Losing A Loved One

@simone10 (54187)
Louisville, Kentucky
September 25, 2015 8:09am CST
Have you ever lost a loved one? As you get older, it is inevitable that it will happen sooner or later. One year I lost my fiance, my grandfather, my Mom and a close friend. It was one of the hardest times of my life. The only thing that got me through was my faith which I discovered when my fiance died. I was so distraught and was searching for something to ease my pain. I started reading the Bible and found what I was looking for. I was saved and also baptized. My faith helped so much with the other losses that year. My Mom was by far the hardest to get over. She has been gone for almost 20 years now and I still miss her everyday. But now I try and think of the good memories which does help. Have you ever lost a loved one? What helped you get through it?
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• United States
25 Sep 15
Yes, I have lost many loved ones in my life. My mom when I was 7, my dad when I was 9. Grandparents, 3 siblings, close friends. Just to name a few. I got through it, but knowing that they are in a better place now and that some day I will see them all again.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
That has to have been so hard to lose your parents at such a young age.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
27 Sep 15
Sorry it must have been difficult to lose both your parents at such a young age. As you said you did get through it as difficult as it must have been.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
@Marcyaz Yes, that it was. Even in my adult life it has affected, but you learn to cope. For there isn't anything you can do about it.
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@Salamnda (476)
• United Kingdom
25 Sep 15
what if we accept the reality that life is not going to last for us all? i mean to live with the idea that life is just like a man rested under a tree for a while then he continued traveling ? i think this is just what life is , its like a bridge and thats not lasting long , while we all going to cross that bridge and pass away , why not live accepting this and live accordingly?
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• Aurangabad, India
25 Sep 15
Great thoughts!
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
27 Sep 15
@Salamnda I really don't think we can be prepared to lose a loved one.
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@Salamnda (476)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 15
@simone10 it makes you sad yes , but when you think that way all the time , not only when you lose one, you will be prepared , for what ever comes in
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
25 Sep 15
Yes, I have lost many in my life. I lost my father and mother in-law within a week of each other which was very difficult as they lived about 125 miles from each other and it was a horrible week. This was in 1984. Then in Feb. of 2011 I lost my husband and his sister within 26 days of each other this was also extremely difficult. If not for my one son being there with me I don't know if I would have made it through this or not.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
Oh my, you really have lost a lot in your lifetime. I am so very sorry about your losses.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
27 Sep 15
@simone10 Thank You as you know this is not an easy thing to go through.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
28 Sep 15
@Marcyaz No, it's never an easy thing to go through and it changes us each time it happens.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Sep 15
I lost both my mother and my father within five months of each other. It is always my faith that gets me through anything in life. I know that God was taking them to a better place.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
Knowing that my Mom was out of pain gave me peace of mind.
@Tampa_girl7 (50561)
• United States
25 Sep 15
Yes, it is very hard, but like you I turned to God for comfort.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
God is the only way I was able to get through it all.
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• United States
25 Sep 15
Faith has also gotten me through the devastating loss of a loved one
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
The same with me. I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have God in my life.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
26 Sep 15
Yes, I lost my sweet husband of 40 years when he passed in 2009. Oddly it was he himself who helped me get through the loss because being somewhat older and expecting to go before me, he insisted that we plan ahead so that I would know what to do when he left and have everything in place, including online preplanning. I used to resist this, thinking it was somewhat morbid, but when the time came, I learned how very fortunate I was that he had done all this.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your husband was a smart man.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
26 Sep 15
i'm sorry for your loss, time can never heal some wounds I dread the day i lose one of my parents
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
3 Dec 15
It is my faith that gets me through these horrible times. It is unfortunately part of life and we get older we live through more of it.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Dec 15
I know what you mean. To me, that is one of the worst things about getting older, losing loved ones.
@sofssu (23662)
29 Sep 15
OH yes two years ago I lost two of my best friends, my mom and two of my close cousins. I just quit writing and crafting.. i couldn't do anything.. I had an unfinished canvas for almost a year and a half I finally had to throw it out. It was just my faith that helped me through it all. In fact there were three deaths in two months. All of them were so sudden.
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@sofssu (23662)
30 Sep 15
@simone10 It was emotionally paralyzing to say the least.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
1 Oct 15
@sofssu I can't even imagine what you must have gone though.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
30 Sep 15
I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing 3 loves ones in 2 months had to be so difficult for you.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 15
I lost my grandparents many years ago and I still miss them today. It was hard. I even dream about them every now and then.
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• United States
25 Sep 15
my deepest condolences 'n i'm glad that'cha found yer faith. we always miss 'em 'n wonder what life'd unfolded 'd they not left's so soon. i've lost lots 'f folks myself. the hardest blow was my dad 'n then less'n 3 weeks later my mamaw. i've not the faith that yerself 'n many others possess. what helped me was workin' with the critters.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
@crazyhorseladycx I like your way of thinking . My fiance had horses and we used to love to go out and spend time at the barn every weekend. I loved being around the horses and didn't even mind cleaning out the stalls.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
I can imagine that working with your horses is it's own kind of therapy.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
@simone10 yes ma'am. great fer lowerin' blood pressure (groomin' 'em is most relaxin') 'n when yer workin' with 'em ya gotta stay focused to the lil schtuff. when yer able to ride a good'un, ya jest let yerself go completely. i call it my 3-step rehab program
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@garymarsh6 (23408)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 15
I think that when certain people die it affects you in different ways I think the worst loss for me was my mother. It ripped my heart out and it is certainly a life changing moment especially when it is not expected. It is so hard to lose a loved one. I am glad you found some solace in comfort in your faith.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
Losing my Mom was the hardest for me as well. It's been almost 20 years and I am still not over it completely.
• Bhopal, India
28 Sep 15
Trust God, He is always on your side! I lost my dad - things got tough ...but eventually it made me independent and strong. God is always there -- he is the only 1 who gives -- Only1. Take care :)
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
I agree that God is always on our side. That is who I turn to when a loved one passes away. He is the only one who can give me the comfort I need.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Sep 15
It's happened to me (almost ALL my grandparents, a cousin, etc.), but I didn't really think about "how." I guess you could compare it (like I've compared 'breaking-up') to "losing a limb." Sure, you miss the arm-or-leg and can no-longer use it for what you almost took-it-for-granted for before; but you need to soldier-on without it
@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
That's a different way to look at it. We all have to do whatever we need to do to grieve and be able to move on.
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@martinbm (44)
• Bulgaria
25 Sep 15
Everyone has these moments and this is the time when you get stronger than before.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
I agree, it not only changes you but it makes you stronger.