This is top secret, can I trust you?

Yes, some people need to have someone to trust them with their secrets. So I also thing they would tell you anyway.

@besweet Actually the minute when the secret is shared, it is no longer a secret. If someone wants to keep a secret, the secret has to be a secret for life - no way can it be revealed to others however trusted the persons may be.

@jkct02 I agree but I am not sure if people should keep every secret only for themselves. For example if there are personal issues or family issues, sharing with trusted friends can be beneficial because they can also get advice. But it's true, once it is shared it's not a secret any more.

@besweet That it right... I just can't trust people that much nowadays because of a bad experience I had with 'once' a good friend of mine. Funny part with secrets is that some people gets so personal when friendships becomes unstable. They end up spilling everything to anyone or even using what they know to threaten you. That is why I don't like sharing out my little secrets.

@waflay You can never be sure how the other person is going to react if your friendship ends one day. I think you can see some signs during the friendship, for example how they can handle other people's secrets. But you always hope that they will keep yours and honor your realtionship. Trust is a hope of confidence from your friends. I am sorry to hear that you had a bad experience. This incident probably made you very skeptical with others. But I still believe we should give chances to people we think they deserve it.

I think the reason is because sharing makes them feel better or they want second opinion and advice. Some people cannot carry the burden of a secret alone. We can't share all secrets but in order to make strong friendships and relationships, you need to share things that you don't normally share with everyone.

It depends on how well you know the other person, I agree. I think if it's a good friend who you care about then you will also be willing to keep the secret. If it comes from someone else, it will probably be something that you're not interested to know.

@besweet Right relationships are often tested some stay strong other drift apart, the only way to find out which one would stay or not is to test them ....

That quote is true but all secrets are revealed with time. I believe that people want to have people they trust in their lives and in order to trust you need to share. Relationships are tested and secrets are usually the reason they come to an end.

@sajeevking The tests is inevitable with time I believe. At some point during relationships both individuals are eveluated by the other and the trust is gained only when deserved.

It sounds great that your friends can count on you if they need help. It is rare to find real friendships nowadays.

Most people feel the need to share other people's secrets with their loved ones. You are really trustworthy if you keep everything for yourself. I have a friend who used to share everyting that I told her with her mom. I also realised that she probably didn't even tell her that she can't share it further.

@besweet My husband is forgetful, so I prefer not to share with him because I cannot be sure that he would remember that it's a secret. I prefer not to tell to anybody, every time I broke my own rule I failed.

It's nice that you can have the trust of your friends and be able to help them when they are in need. You seem like a great friend.

I think it should be better described as confidence! We all need to be surrounded by people we trust, don't we?

@besweet Yes, but that is only one for me besweet.

haha nice one @TiarasOceanView We often trust others to keep our secrets only to find out we shouldn't have that.

Yes, sometime we trust people with our secrets because we can't handle them ourselves. But then the burden of knowing is shared as well.

I feel that people want to have people that they can trust around them. A friend who is willing to share a secret is possibly already confident that you will keep it to yourself.