Have you found your soulmate in your street ?

Figuratively speaking, or he was really living in the same street ? We feel more affinity with people doing the same job or coming from the same social background, and it is certainly better for a life-long marriage.

@topffer Figuratively speaking. We are born and grown in the same city. We did not live far one from another and we worked in the same office.

@LadyDuck Thank you for the precision. I am certainly too curious. I asked you because you were the first responder, but I noticed that the second one responded like you, and I will not do it again.

Maybe. I read that you met long ago. Where you in the same school ?

@fufurinha Same dance group ? You are certainly, figuratively speaking, in the same street. I should have done dance instead of fencing when I was a teen, to meet girls.

@topffer No, he is 3 years older than me. We were on the same school, yes, but it wasn't there that we met. We were part of a traditional dance group here in our town (it is called "Rancho").

Was it "love at first sight" ? I have never experienced this, but it looks like you did the right choice.

@topffer No, we were friends for two years and then decided that we could be more than friends. Somehow we knew that we were meant to be.

Awww this is so cute. Glad that you guys are together. I never got a chance to even meet my first crush and I was in class 8 that time. I saw her only on the Television

You were very young when you met him originally ! I believe more in fate than in luck. You can help luck, not fate, and you were probably made to be together.

@thesids Aww lol. I had a few crushes myself on the TV. Sadly I was fated to never meet them. But it's ok because obviously it wouldn't have mattered if I did or didn't.

Congrats and you sound so very happy...

9 years ? It is what we call earthenware weddings here. My preferred as I am a ceramologist and I never celebrated the 10. I wish you to celebrate your golden weddings.

@topffer Never knew there is such a term, haha. Thanks!

More than 30 years ? You met the man of your life then, even if he was not living in your street!

@topffer nah, i jest think we're too onery fer 'nother soul to be content with. he's quite spoiled that'un....

@topffer Well, I suppose that's true that we'd have met sooner or later. Although neither of us are particularly sociable, and we've known some of the same people but at different times. I even discovered that I went to college with one his his ex-girlfriends. Although that's not really surprising as she's a geek too, sharing similar friends, and my bf has had a lot of girlfriends so I was bound to know one of them!

@pumpkinjam I have not had a lot of girlfriends and the same happened to me. I lived during 4 years with a girl who was a public servant. She got a promotion and had to left for another city. We decided to separate but we stayed friends and we are still in contact. She introduced me to her new boyfriend and we realized that we were knowing each other : we were in the same college in another city. It was weird.

"Opposites attract" might work too... if they share some common interests/hobbies. With the same friends, you would have met soon or later with your soulmate. The world is more small than we think, and we always meet the people sharing the same interests than us, so we have more chance to "marry in the same street", figuratively speaking, than in a street where we are rarely walking.

@topffer yea, I don't mind taking a slightly poorer person to be my soulmate, as I am getting older now, 34 years old still not marry yet.

This saying is old and was from a time where all members of a profession had their shops in the same street. We have still streets named "Butcher's street", "Dyers' street", etc, in the old part of our cities. It is less easy to find your soulmate in the same street now. I wish you to find yours.

@ChesneyM In the past people were doing more marriages of convenience than marriages of love. I have noticed that it changed after the middle of the 19th C in France. Before, marriages between people from different backgrounds were very rare. By example a poor noble could marry the daughter of a rich merchant to "put some gold on his coat of arms" like we say in French, but it was not at all a love marriage.

@topffer And given that both of us were born and raised here - literally in the same area we are in now - we may have met on many of the same streets before we even knew each other - hee hee!

@much2say It is quite too much. We always meet soon or later people sharing the same interests than us, so it was probably not a complete coincidence.

Having common backgrounds certainly helps. You were both artists and working at the same place : you really met in the same street !

Your coach was a funny man but it looks like his recipe was good. You are an exception : you did not married in the same street, but in the same swimming pool.

@topffer ha, ha, I like that those who splash together stay together

@gregario888 that is really good

Are you both happy? Because that is what matters.

@fufurinha Off course I am, that is one thing where the lord almighty has been very kind to me, he has blessed me with a soul mate who is very caring and supportive to me.

It is all that matters isn't it ? I suppose that you were sharing many interests, and it is as important as having the same social or professional background.

wow!

Very good : I never exceeded 10 years for a relationship.

@topffer ok then now you should build up a relationship beyond ten years.

@ChesneyM When you marry your mate comes first then the rest of your family.

@topffer Instead, I think the chances of making it successful are higher. Agreed, ours is a love marriage, but trust me, me and wifey are completely opposite - diagonally might be more appropriate. We have nothing in common except the fact that we want to stay together.

Lol, I suppose that you are speaking figuratively. If a couple does not share any interest in common, it is probable that the marriage will not last long.

@topffer He was a police officer years before we met so no I followed him because I loved him and wanted him and still do.

If he was a police officer you had to obey to the law and follow him. It looks like you moved several times ! If your marriage worked, it is all good. I also don't count the number of times I moved.

@Marcyaz I was only joking, but you know it.

Maybe the spouse is right. Anyways, somebody born poor and becoming rich will never act like somebody born rich. In the past too much difference in social status was constituting a gate for a marriage. It changed with love marriages and it is not rare today. It should be interesting to have stats to see if these marriages between persons from different backgrounds are lasting long or not. Personally I think that they are as good as others if the spouses love each other and one of them has not married for money.

@topffer LOL - I think you are singing a different song, especially since I don't wear Bermuda shorts, but I will take it.

@purplealabaster I also don't wear Bermuda shorts, but you will not miss me with this one.

And you immediately felt in love before she walked in another street and told her "you and me wearing the same Bermuda shorts, it's love".

You are quite an exception in this discussion where only a few people have met their soulmate at their job. I would have thought to see more when I started it, but people are less falling in love at their job place today than in the past.

@topffer I am old school Here in India, and more specifically at my place, we are still a little traditional. Parents are supposed to find the life partner. My parents too did once way back in mid 1990s when we needed a lady in the house. Mom had been diagnosed with some problems in her brain and already was suffering with heart problems (back then). And the rest of people in family were only 3 males - all working. Dad and brother into business and me in a job. So it was all so very messed up. They found one for me, who was known to our family since the days of my dad's childhood. Problem was I never looked at her that way and she was always one of my cousin sisters friend to me. So I rejected the idea outright. eventually, brother got married (a love marriage) and that sealed off any chance I had. As no one cared about me getting married, I thought I had to find one on my own

@thesids We have had also convenience marriages long ago. Except perhaps in some very rich families, they don't exist anymore. I remember a 17 years old Muslim girl born in France and not speaking Arabic who was sent to Algeria by her parents to marry a cousin that she had never seen. I can hardly understand how the parents can do things like this... At least your parents did not forced you to marry this girl and let you make your choice.

Birds of a father stick together. Sharing the same passion is certainly important, but perhaps not enough for a life-long relationship like yours. You have certainly more in common to have celebrated your golden weddings.

Arranged marriages are very rare in my country nowadays. I suppose that your parents chose somebody having the same social background than you ? If you are happy it is all that matters.