Parents need to change with time...

Every child is supposed to need their own space when they grow up:)

Hello Kiran! I think both are right a their own place. A mother who has brought up his son since his childhood feels disheartened to know that after marriage the very son, whom he brought up with lots of care and affection wants to leave him to stay with his wife. She should not be blamed for his stubbornness because she might be feeling insecure once she is left without her son. If we look at the problem from son's point of view. His stand would also seem correct in the sense that it is practical to stay in an accommodation, which is near to your work place. Commuting to office from home and from office and home could make one feel more tired, specially when the work place is far away from home. I feel the son needs to convince her mother before moving out and made her aware about the practical problems. He should assure her that their bonding/relations with remain intact even if he lives in a separate house. I see no logic in the point that he wants freedom and no interference from his mother. (I feel it is kind of disrespect to elders (mother/parents). To my mind, after all it's mother (i.e. your friend) who will have to surrender to his son's will.

@kiran8 yes friend many are like that in thinking , but we can't say that she is stubborn because as age goes up demands of the aged people will also grow and they feel to be with their children so we can't point out her . In fact she can take it otherwise also but it depends on her nature .

when the children are young, such behaviour is accepted not when one is grown up. besides he is leaving for work purpose. if she continues to suffocate him then he might only stay there just to please her not because he really wants to be with her.

Really parents should change with time.....

its hard for a parent.. wen a individual bcm a parent( mother or father) den we wud understand.. wat was tat took our parents thru all dis.. being far is fyn .. making parents understand n evn if dey change according to time ... der will be a little insecurity for both sides.. wat is d life for whc we dont make things happy for the people who love us d most.. atlast der will be a regret ..

If they were in the US I would fully take Sins side, but since cultures are different, perhaps Son could compromise. Perhaps he could come home on his days off work and hell Mother and spend family time. That way, they both get what the want.

Even my sister's son also shifted to a house near his office as he was spending too much time on travel due to distance and traffic signals. It was a daily tension to reach office in time and fatigue in the evening to reach home soon. But my sister took it easy and understood his problem. Hence there was no heart burns between them. We should understand the children's problems too by stepping into their shoes. One should not be stubborn. This is my view.

Its better parents realised that times have changed and they have to be ready for the present generation's thought process. Also, they should not depend on their children to get the kind of love they gave to their parents.

Yes, all parents need to change. But, to be honest, some parents never does... They don't even try and rather try to force their views ...

Yes I feel parents need to change with time,they need to understand that their children also need to have a freedom to enjoy their own life, and children also need to know the value of their parents no matter what happens

Wanting to spend less time on commuting is sensible. I live in a city where more hours are spent commuting in the heavy traffic. Parents need to let go of their children as they grow up. Easier said than done.. but clinging to kids who want a life of their own would only make things difficult for both. It could even ruin relationships.

going out n making career is fine.. but in tat career making a child shud nt forget to hv a little tym wit their parents

yes its gud to have freedom of his own.. but he shud think of his parents as a most prior thing before his freedom.. wen we were a child parents look after us and now wen we r grown ups now...parents need us to look after them, let him make his own house hv a leading life.. but never leave his parents alone.. his travlling must be difficult for him.. but his mom has taken more difficulties to grow him up

Of course it is only natural for a person to want to break away from parents. He deserves this chance to make a happy life for himself. I do not know his age, but surely the Mother must realize it is right. Especially, she has no reason to worry as he is right in the same town. She could worry if it was halfway around the world. She must see reason. I wish your friend all the best too in life.