Would You Sell The Baby because You Don't Have Money?
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
Indonesia
September 18, 2015 9:48pm CST
No... no..., I know it's such as stupid question. Of course I don't serious about that, but when you hear about this news, it will give you some headache.
Five days ago, there is news on our local television about a young couple got arrested by police officer for dispose their baby at price Rp 7.000.000 ( appr. USD$500 ). According investigation, the couple confess to dispose the baby because they don't have money to foster the baby. As plan, they will use that $500 to pay hospital cost post delivery.
For me it's very classic reason to cover their mistake ( don't have the money is the easiest reason to eschew- even though it may be true ). I know I wasn't in their position, but I myself hasn't rich enough when I had my first baby -in fact, that day our economical was not stable enough. I don't know how bad is their mental situation too, but it's really stupid decision to dispose the baby for money or because don't have money. I'm sure they have better solution if they are serious about it and still have morale
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@pumpkinjam (8763)
• United Kingdom
19 Sep 15
I won't say anything about thinking of whether you can afford the baby before having it because I don't know of their background. I mean, they could have been affluent when they decided to have a baby and then fallen on hard times since. But anyway, as for selling a baby. I believe there are two types of people who would do such a thing - those who think nothing of other lives but only of money, and those who are caring but must be in such desperate and dire need that they do not know what else to do.
I wouldn't sell my babies, certainly not for $500 - that wouldn't even pay my rent! I mean, I wouldn't sell my children at all because that would be a bad thing to do. :)
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
That's really a bad thing to do @pumpkinjam . At least if somebody really trap into difficult situation, they could have better choice like borrow money or let relative to adopt the children
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 15
Definitely NOT! If I was not ready yet (financially, emotionally and also relationship stability), I would not consider having a baby. It's my responsibility to bring him here and raise him up.
It's sad to hear the story, but I have also heard stories about some women selling their babies for "business". My aunt told me this, as this woman who stayed opposite of her house was selling her own babies to others. When some people wanted to buy baby (for any reason), they would approach this woman, and this woman would get pregnant. After the baby was born, the baby belong to the couples. All the fee, including good food and hospital were covered. I've heard the woman has sold a few of her own babies, except for the first child. I just found this sick, and can't imagine how she could do that.
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki It's definitely illegal!!! But, I think no one reported this, hence the woman is still there. I just don't understand why some people would "buy baby" from this kind of people, as she didn't even love the baby when the baby was in the womb.
But, it seems like there are just people who are willing to pay and buy baby. 
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 15
@kaka135 Having baby is every married people's dream. Those unlucky who tried their best to get pregnant but still met the failures, tend to look for short cut to have the baby. I guess this is the reason why this typical business still exist. This is so sad
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
That woman is desperately sick! As woman, I can't imagine how it feels of doing that. I know we all need money. But baby certainly is not a business. She should get arrested for her business. Isn't that illegal in Malaysia?
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
19 Sep 15
I guess if you're really poor you may consider it. I think if the option exists to have your baby adopted or give custody to a family/friend that would be better.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 15
Sell the baby and let the baby adopted or give custody to others are two different thing. When they mean to sell the baby, their orientation is only money so it's committed to criminal. When they think about adoption or custody by their relative, they have different purpose for the baby. We know it, the second option is far better
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Sep 15
well, we don't really know their present situation when they decided on that . But i know it's heartbreaking for them to do that , but if they don't the more that they can't take the baby with them because the bill at the hospital would keep piling up.
But if i were the parent , i certainly won't . I will just borrow money even if with interest just to be able to pay the bill and go home with the baby .
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
Indeed we don't know their situation, and pain.
I know you won't do that. THe baby is more precious!
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@skysnap (20153)
•
19 Sep 15
If I don't have money then I'd not have the baby at first place. I think that seems to be the best action to be taken. I have found that people who have unwanted pregnancy are often the one going to struggle in such conditions. Most of the time people should be focusing on things which they can manage financially.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
It's like my brother advice when I just got married. He told me to maintain my financial first before having children. Yet, I had my child only after 1,5 years after married. Our financial was not ready enough actually, but it's amazing how we can live with and enjoy being parent
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 15
I don't know the details of their situation but if they're selling the baby instead of giving the baby up for adoption...it just sounds fishy, to me. Or they could have at least refer the baby to an organization in charge of problems like that or something.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
She could choose any better option anyway. Anyone could trapped into any problem, but still they have some options to decide
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
22 Sep 15
To state that finance is an unacceptable reason sounds quite valid at face value, but it really depends on the severity of the situation. Naturally any parent would endure hardships to care for their child, but the problem becomes major if providing adequately becomes impossible.
If you were totally incapable of providing food for your child, would you not make the sacrifice of forfeiting your child in order to ensure that it is fed?
I am not suggesting that this particular case was that drastic, but there are always reasons that would force us to do something against our better judgement.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 15
I can feel that, that's why since beginning I said I don't feel their pressure and not in the situation. Poverty is everywhere and I know how it gives you pain, stress and make you can't think a better way out. Unfortunately this case happen over and over again in many places in the world. That's really sad
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
26 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki Oh yes, this is all too common a practice and in many cases it is greed rather than concern for the child's future that drives this.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 15
@Asylum In fact, some people are not ready yet to become parent in time of baby were being delivered. It requires responsibility and maturity
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 15
Is it legal in USA @jstory07 ?
It's acceptable actually if the baby is for adoption. But I'm afraid that the baby is not for adoption but for human trafficking or something even worse
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 15
True, Ana. I just can imagine how does she felt when she heard her baby first crying. Does it make her crushed or she has no feeling at all?
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 15
@LadyDuck It's very true dear. Perhaps we can make it as positive point, because the baby, hopefully, will be in better hand
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
26 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki If she had no feelings at all, she does not deserve to keep the baby, she will never be a good mother.
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@MrZ0mbiesFanatic (168)
• Shreveport, Louisiana
19 Sep 15
I would never sell my baby for money. I don't care how desperate the situation may be, or how badly I need money, if I choose to have a baby I will care for it, not get rid of it cause I can't afford to take care of it.
They should have thought about that before getting pregnant.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 15
Thank you @MrZ0mbiesFanatic .
We are on the same boat. It's true! We can't blame situation or fate because we always have choice. There are so many people who still defend for the baby no matter what their situation. Once they are getting pregnant, they have time to prepare everything
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