Have you ever thought of this..

I prefer to keep my personal problems to myself so I know what it's like to be misunderstood. It's a choice, though. And you have to realize that people will think whatever they want to and get the wrong idea at times, and that's the price of privacy. Also, Facebook encourages that sort of ranting behavior and best to just hide people who indulge in daily drama. They are so tiring.

It's far too easy to jump to conclusions, but how sad for your friend that she has been treated this way. As if she didn't have enough to cope with.

Change is the only thing that is permanent in life. But it occurs for the worst, as it happened with your friend. it is the hardest thing to cope with.

I always think about what people say and do, there's always a reason, even if it lies in a past you may never know, everyone has their problens, I also have mines that sometimes make me say or do things people don't expect me to do, I always try to explain the basic just to let then know "I am with a problem, I can't do this right now, But I also can't tell you for "x" reasons" or something like that, so people don't think I am being rude with then, specially my friends. There's a lot of people that don't think about what may be happening in everyone's lives that makes then do or don't do certain things. In fact, I think this is something should pay more attention, It could help a lot in people's relations, and may be solve some problens. It's not always that I talk about my problens, but If I feel I can trust that person and we can talk properly with each other without any misunderstanding, I may talk about It, I am not afraid of showing what's happening in my life, everyone have problems afterall.

some folks 're jest that cold 'n callous i fear. i hope that yer friends treatments work - sendin' healin'

This is a shame, I'm afraid quite a lot of people are like that... so we have to be the strong ones ... to not let it make a difference... and perhaps try and educate others into giving some thought to people before judging them .... I like the comments below... and ADD my best wishes to your friend...

Yes, I have. Personally, I hate drama. My wife, on the other hand, thrives on it! If there isn't any, she creates it. I joke that she is like the television network, TNT. Their slogan is: "We know drama!"

It is folly to even judge anyone despite being with them for years. There is so much that will go to the grave without anyone else knowing about it.

It is a sad scenario but unfortunately quite very much happening - not only on the Internet but also in the real world. Almost everyone is concerned about him/her and how s/he views the things, incidents and happenings. Not many people have a heart to accept the fact that they are doing it. And, when they are explicitly told, such people say - "Oh, so sorry, I did not know that" and move on forgetting the damage that they have done already. In my case, there is this school friend who suddenly popped up from out of nowhere on whatsapp and we got connected after about 25 years. And this person just keeps referring me to places where I should apply for jobs. I told explicitly that I am ill and cannot commit, and since then the messages are - you are not ill and it is just in your head, followed by another place to apply or seek a job. Heck!!!

I actually don't persist if anyone i invited doesn't like to go . We have to understand that people have their own preferences and works to be done too .

Many people tend to hide their problems and griefs by taking on a role of a happy person. They do it just to maintain normalcy. One of my friends never revealed to more than five people that his mother was suffering from cancer. He thought that people would then treat him differently. Every person has his own personal space. If that's what one wants he/she should be allowed to do so. But yeah we can never judge anyone. Who knows what the person must be going through.

Actually when I find someone is acting a bit strange, or out of the norm from how they usually are. I always automatically think the worst. And then it gets me to worrying myself sick.

This is something everyone should read. You are right. We need to be more understanding when someone feels the need to say no, for whatever reason.

Well, some people are very quick to judge others. I don't understand it - especially ranting about it in public.