If You Want A Man's Respect

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I'm not sure how true this bit of a podcast like thing is, but it said that after doing research that men would rather be respected by someone than loved by someone. I think that perhaps the two go hand in hand, but in the mind of a man, perhaps that's not the case? The guy that I've been spending time with is someone that I have known for over 8 years, we spent some time together years ago, it was a friendship and yet it was laced with a lot of sexual tension and messages that hinted at more, but we never kissed etc. Now 7 years later, I am getting to know him better again, and I know that he's been hurt by women in the past, and finds it hard to trust them. I find it hard to trust them as well, and I'm a woman. But anyway, I'm doing my best to show him that I'm not the kind of girl he's used to. That he can trust me. He got sick recently and I made him a "Get Well Soon" bag. With things like "Hall's" cough drops, supplements, Theraflu, a dirt bike magazine and harley magazine since he has both, airborne chewables, hot chocolate for his son, dog treats for his dog, and I put them into a large "Spiderman" gift bag so that he could reuse it for his son since his son loves "Spiderman" his son actually found the bag first. Which was probably exciting for him, he's 4. My friend/more hopefully told me that it was probably the nicest thing anyone has ever done for him. So for all of you ladies out there, and I know that there are a lot out there who expect a man to shower them with gifts and jewelry, and free dinner, if the man in your life isn't feeling respected by you, chances are he's not going to love you, or stick around for long. A man likes a surprise once in awhile too. I honestly don't expect a man to pay, or buy me things, it makes me feel uncomfortable. But I'm that way because my Dad always told me that if someone ever gave him something, it felt like charity. And although he always told me if I go on a date with a man, to let him pay, but be sure to order small :) I have my Dad's mentality about it still. I do try to pay my own way, as much as I can.