'Cooking With Love
By Shellyann36
@Shellyann36 (11384)
United States
August 15, 2015 2:49am CST
Have you ever heard this expression? My husband talks about it all of the time. He lectures me on cooking our meals with love. Now I am not the best cook in the world but I am not the worst either. We tend to butt heads on how things are prepared. He loves fried food and we are both overweight and need to lose several pounds. Because of this I don't like to fry anything. His idea of "cooking with love" includes lots of friend foods and having several dishes at one meal. His family will cook two or three meats and several vegetables for one meal. I just don't see that as frugal and hubby does not really care for leftovers that much. So his idea of cooking with love and mine differ greatly. We have come to somewhat of an agreement though. If he wants anything fried he has to cook it and after I showed him what one grocery bill looks like he agreed that cooking more than on meat at a time was too expensive.
So now I am "cooking with love" for our family and hubby agrees.
Do you cook with love?
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
15 Aug 15
My interpretation of cooking with love is cooking without complaining no matter what it is, even if it is just a sunnyside up egg or scrambled one. lol
but indeed sharing food with family and friends, one of the best times. burp.. excuse me,
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
15 Aug 15
@dpk262006 seriously? VERY right! wow... I must be so witty. thanks friend just joking you. wink wink
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
15 Aug 15
@dpk262006 I do believe that @Mavic123456 is very right.
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
15 Aug 15
Hmmm. I love the people I cook for, but we can't have a boatload of fried food, that's for sure. The three of us being over 60 and all of us having various health issues, I'd say we "cook with routine" lol. And we "cook with a budget." I'm glad you showed your hubby the grocery receipt. It just is not realistic to serve what he's talking about. It sounds like he maybe just has a nostalgia for how things were when he was growing up.
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
15 Aug 15
Yes he does have a nostalgia going concerning when he was younger. He had two sisters and another brother and often there were close relatives near by that would come by to eat. I guess that is why so much was cooked but it is just not realistic for us to cook like that. And the fried food..... gah! I had totally ditched fried food until I met him. He has lead me down that path again but I refrain. Its good but its bad for us.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
15 Aug 15
@CinnamonGrl I can manage fried food every once in a while. I must say that as soon as it goes in my system rejects it and sends it right back out. Sorry if that was too much info.
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
15 Aug 15
@Shellyann36 I do love friend food, but now it gives me heartburn almost every time, so it's no fun then. We have KFC on Mother's Day, I'm surprised it doesn't kill us lol
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 Aug 15
Home cooked food is considered best because it is assumed that the person who cooks transfers his love in the food. However, in your case it seems your hubby expects you to cook many dishes for him and this he terms it as 'cooking with love'. It is easier to enjoy and eat cooked/ready food rather than preparing it. As you have suggested him to cook himself, hopefully he will be able to correctly understand how food is cooked with love. 
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
@Shellyann36 - I did not get you wrong. I can well understand that you are a good cook
and you do not mind cooking. It is nature that If we cook something and the other person find faults with it or give some unsolicited suggestions about cooked food, it makes us feel uneasy.
Yes, you are right that difference of opinion between husband and wife could always be there.
and you do not mind cooking. It is nature that If we cook something and the other person find faults with it or give some unsolicited suggestions about cooked food, it makes us feel uneasy.
Yes, you are right that difference of opinion between husband and wife could always be there.@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
15 Aug 15
Don't get me wrong. I don't mind cooking and I do try to keep him very happy but we have a difference of opinion on how some foods should be cooked and how much should be cooked at one time. Normally I sway him to my way of thinking.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Aug 15
@dpk262006 yes friend Home cook food is the best , how much taste outside food maybe i prefer and will be happy for home food still once in a while we can have food from outside , it will be good for health if we reduce eating outside fast food or junk food . Which we wont do .
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Aug 15
i don't often cook much any more but yes i used to cook all the "southern" type foods. my daughter does these days. its with love but sometimes to much grease so we try not to often
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Aug 15
I love southern food. I grew up on it but back then I was small and full of energy and didn't have to worry about high blood pressure. Enjoying it as a treat every once in a while is great but not all the time.
@rebelann (112770)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Aug 15
Mom always cooked with love, she'd prepare 1 meat dish with a lot of veggies, especially taters. Her idea of cooking with love was to put the proper spices in them which she'd found in a cookbook. As for me, well I do cook with love I guess, I don't use many spices because I share with my furmily.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Aug 15
Often when I was growing up all we ate were potatoes and vegetables with legumes such as pintos or black eyed peas. My daddy was an OTR truck driver and was often gone. Me and mama ate what would be considered a vegetarian diet back then. When he was home we ate meat but that was not often. I don't remember mama using much spice with the exception of salt and pepper. Now when she baked things she did use spices such as cinnamon and nutmeg.
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@sofssu (23662)
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3 Sep 15
My idea of cooking with love is to pray over the food as I cook , to make every thing healthy and tasty. I never cook more than we can eat.. no one at home eats leftovers.. so I become the trash can.. NO, no, I cook what is needed, a balanced meal.. fried foods mostly for kids on the weekends.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
7 Sep 15
I have never thought of praying over the meal as I am cooking. We say grace before eating but you have given me a good idea. Thank you very much. One can never be too thankful.
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@sofssu (23662)
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8 Sep 15
@Shellyann36 Actaully we pray sanctification over the meal that is cooked, for good health and healing through what is partaken and a blessing on those who will enjoy it.
@GardenGerty (160611)
• United States
22 Aug 15
Listening to each other is where the love comes in. My husband loves to cook, and will take his time doing so. I need to eat more balanced and sooner. By considering each other we incorporate the love. I like that he was willing to learn by looking at the grocery bill.
@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
16 Aug 15
I cook with love so I provide meals that will help us live better lives. Rarely is a better life achieved by fried foods. What a sneaky guy to ask you to put love in his food. This makes me giggle.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Aug 15
LOL yes he is trying to be sneaky. We have come to somewhat of an agreement. If he wants it fried he cooks it.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
16 Aug 15
I used to cook for many years with this phrase on my mind, coz I had an ever -working -at- office mom, and I grew with nannies, but the truth is that cooking daily for almost 15 years, made me feel tired. I felt sooo tired to continue cooking daily, and not just tired, but bored, and also, with the daily rush, I lost all energy to cook with love.
Is it possible to cook with love a whole life? (and I mean daily cooking) 
Blessings Shellyann.... dainy
Blessings Shellyann.... dainy1 person likes this
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Aug 15
@dainy1313 of course it is possible to cook with love your entire life. I am glad you are so steadfast in providing good meals for your family. 
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Aug 15
@Shellyann36 Wow nice agreement friend . I am happy that finally he agreed that you are cooking with love . Actually i thought of love in some other way before going through your topic , i thought preparing something with involvement later found that cooking with love means preparing many items according to your hubby family , Now i realized that i was wrong .
. Actually i thought of love in some other way before going through your topic , i thought preparing something with involvement later found that cooking with love means preparing many items according to your hubby family , Now i realized that i was wrong .1 person likes this
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
16 Aug 15
Hubby always tells me that. He said that it is the real secret of delicious food served,
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@veerusubhash (4)
• Austin, Texas
16 Aug 15
cooking is the best source of sharing love.. however the food is.. taking the meal with family together sharing it sharing the thoughts .. of eachother .. best tym spent wit family.. husbands also shud be part of cooking sometimes to make it with more love.. rite
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
19 Aug 15
I totally agree about sitting down and eating with your family. If the meal is not shared and the day discussed the point is missed. Thank you for reminding us of that.
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
7 Nov 15
I don't cook at all. Hubby loves to cook and we're retired and he can do it, he's much better than I am and he's frugal too.
