Mistaken for Rude
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
September 11, 2015 9:48am CST
As an opinionated person, sometimes I like to say what's really on my mind. The little filter in my mind can be selective in what it lets through, especially if someone presses me for an honest opinion. Honest doesn't really mean nice, after all.
Sometimes a person with a strong opinion can be mistaken to rude. And I can see people's points, if you keep shoving the opinion down someone's throat, and forcing them to hear it. If you said your piece, let it go, let it lie, let it die.
Online, sometimes the fine line between someone having a strong opinion and someone being a jerk can be blurred. There have been times where I've been mistaken to be rude when I offered my honest opinion. Of course, part of the problem is some people ask for an opinion, but they want their thoughts echoed.
Guess it's all about how you interpret the written word. Intention can be a mixed bag, in the online world, and the real world as well.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
13 Sep 15
@jaboUK Yes that's right. Sometimes that is the reason for several disagreements, especially when it is just written down like in chat rooms or here in discussions.
@ZHVegas (248)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
11 Sep 15
I know what you mean, I am someone that also have a lot of opinions, and I also like to give my sincere opinion about things, even if people don't ask for that, It's just the way I am, you know? And people often think I am being rude, or that I am strange or even weird in some way...
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
11 Sep 15
People do honestly want to hear what they want to think. And obviously, we're going to ruffle some feathers no matter what we say, with certain people. So we might as well say what we think. Might as well go all the way in, even if people think its strange.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Sep 15
I am the same way. I like to be sarcastic and use that as a humoristic way of saying some things. I have been called the 'b' word because I do this. I still do it. People that know me know that I would be hurtful intentionally and they understand my humor. Others just don't seem to matter. They can see it their way or they can choose to get to know me.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Sep 15
@megamatt And if you are mindful and take care of your own emotions you can be the better person. I have to stay away from those situations because I have an Irish temper.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
11 Sep 15
Some people just aren't worth it in the end, unfortunately. People who hurl names(and believe me I've been called a few during my life), I think it could be considered rude. And some people take their lives a bit too seriously. Really does tell you a lot about a person about how they react and how personally they take things.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
12 Sep 15
Some people have a way of being honest and kind at the same time, and some people can just simply be blatantly honest, no holds bar. I, myself, have been offended by some people's honesty but I don't let it linger and destroy who I am. I do try to be patient and try to see the positive side of that.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
11 Sep 15
Straight forward, blunt, in a world where people appreciate honest, you'd think they would appreciate them even more. Even if it's not to our taste, at least you know where the person stands, beyond a mask of deception.
Some people disagree, and it leaves a bitter taste in their mouth.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
13 Sep 15
Hahaha, yes that happens to me too. People would rather hear or read others agreeing with them and attack those who don't. What's the point of asking the opinion of others if you're gonna be shooting them down right? And what's the point of answering if you're just going to attack the person asking the question? It's like they're asking for a disagreement to happen. 
Also when we ask for opinion we must be ready to accept whatever they throw at us, good or bad because some people can be rude instead of or when answering questions. My take on that is, if you've got nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all. But there are times I just can't help but answer back. 
Being honest sometimes also led me to the loss of some things I wanted instead of easily having them. Oh well. Lesson learned but I will still be honest and straightforward. 
Sometimes I feel like asking someone first if they want the straight and to the point answer or do they want a sugar coated and roundabout answer before I say anything.
Also when we ask for opinion we must be ready to accept whatever they throw at us, good or bad because some people can be rude instead of or when answering questions. My take on that is, if you've got nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all. But there are times I just can't help but answer back.
Being honest sometimes also led me to the loss of some things I wanted instead of easily having them. Oh well. Lesson learned but I will still be honest and straightforward. Sometimes I feel like asking someone first if they want the straight and to the point answer or do they want a sugar coated and roundabout answer before I say anything. 
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
12 Sep 15
This is actually good advice, one piece of advice, I think I'm going to pay attention to online. Don't want to be thought of as pushy. Sometimes you think people don't understand what you are saying and so repeat the same thing or you try to word it differently so they do. But yeah, I am definitely going to try to remember this now.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
12 Sep 15
It can be a bit frustrating when people don't understand. But when people come from different backgrounds, it's much harder to explain some things to others. It's the nature of life on the Internet. Sometimes though, there's no use in hammering in the point too much.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
12 Sep 15
@megamatt Yes I've noticed that. Also as you said some are convinced in their mind that they don't want to hear anything else. Once there is a conflict it is difficult to go back. If mutual respect is given at the start then it is much easier to accept others and they accept you. And it can stay that way. Could give an example but that might be for another post he he.
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@sprinklesare4winners (531)
• Avenel, New Jersey
12 Sep 15
its a tricky thing, sometimes people misinterpret things and/or are defensive from the get-go. then again, sometimes an opinion is unwelcome/not asked for, and thats something i had to learn the hard way haha
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
13 Sep 15
mabe thats the way it should be speaking our minds what ever is on it so true truth becomes us.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
13 Sep 15
I agree. But have you watched The Invention of Lying? Boy did that show make it awkward to watch honesty in all it's glory. I am honest too but that show made me cringe with what they were saying that it's kind of funny at some point.
That movie even prompted me to write an article about lying on another site.
I am honest too but that show made me cringe with what they were saying that it's kind of funny at some point.
That movie even prompted me to write an article about lying on another site. 
Ever thought how wonderful life would be if everyone would be honest with each other? Or do you prefer to hear lies so you won’t get hurt? How do you become successful in life? Is it from deceiving other people? Then you are no better than the corrupt poli
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
11 Sep 15
Anymore i think some things are misunderstood but we come back as speaking our mind and knowing whats on it how we look at things some might want to see or hear that kinda a like thats how we roll.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
13 Sep 15
I agree with that speak your piece then let it go
