It is not easy to make others smile.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58676)
Delhi, India
August 16, 2015 12:25am CST
Hello everyone!
In our day to day life we come across many people, friends, colleagues and neighbors etc. If I see a tensed or sad guy, I ask about his reasons of sadness and try to divert his attention from his problem and try to make him/her smile. I try to be positive so as to bring positivity in others. I do not believe in using discouraging or negative words when conversing and consoling anyone. I try to be humerous also so as to lighten the atmosphere. I believe it is not easy to make smile others, however, it is much easier to hurt anyone. There are people, who say nasty words without bothering about feelings of others. They just speak out their mind and show cold attitude. Do you try to make others smile by your efforts and try to console others, when they are in any kind of problem?
Have a nice weekend to all of you.
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25 responses
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
16 Aug 15
I think when people do that they are charitable. So
However, some people with various pursuits look for only positive people and that means anyone down is ignored. Also for the sake of discussion people can seem nasty but really they are debating a topic and trying to make a point. On the other hand there are some unhappy people that are just mean because they are so unhappy.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
Yes, you are very right that making others feel happy or make them smile is nothing less than a charity. May be sometimes people put forth their point in a debate in such a manner that they sound very serious. We just cannot do about unhappy people, they are always unhappy, irrespective of their situation.
Thanks for joining and sharing.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
16 Aug 15
I try to make others smile, but I am not a people person, so when I talk to someone, I find it hard to encourage them.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
I think you do your best to make others smile. It does not matter if you do not encourage them all the time. Many are self motivated and they do not need encouragement as such.
Thanks for joining.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
@Carmelanirel2 - I am sure you do your best.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
16 Aug 15
@dpk262006 Thanks, I do like to think I do my best.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Aug 15
@dpk262006 yes friend it is very easy to hurt any one but very hard to make one smile . I myself try to be active and make people active and smile who are around me and i take care that i don't hurt any one in my process of doing so . I saw people who throw their words blindly without thinking of others how they might receive it .
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
You read my post very carefully, I am sure.
Before your response, others did not make comment about the fact that how easy it is to make someone feel hurt. We need to say some nasty words and the guy in front of us starts feeling bad.
It is good to hear that you make sure that you make others smile with your efforts and you restrict yourself so as not to hurt anyone.
Yes, there are people, who are unmindful and use pointed words to let anyone down.
Thanks for your wonderful response.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
@prashu228 - Thanks to you too for your kind words. I try my best to make others smile. I've taken note of your suggestion.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Aug 15
@dpk262006 thank you very much for the response , i wish you all good keep trying to make others smile , though you may find some issues in between don't bother about them and keep going .
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
16 Aug 15
good job friend.
I don't know if you can make my russian co worker to smile. it is very difficult to make him smile even a little. haha
i have used my funny jokes to him and he will say, I did not find that funny.. waaaaaaaahhh.. that's it.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
Thanks Mavic @Mavic123456 for your kindness.
So your Russian co-worker is hard to please or it is difficult to make him smile. You could ask him what makes him smile? or he does not feel like smiling at all, at least at work place?
If he just cannot smile on your funny jokes (I know you have great sense of humour) than only God could make him smile.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Aug 15
@Mavic123456 oh mavic bad luck , yeah i have also gone through some people who just stay like cold heart with out a word they just look like idols . Some say that what is there to laugh in this and they serious .
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
17 Aug 15
@dpk262006 yeah good idea I can ask him that, naah he is just like that nothing really scary about him.
hahaha sometimes I joke and he doesnt understand. and I just smile. hahaha so cute
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
Hello and welcome to mylot. You try to make others happy but you have not mentioned how much you succeed in your attempts? Do you feel that others try to make you happy, when they are around you?
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@hulkiie52411 (31)
• Lancaster, Pennsylvania
16 Aug 15
@dpk262006 Hello and not much succeed like for me it is not hard to make someone happy. I feel sometimes others try but it doesn't work
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
@hulkiie52411 - Don't lose heart dear. You have a long way to go in life, hopefully you will come across nice people in life, whom you could help smile and laugh.
@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
30 Sep 15
I always try to look at the positive side of things. Try to show others too, that every thing has a good and a bad side. Like opposite sides of a coin. We should focus on the good part and make it work to our advantage. That's what I tell 'em.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 15
It is heartening to hear that you believe in looking at the positive side of things. People have tendency to look at the negative side and this makes them even more depressed. They need to understand there is always a positive side too and they should look at that. If we could turn attention of others towards brighter side of their life, I think this will make them smile.
Many thanks for sharing your views.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 15
@ria1606roy - First of all thanks for teaching me Bengali (I know very little). The saying you have mentioned has very deep meaning and it gives a message of universal brotherhood and positivity.
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
30 Sep 15
@dpk262006 my pleasure! "Sokoler tore sokole amra, protteke amra porer tore"------It is a saying in Bengali. It means all of us are present for everyone; every one of us is there for the others.
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@much2say (55537)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Aug 15
I like to think I can put a smile on someone's face. A smile is the easy part - but to actually make them "happy" is another matter. We can give advice, say some words of encouragement, lend support or provide some comedy relief if to show we care . . . but only the owner of the emotions can take action to make themselves happy. I know even in the worst of times, I can squeak out a smile myself, but that may not represent how I feel on the whole in the inside.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello dear!
You have a point to make. I more or less agree with you that even if we could make people smile who are around us, we are not so sure whether this makes them happy inside. About their happiness, they could only tell.
We should give advice and motivate them, when we feel they need to be motivated. Our jobs ends there, it is for them to take our advice in a right spirit. If they are not reacting to our advice or in due course are not going to implement it, they better be left alone (next time).
Yes, when you are not happy inside, even feigning a smile may not help much but it might make a little difference.
Thanks for sharing. One of the best responses so far.
Have a nice week ahead.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Aug 15
@much2say - Even if the little one has leukemia, the family need to keep their hope alive and should be in a positive frame of mind. Our job could be say positive words to the family. Even if we cannot make them smile, but we could at least console them and could tell them that they have to face the reality, worrying is not going to help.
@much2say (55537)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Aug 15
@dpk262006 It's hard. I think of this family I know who found out recently that their little son had leukemia. I don't think there is anything that anyone could say that would make them "happy". They know that they have the loving support of our particular community and that might make them feel better for the moment, but that does not take away the fact that their son has leukemia.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Yes, you are right. We usually try to converse with those, who are known to us and we try to make them smile.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
17 Aug 15
I tend to stay away from people more than not. But is a real crisis I would be there to help someone. I learned getting involved in someone else's business is not a good thing to do. People might look sad on the outside, but are ready to bite your head off if you try to help.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 15
Interesting response @inertia4.
You are very right that getting involved in someone's business without he giving us green signal to help him could bring trouble for us. Some people just show that they are sad and once you get carried away and try to help them, they do not appreciate your efforts.
Thanks for sharing.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
19 Aug 15
@dpk262006 You're welcome. I just say it as I see it.
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
17 Aug 15
May be you are right. There are really a lot of people who are hard to make them smile but at least if we try, it is just fine.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello dear - Yes, you got it right that efforts could always be made others smile, if they do not smile despite our sincere efforts, they are best left alone.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello and welcome here. Thanks for appreciating my post.
It is good to hear that you love peace and console them if someone is feeling hurt. It is true that presenting a positive picture would help them think in the right direction.
Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
It is correct that we cannot please everyone. However, it does not mean that we should not try to make them smile. We could make our efforts if they do not smile, it is their business. Having said that - if a person does not reciprocate, next time we will refrain from making even efforts to make him smile.
It is good to hear that you love being happy and you do not care if others are not in a mood to have fun.
Thanks for joining and sharing your views.
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
16 Aug 15
I love making my friends and family smile :D
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Aug 15
We believe your statement that you love to make your friends and family members smile. Your profile picture shows that you have a smiling face and you love smiling faces and it is said that smile is contagious. So when you smile yourself, it makes a positive impact on others.
Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
@fufurinha - I am glad to hear that my comments made your day. .
But you should remember that you not only have to maintain your sweet smile but you have to make efforts to make others smile.
Keep it up.
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
16 Aug 15
@dpk262006 Oh, thank you so much for your words :) you made my day.
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@granny2015 (432)
• United States
17 Aug 15
if the world had more people who thought like you , it would be a happier world to live in.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello and welcome here.
I am delighted to read your brief but very meaningful response. Many thanks for your kind words about me.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
16 Aug 15
Hi Deepak, I don't go out of my way to make other people smile esp those who have been nasty to me, but for my loved ones and friends I always have a smile and an encouraging words..My own feeling is that , it is better to have someone speak their minds out rather than smile at you and then pass nasty comments behind your back ! It takes all kinds to make this world I guess
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello Kiran!
I understand your statement. There is no point making those people smile who could be nasty to you either when face to face to when you are not around them. I know for sure that you encourage your dear and near ones and make them smile with your words and gestures.
Yes, it is true that there are different kinds of people around us and we have to make do with them.
Thanks for joining and sharing your views.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
May be your right that when your mood is off on any given day, you do not feel like smiling even if other try their best to make you smile.
It is good to hear that on a normal day you could make others smile.
Thanks for joining and sharing.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello @yugocean
Are you suggesting me to use my mobile camera for making others smile?
@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
16 Aug 15
I know what it takes to get my children to smile. Others, well that is a bit more difficult. But I still try.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello and welcome here.
I can understand your point that it is not easy to make even your own children smile. You have lots of responsibilities to look after your family so it is a bit difficult for you to make others smile.
Thanks for joining.
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
16 Aug 15
I try to be nice and friendly to everyone. Nobody likes a grump!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
It is good to hear that you try to be nice with others. Yes, it is correct nobody like grump or sad faces.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 15
Hello and welcome to mylot.
Nothing is easy in this life dear mayank. However, it should not stop us from not making efforts. If we do not make efforts, how would we succeed in life. Thanks for joining.