Spoiling the Kids

Children need responsibilities. Getting what they want is dependent on those responsibilities. That's how it works in my house. My kids have cell phones, but if they don't do their chores I take those phones away. The twins are in Marching Band and a big part of that is fundraising. I require them to do most of their own fundraising. I'll help a bit, but they do a lot of it themselves. Nothing comes free in life and it's best for kids to learn that at a young age.

We have to remind ourselves that the true test of good parenting is when our children can survive the harsh world without us by their side. In that regard we can say our children deserve us.

I believe you can give your children everything and they still can learn to appreciate life. It depends on if your actually teaching your children when you give them something. Or if you just hand it over and allow them to go on their way. My kids earn what they get. They are not handed something and sent on their merry way. I give my kids choices. Which all come with consequences if they make a bad choice.

I think we are living in an age where most children have grown up having everything done for them. I don't know what that will lead to, they have no skills for living to pass on.

Yep! We teach our kids to earn things if things are what they want. But we also "try" to teach them that taking care of our own things is a great reward in itself - accomplishment, pride, and self respect. I do think doing everything hand and foot for kids is a doing a disservice to them.

my parents made me do quite a lot of things all by myself. I hated it then but today I value it coz they taught me how to manage life and set priorities. Moreover they taught me how to differentiate between something that we really need and something that won't be useful at all. Today I try and do the same with my daughter, even though she is small but I encourage her to be self- dependant.

Yes, it s true, but it s also true that nobody teaches us to become parents, and we can do many mistakes, missunderstanding the word Love&pamper, and I have heard that no parent does mistakes unpurpose. So? How will we be judged? As too permissive parents? As idiot parents? Or just as "human" parents? What do you think?

awww so sad but true.. good realizations then. anyway, (I am distracted by miley cyrus picture here)... there is no really a handbook of proper parenting, it is like trial and error I think. or sometimes children adapt also to their environment, I don't think blaming everything to the parents is not fair.

I completely agree. Our children dont understand but they will when they get older. God bless.

My eldest tried that when my nephew and niece were growing up, but they almost end up spoiled w/ tons of never ending tantrums. Now, he disciplines them when ever he sees their mistake. Sad also that you can never get them to eat vegetables but my i see my niece eating a few. Wish some day they can let go of the fast food addiction. have a nice day

That's true.If you do everything for your children,they will have nothing to do and they will not be able to be independent and strong.