She kissed my husband infront of me!
@JaneApril (334)
Philippines
October 10, 2015 12:12pm CST
My husband took me to this small friend/co-worker gathering. I was so amazed how closed they all were. Everything's going okay - his girl friends/co-workers joking with him, touching him and even hugging him. I didn't mind their closeness since he already cleared to me that they only treat each other as brothers and sisters, nothing more than that.
No problem. None until the time we told them we were going home. They protested because the party was not yet over but they did not insist.
They greeted us goodbye. Suddenly, one of his co-workers rushed toward and kissed him on the cheek, in front of me. I was speechless. I wanted to walk out but I kept my cool.
We haven't talked about it yet.
How should I react to this?
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11 responses
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
11 Oct 15
I feel you. I had an ex who was my colleague and has lots of close friends who are girls. He's sweet to them to the point that he request one of them to massage his back. Kiss is worst I guess. You can maybe just tell your husband in a subtle way that you were a bit hurt. Its not easy to carry the burden. Its true they could be just close friends but atleast the other girl should show some respect.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
12 Oct 15
Lol . I'm a very possessive and jealous woman. Lucky guy he is! Hope luck will be in favor of him again the next time this happens because sometimes I forget to bring my patience with me.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
10 Oct 15
I certainly wouldn't like that, and my husband knows I wouldn't like that. We set our ground rules a long time ago and know not to cross any lines. My marriage is more important to me than a friendship, so if a friendship makes my husband uncomfortable I end the friendship.
You need to set the same ground rules in your marriage. Tell your husband that you don't appreciate him allowing other women to touch him and especially kiss him. He needs to put a stop to it and put your feelings first.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
11 Oct 15
Thanks :) atleast now I already have an idea on what to say and how I will say it to him.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
11 Oct 15
I'm not sure I'd even bring it up. Cheek kisses don't mean the same thing to everybody. While it might bring the green eyed monster out of you, others might see it as a perfectly innocent gesture. He might think you're over reacting. I'd test this theory by kissing the cheek of some guy who is like your brother. See if he reacts to that and you'll know.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Oct 15
Smart girl...I felt that too. For starters, it is not her husband who did the kissing. So he is not guilty. Then again, it was drinks perhaps. Thirdly, there is a possibility that the girl likes her husband, but her husband does not know it all. After all, ring on the finger does not exactly close doors to love. Her husband is not explaining because he fears he will be considered guilty if he tries to justify it. Lastly, it was on cheeks, not on lips. I would casually of course mention to my husband that it does feel odd to be seeing something like that because of the way we are brought up perhaps. But not make too much fuss about it. The message will get in there loud and clear, and the husband will steer clear. I wouldn't bother with kissing another man as yet, unless the husband says there is nothing wrong with such things.
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@allknowing (136541)
• India
11 Oct 15
I admire your patience for not raking it up with your husband. That should not be encouraged unless that's his style with others too.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
11 Oct 15
I will surely not encourage that because the next time, if it will happen again, I may not be able to control myself.
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@Pinakikrishshna (14)
• Kolkata, India
10 Oct 15
You should keep quiet until your husband talks about it. Perhaps he is too liberal and does not care about getting close to his coworkers. If you make a issue out of it, it may create problem.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
5 Nov 15
Sounds like a little too much touchy feeling going on to me!!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Dec 15
To me that is going way too far and I would have said something to the woman as she had not business doing that.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
11 Oct 15
I am a jealous type when it comes to my husband so nobody could dare kiss him that way. If I were in your place, I will not talk and will keep my peace but I will mark that woman and the next time she does this, I will give her some unforgettable sharp words.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
11 Oct 15
tell him you didn't appreciate what she did in front of you
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