mylot is my dear diary place:)

I also feel the same way about mylot- I just recently joined and am very pleased to see how friendly everyone on here is . As for you being unimportant in your family, I would say that you are quite the opposite! It seems like you are someone your mother/brother/sister-in-law feel that they can depend on. However, this can often lead to feeling as though you are being taken advantage of... Just tell them all how you feel!

I don't think your not important for your family, are you the youngest? I can see that your the favorite of you Mom, and also because your more responsible than you brother. I'm the youngest in the family and my mother and also my other siblings used to call me everytime they have something to command, I also get annoyed and think like I'm just nothing in the family but to followed them.

Hello and welcome to mylot. Before I respond to your discussion, I would like to say that I am hopeful that you are aware that now for your discussions/responses, you are getting some earnings (which you could see on top left hand side of your page) which has been started recently. As you reach minimum payout of $10, you could receive your money through your paypal account. Now back to your discussion. I read our dear friend @Katriona_22 Katriona Jone's response and it shows how positive she is. If you want to look this issue in a positive sense, then you should feel that you are an important and reliable member of your family and therefore, your Mother requested you to pay bill of your sister-in-law (her daughter-in law) (I hope I am correctly interpreting your relation?). There could be some reasons to request you to pay the bill and you must be told about the specific reasons, what made your mother asked you to pay her bills. If your sister in law has been using a phone, then either she or your brother should make the payment and not you. You could, if you have the courage to speak, tell your mother/sister in law politely that once in a while it is okay, but they should not make it a practice.

It sounds like your mother is 'forcing you' to show agape (brotherly charity)---kind of a "fake it til you find it"-strategy (sort of the way 'reading the Holy Bible' leads you to do the right thing more-often): as you help your brother gain more-&-more, you realize more-&-more that helping your brother improve his world helps improve the world we all share!

Sympathise with you over having to pay the phone bill for your sister-in-law. Using mylot your way is novel, and I like it. Share more here, I am sure the myLotters will also console and encourage you as they see fit. I can understand why you are sad as your mother shows favouritism. Cheer up, you are in HappyLand.

Yes , Mylot is our open diary. The best here is that we earn cash from what we our pouring in here at the same time we could get good advices and opinions that could broaden our thoughts . And on your situation its really annoying but if you look at it on a positive way its like your mom seems to see you as more responsible than your brothers tho Im not saying its alright, you can speak with them and tell what you feel than keeping it to yourself and just burst out oneday.

Doesn't seem right to me. I know that every time I see an email from a certain sister of mine I cringe wondering what the heck she wants from me now. We shouldn't feel that way about our family, unfortunately not all families are the opposite of dysfunctional.

Are the eldest sibling? You know, that is a very important role in the family. Your parents always ask you to do many things because that is your worth in the family. Imagine if you are gone, who else will do the things that you've been doing. just enjoy it anyway, you're not getting younger anymore and you will live with your husband, and know what, you will miss doing the things you've been doing before.

It's nice being here and meeting other people.

I think that is appalling. It is not right you are treated in this way. I know what you mean sometimes one sibling is more important than another. Your Mother obvioulsy makes your brother her favorite baby ...

Relax, and don't worry about it, you will have you break someday. And keep being nice.

@MusesM ..It means they love you much .. so do not get annoyed of their instructions .. if they dont want you they will never call you and ask to do their works. .. I think you are younger in your family ..Love them & Care them .. You will be blessed

I love how friendly everyone is here. It's a great way to spend some free time just chatting away and maybe even helping people along the way.

Let us hope and pray, you get a break!

Muses, it sounds like you are being taken advantage of. Your brother should grow up and pay his own bills and your mother should stop asking you to pay. You do need to say NO and then see if this will stop, yes they may be upset with you for a while but they will get over it. Sometimes a family has one sibling they may prefer over another for some reason. Hope you can get this sorted out and stop helping them.

It's really a good place to use like a diary. People here are more helpful.