Asking for advice

I am jut asking to confirm if my opinion is correct to other people's opinion.

@wiLLmaH I understand... But I guess as you said you friends were running out of patience with you. Did that bother you ?

@wiLLmaH But why would you do that Wilma? I don't get it.

@crazyhorseladycx Exactly, that is what she wants.. she expects us to bail her out all the time.. Her college professor who is friend of mine just told me not to waste my time on her.

@sofssu sadly that tough love 'tis what's required 't times. hard to watch 'em fall, but they gotta grow up 'n accept responsibility sometime.

@SIMPLYD Its time I did that too.. But her parents are always pleading with me to help her as I am the only adult other than her college mates that she will talk to.

@sofssu there is a point at which the only advice can be 'get your act together and sort yourself out'. You can help people but not if they don't want help. They thrive on being a little lost lamb so they have to keep getting back in the same mess. It's like fishing someone out of a swamp and then finding they just somehow jump back in expecting you to risk your life rescuing them again.

@arthurchappell You make two important points here.. attention seeking and becoming a nuisance. I will have to agree with you totally on this.

@sofssu you did all you could but like Pilate you just have to wash your hands of it sometimes

@TheHorse Yes, she asks for help and advice in the situations she screwed up and screws it up some more.

@JaneApril That is what I thought at first..but its almost a year since she started coming to me for advise.. but the problem is she goes back and does just the opposite and making things worse. She could easily get into trouble with the laws of the land for her behavior

@JaneApril I am not sure she needs anyone from the way things go.. I have just decided to let her do her own thing from now on. She is draining me out so much.

@sofssu Let her learn her lesson on her own way. As long as you're doing you're part as a friend to her, you're helping. If she's undergoing such condition, then it means she needs you more to stay for her.

@Rollo1 This is what I know she does but I didn't want to say it. She seems to be so good at this game but does exactly what she wants.

@salonga It is a ministry indeed to those who need help. But it seems some people like to waste your time and theirs as well.

@scheng1 That is the truth I know it. But its really hard to see what she is doing to herself. Its even harder to refuse her parents who plead with me to help her.

Yeah I guess people may consider not taking advice as being strong.. or just that they can handle their own problems. However, I was asking about people who ask for advice and do their own thing in the end.

@sofssu Yeah sometimes we have to ask fro advice to see if there is any good merit in our own theory. for example some peopel ask you to buy apple iphone for 30K and some people ask you to buy android phone for 7000. So if your theory of being in budget yet buying good phone means buying 9000 rs phone then you know how to proceed. so doing our own thing at the end requires checking the option from others.

@sofssu If one asks for advice then one should listen and consider taking that advice otherwise it makes no sense to ask and then not pay attention to the advice.

@LadyDuck Yeas, she is like that.. it seems even before she has asked you she has made her choice to muck up some more. You can never really help someone who doesn't want help.

@intal_carl That is nice but do you follow them?

@Marilynda1225 Okay that remind me of another friend who does the same.. I guess I am so used to her that i didn't think of it differently. We have been friends from high school.