emotional response

Do you cry?

@sofssu (23662)

October 7, 2015 2:56am CST

Its crazy that people still think that men should not cry. Crying is an emotional response like smiling.. Normal people smile when they feel happy and cry when they are sad . Do you still feel that men believe that its not manly to cry? How do you feel around people who do not emote / show emotions at all? What makes you cry? I don't cry too often, but I do cry at loss and emotional pain.

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@Rollo1 (16679)

• Boston, Massachusetts

7 Oct 15

I prefer no one cries, it makes me cry.

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@Rollo1 (16679)

• Boston, Massachusetts

7 Oct 15

@sofssu I am very selfish.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@Rollo1 You want people to be abnormal beings? Its okay to cry.

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@gudheart (12659)

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7 Oct 15

LOL I know what you mean, if I see someone crying it makes me emotional. I am a big softy

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@cahaya1983 (11116)

• Malaysia

7 Oct 15

You know what's interesting? That young boys have learned that crying is a sign of weakness too. A friend of mine recently told about her 6-year-old who cried when he was getting an injection at the hospital, and he got really, really upset afterwards because he said he didn't want to cry because he saw it as something "bad".

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@cahaya1983 Call it social conditioning. We have drilled it into our kids that boys don;t cry.. to cry is sissy.. We start to blunt their emotions right from childhood. Blame it on us for telling them crying is abnormal.

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@gudheart (12659)

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7 Oct 15

@sofssu Yep it is social conditioning and it is not right :(

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@gudheart Its sad really.. It is like maiming someone emotionally.

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@rosekiss (30414)

• Eugene, Oregon

7 Oct 15

I do cry when I think about something that happened that is sad, or if something devastating has happened in my life. Otherwise I don't cry all that much. There is nothing wrong with crying though, as it helps to get out the feelings you are having at the time. I do cry very easily when I do cry, as I am an emotional person. I wish I weren't, but i have been this way my whole life.

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@rosekiss (30414)

• Eugene, Oregon

8 Oct 15

@sofssu I agree with that. If we don't get it out, then it stays bottled up, and then one day, you just explode because you needed to getit out so bad. I don't like to hold anything in, and I don't either.

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@sofssu (23662)

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8 Oct 15

@rosekiss Its a natural thing to cry when the situation warrants it. I don't think we need to apologize for our tears. I feel it is better to express ourselves than to keep it all within.

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@sofssu (23662)

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8 Oct 15

@rosekiss That is the best way to handle emotions .. deal with them immediately.

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@prashu228 (37524)

• India

8 Oct 15

@sofssu I don't cry, but I feel that all humans and normal people will cry / laugh/smile according to situation.

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@prashu228 (37524)

• India

8 Oct 15

@sofssu never mind.I was trying to describe the subject that's all.Actually i missed adding often in my previous reply.

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@sofssu (23662)

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9 Oct 15

@prashu228 Okay.. I was wondering what you meant by that..

@sofssu (23662)

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8 Oct 15

@prashu228 Does that make you not normal? Sorry I am not getting this right.

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@cgalavia (1436)

• Philippines

7 Oct 15

I am a crying baby even just watching a drama or TV shows,I cry so easily. About men they rarely cry.They are strong enough to carry or bear a certain pitiful or awful situation.I have never seen my father cried because when he does he never let us see and I wondered now how does he looks like when he cry.

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@cgalavia (1436)

• Philippines

7 Oct 15

@sofssu Many have said that to me and I did not complain about it.That's what I thought too.We children we get our strength everyday because of them,our parents ,that's why a father wants to be strong and brave for the comfort of his Family.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@cgalavia True.. But I believe a strong person is one who is able to express his/her emotions and still carry on.. what do you think?

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@cgalavia You may be over emotional.. but that is better than being a block of wood. I love the way you describe your dad.. I guess it might break him to let you see him crying. Most men feel that they have let down themselves if they cry.

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@OneOfMany (12150)

• United States

7 Oct 15

Crying is okay. Wailing is not acceptable. If the pain gets too much for me or I feel like I'm dying, I will shed tears. In college when stress and anxiety made it so I was suffocating (because of symptoms related to my brain injury), I'd cry because I thought I might die and it was torture not knowing. These days I will shed tears if I'm watching something emotional.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@OneOfMany I agree with you completely on this. One doesn't need to wail to express himself or herself.. tears are enough I guess. Wailing to me is a little dramatic.. though people may differ with me on that..

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@OneOfMany That is possible when you are so averse to wailing

. I still feel some empathy in some cases. though not always. Yesterday I was watching a part of some movie.. (I don't know which one..its always like that with me) The lead actress was howling.. because she was dumped... and it got me into a fit of laughter..so I am there with you on that.

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@OneOfMany (12150)

• United States

7 Oct 15

@sofssu Wailing is awful. Although when people wail, my reverse empathy kicks in and I think it's hilarious!

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@allknowing (136541)

• India

8 Oct 15

Just as women are getting in mens' shoes so too will men realise the benefits of doing what women are doing and so cry they will and should.

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@sofssu (23662)

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8 Oct 15

@allknowing You are right about that its time the men learned to emote

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@xiaolisu (957)

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7 Oct 15

I cant control my tears out of my eyes when I listening the song "it isn't easy somebody loves you "

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@ xiaolisu Its a natural occurrence .. I cannot stop myself from laughing. I laugh out loud in the real sense of the word. I cannot stop myself from crying when I need to cry.. I cry silently but the tears fall nonstop.

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@LadyDuck (471421)

• Switzerland

7 Oct 15

I am a woman, but I do not cry very often, I only cry when there is something really serious happening to one of my family member or my friend.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@LadyDuck I don't cry often either.. But I do cry when I need to.. I have no hang ups there like you.

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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)

• United States

8 Oct 15

Our tears are a gift from God.

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@sofssu (23662)

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8 Oct 15

@Tampa_girl7 Sure it is.. it comes in the same package though..

@gudheart (12659)

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7 Oct 15

I think it is important that everyone showcases emotion no matter man or woman.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@gudheart We need to let out steam and cry or talk it out. We cannot afford to push it under the carpet .. it keeps building up and will errupt someday in one form or the other.

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@sofssu (23662)

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7 Oct 15

@gudheart Yeah it could be one of those reason they get into action before they seek more information..

@gudheart (12659)

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7 Oct 15

@sofssu Maybe that is why some men get violent because they can not express emotion other ways. Still no excuse for violence though.

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