What's the deal with swearing?
By Cahaya
@cahaya1983 (11116)
Malaysia
September 27, 2015 3:21am CST
Call me a stick-in-the-mud, but I can't stand profanity.
The Association of Psychological Science says that 0.5% of people's daily word output are curse words. Apparently they also found a correlation between this behavior with Type A personality - people who are ambitious, outgoing and competitive (can't say I totally agree with that, though).
Some say it's merely a case of a strong lack of better words.
Studies find that swearing is a way for some people to release bottled up anger and frustration, and at times serves as pain relief. Not only that, it supposedly makes people more "attractive" and "confident". In other words, you're not cool enough if you don't swear.
Any thoughts on this? What's your reaction towards people who swear a lot?
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13 responses
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 15
I avoid that kind of people. I'm an old school woman, I like to live in peace. I don't like to deal with that kind of people. Usually, no matter you're the right one, you will never win to argue with them
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 15
@cahaya1983 The worst thing about it, it really affects child psychology and made them to follow that path
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
I also prefer not to deal with those people but sometimes you just happen to be in a situation where you have to. The worse thing is when they become so insensitive and still use bad language when there are children around.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
27 Sep 15
My percentage would be much lower than that. If you are not a person who is used to coarse language, then those who use it constantly can be intimidating. Some people use it because that is their habit, It is how they talk, naturally . They think nothing of it. Some people use it to try to sound cool or intimidating. Those types of people are actually trying to assault you with their words, and it can work. I find it tiresome, because there are so many other, more descriptive words one can use.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
I've never been to able to understand why some people use it too much. I think many of them use those words to sound cool and the habit starts to develop from there. Of course once it becomes a habit they would think that it's only normal to use those words in their daily talk.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
27 Sep 15
This is quite simply indoctrination. We all learn a basic command of the language from our parents and others around us, after which we go to school and learn a better command of our native tongue.
Despite being given a deeper understanding of the language, we still retain the early knowledge of local terminology, which we continue to encounter as we grow up. This makes the local terminology a part of us to some degree.
I am perfectly capable of holding a quality conservation, but when speaking emotionally or not paying adequate attention to my grammar, I still use local phrases and it is obvious that I was born in Bolton.
Sadly the use of profanities has grown rapidly over previous decades and it is now not uncommon in my area to hear young parents using atrocious language to their young children or toddlers. This level of indoctrination not only instils this language into the child, but assures them that the use of this language is perfectly acceptable.
I still cringe when I hear parents and their children using such language in conversation with each other because it was totally taboo in my childhood, but amazingly nobody seems to notice these days.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
It still is a taboo in my family/culture, and it's probably one of the reasons why I detest it.
What you said about parents using such language at home - even in front of the kids - is true. There was a YouTube video where they interviewed several kids (around 9-12 year old) about the worst words they've heard from their parents and needless to say, I was shocked. If that's the kind of language they hear at home then no wonder it's seen as something normal.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
4 Oct 15
Apparently I don't like swearing in public, but I do curse a lot when I'm on my own. It's not good to hear people who swear just for the heck of it. My ears still "ache" whenever I hear curse words but my mouth runs freely when I am alone.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
5 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 True. Sometimes I wonder why I do it but then again I like to let off steam via swear words. Only my brother gets to hear a lot of it when he's around.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 15
Haha. Well at least you don't give other people that earache since they can't hear those words!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Sep 15
I don't like hearing a person so fond of swearing . I even would tell my husband to stop saying a seemingly vulgar word when he is telling a story . But to him , it's not cursing , but just part of him being a man .
Though still , i want him to stop saying that vulgar word .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Sep 15
@cahaya1983 Most men are like that . They feel that it's part of their machoism .
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
Yeah, some people start to develop that habit just because they feel it's a cool thing to do and want to be part of the mainstream (whatever that means anymore). It doesn't help when they think that it's associated with machoism, either.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
@SIMPLYD Plus if you noticed the "tough guy" character in the movies and TV shows tend to do that a lot.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 15
Well if it does add something then I must have failed miserably to see that. I know it annoys me pretty effectively though, haha.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 15
@WorDazza True. I don't have problems tuning out those words when I know that the person is really really angry or frustrated about something, I guess. It just goes in one ear and right out the other. But when it's used too much in a conversation, yeah I do find it very distracting.
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
2 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 I think when somebody hardly ever swears then the odd F-bomb dropped into a sentence can convey their strength of feeling in an efficient, effective way. All too often these days though, I hear conversations punctuated with so many profanities it's almost impossible to decipher what was actually said.
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@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Sep 15
There's a time and place for it - but I hear it all too often as many people seem to use it even though it's completely not necessary. I can't tell you how many times I'd go to the store and hear adults and teens alike (and shockingly some children) swear with every other word they speak - and it doesn't matter to them that there are young ears around that hear this. It's part of everyday normal language to them maybe - which is terrible. I can tolerate foul language to a point - but I don't want to hear it excessively as a filler in one's vocabulary!!
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@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 Yes, now that is disturbing. Like I said, they seem to think this is everyday normal language - they don't see it as being foul. Makes you wonder if their parents were like this - or their friends and family - as children as so easily influenced - and it just stuck. Terrible.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
I guess it's understandable when people say that when they're extremely angry about something, that's usually when people don't (and most of the time can't) filter their language. But I don't get why some use it in every 2-3 sentences as if they can't breathe without talking like that.
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@sofssu (23662)
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28 Sep 15
I am not a big fan of those using cuss words or swear words. I guess it is more of a habit. some people do that it to a whole new level calling all the gods down to Earth. I guess culture and up bringing plays a huge part. In our home we could never dare to use such words or speak with disrespect.
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@sofssu (23662)
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29 Sep 15
@cahaya1983 Sometimes it becomes a normal manner of speech when they grow up with it. I kind of shudder at such rude talk. I don't allow my boys to use any word that is disrespectful or bad.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
I agree, I grew up in a family and culture that don't tolerate such language at home or outside and I think that plays a huge part. It's definitely a habit that is hard to break especially if they started using those words at a young age.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 15
Haha, good one. I'm against unsolicited swearing too!
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 We live in a country town and most of the college guys here use the F word a lot. It is used like every other word.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 15
It is, and it's a sad thing that it has become very common. Kids get so used to hearing profanity at an early age and grow up thinking that it's not a big deal.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
3 Oct 15
I can go days without swearing. But if I'm driving I might not make it to my destination without swearing. Unless I eat something, then I don't care how annoying other drivers are being.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 15
I know what you mean. I find it a distraction especially when I'm trying to focus on a discussion or conversation. It's annoying, really.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 15
I understand. Some people say them when they're angry or frustrated, but a lot of times it has become very common in conversations when there's no need to use them at all.
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