes awry.
