Can't We All Get Along?

It wouldn't be hard to get along if we all just tried hard to. I don't mind it if someone disagrees with me, as that is their perogative, but to be mean and hateful about it is another. I onlly used the block feature once, and it because the person just got mean and was so hateful, that he was spewing venom, and just didn't like anything or anyone else had to say. I don't mind debating, but arguing is where I draw the line.

You know, even a comment you don't like or disagree with is going to earn you money, so why quibble? Argue, debate, mollify, agree to disagree - whatever. It's all about people interacting with one another. And let's face it - a bunch of comments that all say things like "nice post", "I agree", "how nice", is going to get boring fast! I would only block someone who was abusive and maybe not even then. It's the internet, all sorts of people are on it. We have to accept that we will run into people we don't like now and then. That's life, right?

Nope, I refuse to get along, and you can't make me.

Fortunately we all do get along quite well, in fact, very well. But then, there just comes one bad day/moment which ruins the day, the relationship. On the earlier version of MyLot, we did not have a block feature. There was only the report button using which a discussion/a response or a comment could be reported. Personally, this increases the tasks to do for the Team behind the scenes. Consider this - there is no disagreement or anything between us here, and still I can or anyone else can report this response. Admin un-necessarily gets the message and has to hop on to this place , read understand and then forget all about it as there is practically nothing on this comment to take any action against. Agreed, we are all sensible here and would not normally do such a reporting. But then, there can be this possibility. Another scenario - what is normal at my part of the world might not go well with you and similarly, what is a normal word for you might be an abuse to me. Remember, we all are from different communities, countries and we all have our own guiding lines. Now, it would be unfair to expect the Admin to be knowledgeable of each and every custom, tradition, word on this planet. So sometimes, such issues go unattended and also sometimes the action taken doesnt go well with the people concerned. I dont know the basic reasoning for inclusion of this Block feature but, I think the above two reasons are quite good and easy to understand.

I don't intend to block any active member here, except eventually trolls and spammers. I share the same opinion than thesids : removing this blocking feature would cause more work for admins here, and it is not bad to have it to be able to block quickly a troll. Ideally, we should not have it, like in the old myLot, to be able to discuss about everything. The problem is that some members are not mature enough, and some others have a psychopathic behavior : they cannot kill, then they block. It is better to let them their blocking toy.

I agree with you 100%. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out that way. As for myself, I haven't used the block feature and I doubt I ever will. If someone disagrees with me, then we will just have to agree to disagree.

Thank you so much for asking this question. I was wondering the same thing.

Let me think about it??..ok i thought and figured it would be in my best interest to get a long lil doggie...oh you meant for me to along with everyone?..now that is different..why would i if we all have different interests? Otherwise we would all be writing the same discussions and what fun is that?..Do you like me?..No, Do You Like me?

If everyone had the same opinion, the discussions would probably be quite boring. It saddens me to hear that people are blocking others because they disagree with them. To me, having a discussion means hearing new opinions, and some of them will disagree with yours. Perhaps you will even change your mind about something because of what someone else says. Other opinions will definitely make you think. Sadly, some people just want to be heard and are stuck in their own viewpoints. They don't accept an opinion that differs from their own... I wish we could get along and just have interesting discussions. I think people can get along just fine even if they disagree about something.

I will use the block if more or less i have gauged the mylotter to be a spammer basing on his /her discussions or even comments.

I once used the block feature on Bubblews because the jerk wouldn't stop taunting me about whatever it was ..... Holy cow, now I can't even remember what the fool did to tick me off but he has since been removed. As for getting along, well you're right, we can choose what to comment on so why let what someone writes bother you, you really don't have to read it.

I understand that some people don't agree with others, but if you don't agree, it is best just to skip the discussion and move on instead of commenting.

It is a nice sentiment to all get along dear friend and for the most part we can. There is a rare instance when I would choose to block or report, but rare and for good reason.

Honestly speaking we can mentally block out people we want to. It's better to agree to disagree go on and on about personal dislikes. It starts making things a little uncomfortable for the community.. it may so happen that others could unknowing be dragged into such discussions. I personally keep away from all that because I am here to have a good time. Life has enough struggles already .. why add some more.. Let us have some fun now.. lighten up already .

The 'Block' feature does have some legitimate uses and I understand that people may want to block people who are harassing them and are doing it subtly in such a way that it may not appear to be harassment to an outsider (or the moderator). There are also those people who hold strong views on a particular controversial subject and do not want to associate with those who hold an opposing view (pace the 'Creationists', if you know what I mean!) On the other hand, there are so many ways in which this feature can be abused and work against the fellowship spirit in MyLot and there are also so many ways in which it doesn't work in the way people think it ought to work that I very much believe that it should be dropped entirely. You are right, of course: It is natural that not everyone can get along perfectly with everyone else and, indeed, if we did so perfectly we should probably not need a discussion site at all! However, it is when differences of opinion become thorns in people's sides and lead to violent altercation that it become necessary to ask, "WHY can't we all just get along?" In my view, a BLOCK button is never a good answer. The basic rules of the site clearly list the things that are not allowed and several of them are to do with "getting along". Maybe the rule should be that, if a person can't learn to get along with others here (or try to, at least, even if it means ignoring them) then perhaps MyLot is not really the place that person should be.

Certain times of day I find myself reporting spam, and I only blocked one person and that person was stalking me and getting creepy.

It is just like in real life where you may not hate a person but prefer to keep that person away because you are not comfortable. Here the block feature is not what it should be and Admin is looking into it.

I don't think there is a need for me to use that feature. I am hoping about it

Of course we can't all get along, we must be prepared to accept nice comments or critics. I have not yet used the block button.

NO,i think literally we cant along....