Does love really conquer all?
By John Welford
@indexer (4852)
Leicester, England
October 12, 2015 11:13am CST
It was Mae West who said that love conquers everything with the sole exceptions of poverty and toothache, but does it really?
Suppose that you had the opportunity to spend the rest of your life with the most wonderful person in the world, but they were so hated by everyone else you knew - family and friends - that they broke off all contact with you? Would you think that love conquered all under those circumstances?
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@sallypup (61561)
• Centralia, Washington
12 Oct 15
@indexer We've had some nasty economic times and the extended family squabbles do not help. His Mom chose to show up one time for about 5 minutes. It was hubby's birthday. He really did not need to hear that his Mom had just gotten back from spending days with his sister while she slapped some steaks on us and then left. Stuff like that really gets on the nerves.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
12 Oct 15
There will always be opposition to any relationship. Everyone thinks they know the most perfect match for you, even if you have no interest in them. I have a friend where he's in love with this girl that is a horrible person to his friends and his family, and is so opinionated that she is like a monster among women. But he loves her, and she loves him, so they are in their own world, while all of us wonder how such a nice guy ended up with one like that.
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@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
12 Oct 15
@OneOfMany I've seen this happen to a close family member. That's when i realised that love is indeed blind. He was so far gone, he actually said she was an angel...his very words. Meantime she was driving a wedge between everyone within the family, manipulating situations left, right and centre to make herself look the innocent party etc Long story short; In the end he saw her for what she really is, a MONSTER and kicked her to the kerb. Such good riddance too, she really made life horrible for everyone and wherever she went, drama followed!
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
12 Oct 15
@indexer I don't know, but she's really mean to the rest of his family. I met her once and she seemed like she was having a perpetually bad day.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 15
I don't think I'd like this kind of love. When everyone else hates them. Not good at all.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
12 Oct 15
Absolutely not.
Love like that is for the birds.
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@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
12 Oct 15
I don't know, really. I think we all have this misguided impression that love is all you need to conquer all. But really, love is only part of the story. It depends on so many different things like how strong you are as a couple, trust, respect etc One party may start to feel resentful, especially the one who's had to give up all those people. -and when this happens, it can inevitably have a horrible knock on effect on the relationship, possibly leading to a split. So, love doesn't always conquer all. That's just a romantic, and overly simplistic way of looking at it. After all, the path to true love is not always a smooth one.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
5 Nov 15
Hmmm, doesn't sound good.. Unless the family is waay bigoted! I don't think love conquers all. Not yet. But it will! :)
@vandana7 (100531)
• India
12 Oct 15
I am of the opinion that when a woman marries a man, she marries him with his emotional baggage, so does the man marry woman with her emotional baggage. In so far as the marriage is concerned ..the physical aspect of it, nobody can dictate that you like this person. That is god's decision. As to woman weaving her way into the family, it is her responsibility to find foothold, take collective family responsibilities, and vice versa, the family too needs to accept her as a responsibility. Even a person selected by the family can prove to be unsuitable after some time. At least, here, there is some bonding because of which some compromises are likely.
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
17 Oct 15
The type of love that conquers all is the kind of love God expressed when He gave His only begotten Son. The type of love you're talking about is between a man and a woman who have chosen each other above all others. If you get into that relationship knowing that others will reject you for it and you still have each other and you stay together, then your love conquered all. Yes. For some people they must do just that. CHOOSE! It's their life to live.
@joylol (148)
• Austin, Texas
14 Oct 15
Yes, I believe love conquers all because it is looking past all the bad parts to stay with the good of the person without pity. You can't love a person if you only stay for the positive and not for the negative and it's the same way if you only stay for the negative and not the positive.
Pity is being sorry for who the person is and other's viewpoint is on the person and the complete opposite of compassion and love, which is seeing the positive in someone and being sorry for what happened to them and not who they are.
The thing about family and friends breaking off contact. Well, it's true that I shouldn't delve into pointless arguments when the logical solution is to not waste words on people who deserve my silence BUT.... if the feeling of something missing reminds me of why my example lived in the first place then I would gladly be happy with how long distance reminds me of what was important in the first place. It is what made me a person and it's actually someone worth missing.
Someone worth missing is the people that still fill in the gaps of what shouldn't be missing and if that's true than I'm happy that I'm thinking about what is really fair. Alone, I merely exist. Existing isn't the same as living. Existing is survival and survival is how to escape.
Together, I live because of the lessons given by other people that were shared in my example, that still live on today. Love is life and living is love. Love is an adventure with plot twists of dark depths or light ridden joys and all always live it because even hate is connected to what should of been loved as fair in the first place. I can't escape or survive love because I live it. ^_^
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
12 Oct 15
Love has the power to conquer all it all depends how strong that persons heart is to drop their family and pursue love cause in the end family is all we have
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@Cdjran2015 (273)
• Manila, Philippines
13 Oct 15
It conquers if both know what love is. Like what my man is saying a while ago, I must fight for my right.
@iamblueberry (57)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
19 Oct 15
Love is between only two persons and don't mind other people as they have nothing to do with it. Eventually they will learn and realize everything.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 15
I do not think that love could conquer all or everything. Each one of us has different priorities in life and love is not the sole priority. One just cannot survive on the basis of love only. If two persons are in a relationship with each other, they need money, housing and clothing apart from love. If they do not have money, they just cannot move ahead in life.
@Kchitij2007 (445)
• Pune, India
13 Oct 15
Well like a wise man once said- " You don't marry the girl, you marry the family! "
Of course its hard to appease everyone with a relationship your having with someone, but you have a better understanding of the people around you than that gal/guy whom you just got into love with. If you think people around you are hypercritical of stuff, you should probably not worry so much. Also your bf/gf/husband/wife is your primary source of happiness and satisfaction in life so your first concern should be how he/she is to you and later to others. Plus if your family and the guy/gal you're with really loves you, they should be able to strike a compromise with each other for your sake.
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
13 Oct 15
Hey Friends Love is a Magic Circle. When we are in we forget about every thing and only bother about the latter love. But when we are out the circle we misses everything . Don't Worry be Happy.
@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
13 Oct 15
Love can conquer it all for love is the most powerful. Don't doubt love for love is from God and God is love.