Is it so difficult to post comments on responses?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58678)
Delhi, India
September 11, 2015 4:52am CST
Hello everyone. 
I wish that users should understand what is intended by ‘interaction’ here on mylot. On my part I try to respond to as many posts as I could, when I am on mylot. If a friend has ‘suggested’ me to respond to a post, I ensure that I should respond to the post to the extent possible (if a post is such that I cannot contribute anything substantial on it, I skip it). However, what makes me feel bad – when a user ‘suggests’ me to respond to his/her post and I respond to the post but the user simply clicks on the ‘like’ button, without making any comments on my response. I wonder if it is so difficult to write few lines on my response or my responses are too worthless to be commented upon. I try to write few lines while responding, instead of finishing my response in one line. Do you feel the same way, the way I feel? 
I wish that users should understand what is intended by ‘interaction’ here on mylot. On my part I try to respond to as many posts as I could, when I am on mylot. If a friend has ‘suggested’ me to respond to a post, I ensure that I should respond to the post to the extent possible (if a post is such that I cannot contribute anything substantial on it, I skip it). However, what makes me feel bad – when a user ‘suggests’ me to respond to his/her post and I respond to the post but the user simply clicks on the ‘like’ button, without making any comments on my response. I wonder if it is so difficult to write few lines on my response or my responses are too worthless to be commented upon. I try to write few lines while responding, instead of finishing my response in one line. Do you feel the same way, the way I feel? 35 people like this
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@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
11 Sep 15
I try to come every post I see from a friend. Also I try to make some comments on the "no responses" list. I think it is good to help those "in need"
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@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
11 Sep 15
@Marcyaz we have to think that if we help others, they will help us back :)
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
11 Sep 15
@fufurinha Yes, that is very true and we can only think they will do so.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
11 Sep 15
I think at times there are too many notifications, and the beauty of these sites is the need to be in touch with everybody. The group is large. At times, some get more attention, at other times we will be inundated with that attention. Happens. One thing is for sure. We will never feel lonely out here. When we are free we can make new friends too. I think adding new friends everyday is also a good way to improve how we think and understand our flawed outlook. I do not take it as an offense at all, if others do not read my posts or reply. But I wont deny that it feels good when they do.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
@vandana7 - I agree with you that at times there are too many notifications and each notification cannot be attended to. However, a line in confirmation with regard to likability of our response will definitely encourage us to make more response to that particular user. It is good that you do not feel offended if anyone skip to post a comment on your response.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
11 Sep 15
@Marcyaz ..but when I post a discussion that is solely related to my country, it can be difficult for you to understand the perspective, right? Like yesterday, I opened a post that was talking about Hillary Clinton. Since I did not see that TV show, I could only deduce much of what was not said in the post. So I do understand when others want to say, we came, we saw, we read, we didn't understand, so we left.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
11 Sep 15
I feel that is is disrespectful not to comment back to rsspeonses i receive. After all, if they are going to take the time to respond, then I should take the time to comment back to them, and after all, that is how the interaction starts. I have seen some that post a discussion and walk away from it. That just isn't right, as that user isn't doing what mylot wants, and that is to interact. That is the best part of mylot for sure.
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@InnovationReaction (165)
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12 Sep 15
worth commenting
the more you interact, the more myLot becomes mine-a-Lot then to more-than-a-lot
@topffer (42156)
• France
11 Sep 15
I have one of my connections here who is a specialist. She suggests me any of her discussions. I have responded to 5 or 6 and I never received a comment. As she has also never responded or commented to one of my discussions, I am not even checking the discussions that she suggests now... The main interest of this site is all about interacting and sharing our opinions, if some members do not understand it, it is bad for them
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Sep 15
Just because I do not respond to something does not mean that I did not read it.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 15
Does she follow you though? 'Cause if she doesn't then you can't suggest discussions to her right?
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
Yes, you are very right that no one should force anyone to like or comment. However, posting comments on responses shows that the user wants to interact, rather than just posting his discussion and then disappearing. It is a matter of courtesy too in my view to at least acknowledge responses.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Sep 15
It is a matter of choice, but this is also a discussion site that pays for interaction. On the other hand, there are definitely times when no interaction is the best choice, especially if the person is trying to start an argument.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
11 Sep 15
No one is forcing anyone to ready anything or to comment or to like. You read and respond or not - that is up to you and it's up to each one of us. If a conversation has come to an end but someone continues it at that point I just hit like since I can't contribute anything else.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
Yes, no one could force anyone to make comments. It was simply my observation that if I receive some comments on my response, it makes me feel good and motivate me to respond to future discussions of that particular user.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
11 Sep 15
I try to respond to as many as I can. Sometimes I don't have much to say but I do try to say a little if I can think of something to say. If I am in a hurry sometimes I will just do a like cause someone has come to the door or my cell is ringing. I think if something is suggested than the least we can do is same a little something.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
I know about you that you always post your comments on my responses and it is always wonderful to read your comments. Yes, you are very right that if someone has suggested us the post, s/he should at least say something on our response. The one who suggests us a post hopefully expects us to respond and we hope that he will read our response and will post his comments.
Thanks for sharing your views.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 15
@Marcyaz I have to say that you're one of my favorite people on myLot!! It's always nice to see you responding on the discussions we post here and how you comment on other people's responses as well.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Sep 15
I comment on almost every response. If the response is only one line and I don't have anything to say I like it and leave it without a comment. I have experienced the same thing as you. I receive a suggestion, I read the discussion and I write a response, but the person doesn't comment back and sometimes the person doesn't even like my response. Of course it is people's own choice if they want to comment or not, but if it happens several times I avoid their discussions in the future.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
I know that you invariably post your comments on the responses received and you love to interact with friends here. Yeah, you are right that it is user's choice whether to like or post comments on our response, but if s/he regularly does it, we might restrain ourselves not to respond to his future posts.
Yeah, you are right that it is user's choice whether to like or post comments on our response, but if s/he regularly does it, we might restrain ourselves not to respond to his future posts.1 person likes this
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Sep 15
@Unforgettable_Raja we steal points from others..hahah..i know i'm picking up bad habits from the back of the class
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Sep 15
@Unforgettable_Raja Are you talking about your discussions or your responses?
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
11 Sep 15
This is not a level playing field. Some get attention and some don't. You should not worry. about these things. If those that suggest do not come back then the next time you just ignore their posts.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
I need to make a list of those users who suggest and then don't bother to post their comments on my response, so that next time I could avoid their posts.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 15
@dpk262006 There could be an interesting discussion that you need to voice your opinion on. If you don't respond/comment on it, then the others won't be able to read your opinion.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 15
I still have a long list of discussions that were suggested to me that I have yet to respond to.
But please note that I have not deleted those lists because I intend to go through each and every one of them. 
Not that I don't want to respond to them, but time does not permit me to do so much in a day. 
But I do respond/comment back.
But please note that I have not deleted those lists because I intend to go through each and every one of them.
Not that I don't want to respond to them, but time does not permit me to do so much in a day. But I do respond/comment back. 2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
@Jlyn10 - Doesn't matter if you post a delayed comment. Your comments are always welcome.
I read your comments above and I've come to know that you are a busy person.
I read your comments above and I've come to know that you are a busy person. 1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
I know that you love to respond and comment to posts which appeal you. It is correct that due to lack of time, we may not respond to all posts which are suggested to us. It is the case with everyone.
Thanks for being candid.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 15
@dpk262006 I do respond to them but that it just may take some time ... or maybe a lot of time. 
I am moving like a snail now.
I am moving like a snail now. 1 person likes this
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
11 Sep 15
Feelings
that is what this post is about. For me it is all about communication. I've thought the person will get that I like what they said but having a quiet moment. Then I found what you said and thought, I guess they didn't care much what I wrote. So it made me think I should say something if I can just to let the person know I'm there for them. It is too easy to be misunderstood, much too easy.
I think you will respond to my comment so when you do and I then come back want to read what others think.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
Yes, very true that any post is meant for communicating with each other. If they say something on our responses, it certainly makes us happy that at least the user who started the post read and understood our views. If he or she does not, it is his choice but this could make us pull back from his future discussions.
Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
@Bluedoll - Yes, I am not doubting the intention of any one. If a person just write few words, it encourages me to respond/comment.
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@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
11 Sep 15
@dpk262006 It could be the person is not being social and returning a comment but possible the intention might still be good.
I like being free to write only when I get the urge. (and I do write) But I know what you mean it doesn't hurt to drop at least one little thing so the person knows. I actually do that a lot.
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@yukimori (10148)
• United States
11 Sep 15
Sometimes.
I participate how I can, but I have a chronic illness that leaves me feeling bad more often than not. It also interferes with my ability to concentrate and occasionally leaves me unable to come up with the word I want to use. I'm guilty of just liking a comment to show that I've read it because I just couldn't come up with a response at the time.
I think most users understand that we have things to attend to in the real world and can't necessarily give each post the careful attention it deserves right when it's written. The great thing about the current algorithm is it doesn't seem to care how recent a post is when interaction happens.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
11 Sep 15
my brain 's scrambled more times 'n not. can 'see' the words, but they come out somethin' entirely diff'rent. on those days, i jest don't say a word. big hugs! i can surely empathize with ya!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
Yes, I know that you post your comments on the responses received and you also make sub-comments and counter-comments. I also cannot understand who simply press like making us feel that may be response was off the mark.
. I also cannot understand who simply press like making us feel that may be response was off the mark.2 people like this
@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
15 Sep 15
@Butchcass4 It is hard, I do my best not to forget people I follow.
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@Butchcass4 (5895)
• United States
14 Sep 15
@LadyDuck I am finding it hard to keep up with everyone and comment on everyone but I will do my best
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@InnovationReaction (165)
•
11 Sep 15
I like commenting. But, when I comment something, most of the time I make sure that after reading my comment I should see a happy smiley, at-least in their mind..
. But, when I comment something, most of the time I make sure that after reading my comment I should see a happy smiley, at-least in their mind..3 people like this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
Posting your comments will surely fetch you smiley.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Sep 15
Normally, I do not have a problem thinking up something to say, even if it is only a few words. There are times when I might not feel well or I might be in a bad mood, so then I will wait and return to it when I am in a better frame of mind. For instance, I might start a discussion and then something bad happens and I am sad. I wanted to talk about whatever I started the discussion about, but my mood does not allow it. Of course, when I am in a better mood I will return to respond as best as I can.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
Hello!
I understand your point that if you are unwell or your mood is off, you may not immediately comment on the responses. But even if you post your comments on the responses with some delay, that is fine because the user will come to know that you have read and understood his response.
Thanks for sharing.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
16 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Yes, that is one reason why I like the new notification system. We are now notified on here when someone comments/responds to us or even mentions us, so it is much easier to find the newer interactions without wasting a lot of time going back through old stuff to see whether or not anything has been updated. I think the new method keeps the interaction going better.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 15
I know what you feel because I experienced this too sometimes. But I try to have positive thinking. Perhaps he was busy that time and will come back later or because he has no idea or not everyday in mylot -just like me
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
It is nice to know that you try to remain positive and give the benefit of doubt to the user that he might be busy or he will return later to post comments on your response. You are right, even though we expect, every user may not be like us.
Have a nice day!
and give the benefit of doubt to the user that he might be busy or he will return later to post comments on your response. You are right, even though we expect, every user may not be like us.
Have a nice day!@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki - It is fine, I can well understand your time constraints.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Even I can't stay on Mylot everyday. Right now, with my tight working activity, I could Mylotting every 2-3days. I'm sorry for slow response
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 15
As much as possible,I always want to give comments to any responses I have interacted,to make them feel that I was able to read it even though days have been passed,I'm trying to catch them all slowly at a time
When no idea comes to my mind with the response,I usually hit the like.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
21 Oct 15
It is good to hear that you try your best to post your comments on the responses received, even when sometimes there is delay in posting your comments.
@Butchcass4 (5895)
• United States
12 Sep 15
I think it's better to respond than like as it opens up for conversation. I have to admit I am guilty of doing that, sorry
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
If you post your brief comments on the responses, which you feel like are to the point, it will help the user to further interact with you. You need not feel sorry because I have observed that you believe in interacting with others.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
@Butchcass4 - I understand that it is not easy to keep pace with lots of comments/responses, you could take your own time and if possible, you could post brief comments.
.@Butchcass4 (5895)
• United States
14 Sep 15
@dpk262006 I am trying to interact with everyone to be honest it takes a long time to respond to everyone but I will do my best.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 15
Sure, it would be nice to get a lot of responses and interaction on the discussions that I post. But I also have to expect that there would always be people who are just not interested in a particular discussion or just don't have anything to say. It doesn't bother me much, honestly. I try to respond in as many discussions (that I find interesting) as I can, and so far I've seen that most people do return the favor.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
It is not a question of responding to posts started by others or getting a large number of response. The point is - if you start a new discussion and I respond to your discussion, will you prefer to make comments on my response? or you will simply read it and will move ahead?
If you post few comments on my response, this will surely make me feel glad that my response has been acknowledged.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Sep 15
@cahaya1983 - what you opined is agreeable. My point is if the user feels that my response is worthless or not upto the mark then I should be informed so that I could make amends and improve. I try to write few sentences while responding and try not to post one liners.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Okay I got it. But I guess my answer above applies in that case, too. Sometimes my response to their discussion might be just a simple answer to a question they ask, so they might not have anything to comment on my response - which, for me isn't really a big deal. Of course we all expect the ideal scenario, people commenting on our responses and be more interactive (this happens more often than not, in my case), but if they don't, I'd rather just move on.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 15
Hello and welcome to mylot! You seem to be a newbie here and it will take a while for you to understand about nitty gritty of the site. You could take your time to read posts about mylot functioning.
Hope to see you more here on mylot.
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