Out of sight out of mind

By sofs
@sofssu (23662)
October 7, 2015 8:26am CST
Does this really happen in relationships? Do you think you can forget people close to you because they are out of sight? Life is a juxtaposition I feel .. where what is real for me may be the opposite for some. They other saying 'Distance makes the heart fonder' is more the truth in my case.. I miss my friends more when there is silence and distance between us.. How is it for you?
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
7 Oct 15
I had a long distance relationship once and we gradually just stopped talking to each other. It was kind of a mutually understood break up because we drifted apart. If we were together I think we would have done really well.
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@OneOfMany Aww that is so sad.. was it because at the back of your mind you knew that it wouldn't really work for you because of the distance? Or you just drifted apart?
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@OneOfMany That is really really sad. I am such a romantic at heart .. hope you find the right person in the right place .. if you haven't already.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
7 Oct 15
@sofssu We were talking about our future together and we spent many nights up all night chatting to each other. Eventually we talked less, and were busy with life, and days would go by, then a week or more, and one day it just stopped.
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@LadyDuck (471459)
• Switzerland
7 Oct 15
I had a fiancee who lived long distance from me. We met every two weekends. I thought nothing would have ever separated us, until I met my actual husband. Out of sight out of mind is true.
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@LadyDuck I believe what is meant to be will be. Yes in the beginning stages its difficult to maintain a long distance relationship.
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@LadyDuck I guess you found your true love.. I am happy for you..
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@LadyDuck (471459)
• Switzerland
7 Oct 15
@sofssu Yes, I did, with my husband, we met every day in the same office, it was hard to keep a long distance relation.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Oct 15
Oh no. For me, it cannot be - "forget people close to you because they are out of sight!". If there is anyone close to my heart, I have always been fond of him or her. Distance does never matter. Just a small one - I still love my first crush - the girl who played Vicky the robot. And I never met her ever nor I will ever get a chance to meet her. Still, I am fond of her. Even did a search on Internet to find out that today she is working as a nurse. There are definitely some Mylotters too, whom I miss around - and they are not in touch with me either. Have a long list from real world too.
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@thesids Glad to know that your heart is stronger than the miles and miles between you and the other person. LOL I you still love your first crush?? some one you have never seen for real.. hmm I guess your imagination is very active. I agree with the real world.. I have a long list of people I want to see and spend time with
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@thesids I am in touch with most of my childhood friends even though I live far away. I agree with you distance really doesn't matter.. Memories and imaginations are enough to keep them close.
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@skysnap (20153)
7 Oct 15
Isnt that a truth? I have found that most of the people in our life are like that. They come and go ahead. It is not that easy for us to live if we know how out of sight is out of mind most of the time.
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@skysnap Not for me.. My heart feels more as the distance increases.. But I guess people will respond both ways equally.. I am curious to see.. how it goes.
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@gudheart (12659)
7 Oct 15
I think that distance does make the heart grow founder in my case too.
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@gudheart Glad to know that I am not the only one.
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@gudheart (12659)
7 Oct 15
@sofssu I think there may be a few that feel the same :D
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
@gudheart I am waiting to see the responses.. I am curious.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
8 Oct 15
i think its hard to let someone go because it hapopens no i wouldn't want to miss anything when you have distance between yourselfs
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@softbabe44 It is hard to let someone go.. distance really doesn't matter to me atleast.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
7 Oct 15
I think both or either one can be true depending on the people involved and the strength of the relationship. You might miss one person terribly, and forget all about another that you thought was important in your life.
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@sofssu (23662)
7 Oct 15
I find it very difficult to forget people and delete them from my life.. I am not sure if it would have been nice to delete some people .. at the touch of a button.
@allknowing (136541)
• India
8 Oct 15
That is more a rule than an exception these days.Fine if they are actually away but some choose to stay away if you are of no use to them, although you have done loads for them in the past. I have several such ungrateful souls in my life.
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
8 Oct 15
@sofssu These things are history as far as I am concerned. It did bother me earlier but any more. I have my life and a good one too.
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@allknowing You feel that out of sight out of mind is not only the popular rule but people also artificially create the distance between themselves. I personally haven't had this experience.. However, you seem to be pained by it.. I guess we just need to do good and not expect gratitude from people these days.
@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@allknowing Glad you have left the past behind.. Its not worth carrying the burdens of yesterday today.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Oct 15
I believe that Distance makes our heart grow fonder . They may be far , but they will always be remembered . That's how it is with our love ones.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Oct 15
@sofssu We mostly think and feel the same , my dear ha ?
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@sofssu (23662)
14 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD In many ways don't we.. May differ a bit On food I guess.
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@sofssu (23662)
14 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD I agree with you totally my dear.. that is how my heart and brain works.
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
8 Oct 15
Its either distance makes the heart grows fonder or makes the heart forgets.
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
14 Oct 15
@sofssu It made me forget...
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@sofssu (23662)
14 Oct 15
@cherigucchi Hmm so we have even on both sides of the argument as i expected. Thanks for letting me know why route you take.
@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@cherigucchi Tell me which way you go.. fonder or forget?
@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
14 Oct 15
I have been in two long distance relationship. The first do not lasts. I am married with my second LDR.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
14 Oct 15
@sofssu It only depends on both people actually :)
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@sofssu (23662)
14 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH I am glad that the second one ( what was meant to be) lasted. I am of the opinion in true love distance doesn't really matter.
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@sofssu (23662)
14 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH It does and the depth of the relationship too.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 15
I'm the same! Distance definitely makes the heart grow fonder. Another thing is that when you and your loved ones are separated for a long time, you'd really treasure the moment you finally get to see each other again.
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 Great, we seem to have a similar out look about relationships.. You are so right about that separation always manages to makes those moments of coming together perfect and precious.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 Oct 15
Sometimes distance makes people learn to live without you and once you are back it is kind of not as interesting as before. However depending with the person in question the distance can make you miss them or learn to live without them
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@Missmwngi Doesn't really happen with me. I miss the person all the more in a close relationship. I do agree when its class mates or something we tend to go our separate ways,
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8 Oct 15
I used a lot of that saying when I was in grade 6-10. I used a lot when we were with friends my friends!! It was very obvious getting a friend and losing a friend was very easy!! It did not make any impact in my heart, I never felt anything when I lost a friend but something happened that changed me forever, my girlfriend!! When I wend to college I had to bade my girlfriend bye,it was one of the hardest thing to do in my life, I remember when I jumped into into the vehicle as it started counting miles, I was sitting at the back shedding tears!! I felt like I was leaving something valuable!! Now we have that gap, but to make my story short, the love that I have for her grow stronger and stronger,I cant fail to post to her block!! I never miss her call, I send her surprises monthly not only me doing that but she does a lot!! So out of sight, out of mind is applied to those who when they leave have nothing to lose. Thank you!!
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@sofssu (23662)
9 Oct 15
@Brucexiton Well thank you for that refreshing comment. I feel that way too.. When we value something/someone so much the distance doesn't really matter. Hope everything goes well for the two of you.
@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 Oct 15
Most times a long distance relationship does not work out. When i does it is suppose to.
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@jstory07 I know mof a few long distance relationship working out well.. but I guess your stand on this one is out of sight out of mind.
• United States
7 Oct 15
I think it depends on the people/person involved. I have some close friends that are out of sight but hardly ever out of my mind since we don't live close enough to visit
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@sofssu (23662)
8 Oct 15
@Marilynda1225 Same here I can never forget my close friends because there is much distance between us.. I have become more fond of them and I have even overlooked their flaws.