Transgender

@celticeagle (167019)
Boise, Idaho
September 25, 2015 9:25pm CST
I read a book one time about a woman that was a transgender. She had had his sex changed after he was born. Sounds awful doesn't it? She was one of those born with both geniatelia. Her parents had been close minded enough to go ahead and choose for her and made him a male. Whoa! Let's play God shall we? Not! So, anyway-- he grew up and felt this was not the sex for him and went through the steps to change it and became a woman. I think this would be horrible.(Horrible that they made that decision for him) I am glad that I was born with the normal organs and all are working and I feel okay with it all. But, what about those that aren't? To have your parents make that very personal decision for you. Of course, that was in a generation when such things were very hush-hush and no one even spoke about such things. There was a father on Dr. Phil recently who was really having a problem with all of this. His son was open with him and had gone through this operation. The father was totally macho dad and freaked out over it. It would be a rough row to hoe to have a darling boy, have him born healthy and want all the best for him and then....oops! Not going that way Dad. Right? I have known several gays, lesbians, transgenders, transvestities, etc. in my over sixty years on the planet. Have had several meetings and run ins both. My third husband and I were going through San Francisco back in the 70's and I had to insist that he stop so I could go potty. Quickest place was a bar so I run in, he's behind me and waits in the bar while I go to go. I come out a few minutes later to find my husband standing up against the wall near the rest rooms with this stricken look on his face. When I was able to get him to speak he told me he had just gotten his first and, what he hoped would be his last, proposition. I had to laugh. It was a gay bar! Another time I was friends with a gay man when I worked at a answering service in the mid 80's. He was in his early 20's and was a clothes w*ore. He wore a suit and he looks like a NYC lawyer. He was handsome. He and I didn't have a good beginning. He wanted more young people at the AS. But he and I became close friends. He told me a lot about himself and I learned a lot about gays from him. He became my stylist, my comrade, my confidante, and very dear friend. Having a sensitive, caring person like this in my dugout was very good for me at that point in my 30+ life. I hope I gave him somewhere near as much in return. I did help him with a college paper he had to write one time. I help him write it, then I typed it up for him and he got an A+ on it. The subject matter was about his psyche and why and what made him what he was from his standpoint. There weren't many who could help him with the paper since I was one of the very few that knew his story. One night we went out to the club. It was called the Emerald Club and was a gay bar. He introduced me to his friends. One of these was a transvestite so emaculately dressed any woman with half a feminine bone in her body would have been jealous. Her make-up was so nicely done. Everything was perfect and she/he looked so pretty. I was wowed. So, fast forward to the other day when this father was on Dr. Phil. Transgender, gays, lesbians, transgenders, transvestites, all seem to have this same characteristic. They are stubborn. They have to go through quite a long procedure before they can actually have the full change over operation/surgery. I have no idea how that must be for them but I solute them. In some countries, even in this 21st century world, it is actually AGAINST THE LAW to be gay. Gays are being slammed, beaten even killed right here in the U.S. of A. Why? Because the person doing these acts is ......what? scared, fearful,egotistical what? Homophobic idiots?
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@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
26 Sep 15
I have heard that some people that are gay think they wee born in the wrong body. They can not change the way thast they feel. They need to be excepted for who they are.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 15
That is right. Too bad some people can't.
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
26 Sep 15
Everyone needs to be accepted for who they are.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 15
@Marcyaz .....Such an easy thing.
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• Avenel, New Jersey
26 Sep 15
it is sad and must be a very intense struggle, emotionally and physically. no one can understand unless they go through it but we all should be compassionate. it is another one of lifes struggles and we all go through our own in varying degrees.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 15
To feel so set apart but be awful.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
4 Oct 15
The idea of imposing such an operation on a child sounds quite barbaric to me. I find it very hard to imagine someone subjecting their own child to an unnecessary operation at any age.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Sep 15
because some people are so set in their ways, they don't have a caring heart and refuse to change.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 15
I think you are right.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
28 Sep 15
I think that transgenders should be able to go through the procedure to become a man/woman. This is not something they take lightly and there is all kinds of red tape and therapy they have to go through before they are even accepted to have the surgery. I know of people who say God doesn't make mistakes. I am a christian and I don't think God did make a mistake. He made people just the way he intended to whether straight, gay or transgender. There is a purpose to what he is doing, even if it is to bring awareness to others, but some people are so blind that they can't see it.
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@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Sep 15
That is an interesting take on it. Thank you for your input.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
@celticeagle It's just how I feel. I know a lot of christians are against gays and transgenders but the God I learned and read about is all about love, not hate and judgement.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
26 Sep 15
Just wait until people can change genders completely without horrible surgeries! We'll have a lot of confusion in the world then.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
26 Sep 15
I won't fault the parents, as baby was in no position to express the choice. He made it later, which might not have been possible had the parents decided to just let it be. I think when someone go through this procedure, they are still playing God. Apart from that, it's ridiculous how people feel they have a right to meddle in your life just because you chose to be different than 'norm'. Doesn't include the people who have to cope with the (abrupt/not) change.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
26 Sep 15
I enjoyed reading this story. There is so much we hear about now. Being aware of everything happening in the world surely is a challenge. I don't understand completely but for example there is a huge difference between gay, gender transition, transvestite etc all with a specific set of particulars. The social impact and emotional experiences really complicate things. Having an awareness seems to be a challenge today as vandana revealed. Where this is going is certainly interesting.
• Preston, England
26 Sep 15
There is a candle-lit vigil every year in Manchester at which the names of homosexuals killed in homophobic attacks globally are read out one after another. Tragically the list is getting longer rather than shorter every year but it is a very moving tradition here.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 15
It must be horrible if you think you are in the wrong body. I don't think you should judge those parents too harshly - they couldn't really wait for years before the child was old enough to choose. They surely couldn't leave him/her neither one thing nor the other.