Cliques: Have You Ever Been A Part Of One?
By TexanTornado
@TexanTornado (5573)
United States
September 6, 2015 4:49pm CST
I know a good amount of people hate the word 'clique', but the reality of the matter is that they do exist.
Taken from the Merrimm-Dictionary: clique - a narrow exclusive circle or group of persons; especially : one held together by common interests, views, or purposes .
Back in my school days; You had your heads, geeks, jocks, preppies, etc. Even in the social media world such as mylot you can run across cliques.
I myself have never been in a clique, for I always liked being my own person with a wide range of interest.
Have you ever been part of a 'clique'?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
6 Sep 15
heck no..hahah..I would never join a club that would accept me..I think Groucho said that!
I had my own little life with whatever guy i was in love with and could care less about cliques ..
Of course they were there..popular kids, Rebels, stoners and smarties..if anything i'd go off with the stoners but not to hang with them for long..
I worked in the office and always gave out pink slips to everyone who asked to get out of class, so in a way i was liked but never popular in the sense of the word
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
Well, I had friends in all the groups, but was never part of any. To me it felt like tie me down, and I was a free drifter that could never conform..
Oh I could so see you sitting their handing out pink slips with that evil grin on your face. You probably devised up ways to get them in trouble in a round about way. 
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
7 Sep 15
@TexanTornado yes i did..I was working the switchboard so i knew all the gossip of the teachers and principal since i took all their calls..the secretary always took off and left me in charge...so the kids would come in and i'd sign everyone..no one ever got in trouble..i was very good at it..if i had a newspaper i would have loved to been the gossip person telling all secrets..loved it.
..I went through the files and found my grades and changed a few..hahah....no one ever looked for the silent ones back then...I mean low profile ones..I got away with so much in that school and you better not tell
..I went through the files and found my grades and changed a few..hahah....no one ever looked for the silent ones back then...I mean low profile ones..I got away with so much in that school and you better not tell2 people like this
@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
@Rosekitty OMG! You killing me here. You nothing but a little devil (the total opposite of me). Oh I betcha you had some good times. Now, I think the gossip column would be right up your alley and I think you would be great at it. Cause if you didn't have anything, you would make up 95% of it. Hey, contact your local newspaper and see ifyou can start a gossip column in it.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
@sofssu Exactly! I totally agree with you there. When connections are made it is easier to interact with one another, but the exclusion can be rude at times. Not that I feel the need to 'fit in' anywhere, I am quite content in jumping from pillar to post.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
I think we all need our own individuality, for it makes us who we are. I don't want a carbon copy of myself, nor do I wish to be a carbon copy of someone else. Yes, there are cliques within the confines of these walls. No, doubt about it.
Yes, there are cliques within the confines of these walls. No, doubt about it.2 people like this
@sofssu (23662)
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7 Sep 15
@TexanTornado though I don't see anything wrong with a clique as it is a group of people with common interest who interact with each other closely, it is the exclusion of others that sometimes used to bother me.. Now I don't care too much about all that.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
7 Sep 15
@TexanTornado @Marcyaz
I agree, wide range of friends allows to discover different parts of ourselves and become adjust more easily to change.
Have you ever tried to bring your friends from different parts of your life together?
I noticed that friends of mine with very different backgrounds don't always match between them, even though I have fun with both.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
@besweet Yes, that I have, and have had successful results with it. If you tend to be the mutual ground between the two, to bridge the gap. If they are completely opposite type people, then it might not work.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
I myself think that is what life is all about, to develop a wider range of interest as you stated, to also gain a different perspective, and basically to broaden your horizons. But that is just my own personal opinion.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
Only on the internet? Such as a 'writing group'?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
7 Sep 15
this is the first one made in my category just for me..brought back so many memories..some have passed on...
I'm so depressed;... my garden doesn't grow. I've lost my zest for earth and hoe. I slump to the ground; and wail 'Woe is me'. I needed this crop to set my...
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
7 Sep 15
@besweet it was 6 or 7 years ago so if you weren't here then you would never have saw it
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
7 Sep 15
@rosekitty wow, I had no idea that your brownies were so popular from before. How did I miss that?
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
that was good.. I see even 6 years ago, you teased everyone with your brownies.3 people like this
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
7 Sep 15
I have been in one for a short period of time. My old friends still live in my hometown and we are still best friends even if I have moved out for many years. They have created a clique, it's a small town so it is common to see people hanging out in the same groups. Anyway, every time I visit them, I am part of that group and we go out together. I like to think that I am independent though and I am always trying to distance myself if I disagree with them.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
7 Sep 15
@TexanTornado I have made new friends but they have never visited my hometown to see if they can fit in. We are all going out together when my old friends come to visit me in the city though and I think they like each others company!
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
@besweet I understand. Oh that sounds great. I'm sure ya'll will have a great time.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
Now this I do understand, getting together in a group like setting with old friends. That is a common thing. However, I'm sure you and your friends have made new friends in the years that have passed?? To not include the new friends, if possible that is, would be considered a 'clique'.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Sep 15
The point when a group becomes "exclusive" is pretty much the point where I bail. While I have been a member of a lot of social circles - and drifted between them a lot - I tend to get frustrated quickly if it seems like someone who wants to join or be involved is being kept out. Especially if the reasoning seems to be that they have new and different ideas, since locking out any ideas that don't go along with the group is the quick way to stagnation and lack of personal and social growth.
I do tend to collect followers anywhere I go, but I never consider those groups exclusive, and I have a lot more fun collecting different ideas and viewpoints from everywhere and everyone.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
Yes, the voice of rationale!! I love It.
You are absolutely right in all that you have stated. It's exactly how I feel, you just said it so much better than I ever could. Thank you.1 person likes this
@allknowing (137696)
• India
7 Sep 15
I avoid them like the plague and am no member of any. Cliques join hands to make a wrong a right if the member concerned belongs to the clique
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Sep 15
I see all, I hear all. But at the end of it, I get swayed by only the two I have - a tender heart and a tough brain.
Coming to social media or better, mylot, yes, today, I am confined to a few select people - because I feel family with them and they are the reasons I keep returning back here. Definitely, this does not mean that I do not try getting into discussing with people outside the family I have here.
If that is what they call - clique - so be it 
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
I hear exactly what you saying sids. We do form connections with certain people, I myself have also done that. It's a natural thing to do so.
My views on a 'clique' is when those connections will only associate with each other, even when their are 1000 of other connections that can be made. Also, when those who think they are above the rest and have no room for anyone else.
(Points up... just my view on it)
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
8 Sep 15
No,I have never been part of a clique-not in college or in my workplace.Of course,I had some friends who were part of some clique or other. But I never belonged to any of them.I liked doing my own things.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
8 Sep 15
I think that is great. My own personal opinion is when 'in' a clique, you are limiting yourself.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
7 Sep 15
I guess I view it as sort of a 'dictatorship'. Meaning, you can only be a part of this 'group', and that just never worked for me. I bore to easily for that. 2 people like this
@Tampa_girl7 (50528)
• United States
7 Sep 15
No, I have always done my own thing.
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