Why Do We Hurt The Ones We Love
By Sharon
@simone10 (54187)
Louisville, Kentucky
October 13, 2015 6:04am CST
I thought about this today after writing a post about my brother and I just the other day. I have heard this phrase before but never really thought about why it happens.
I'm sure we have all hurt someone we loved or been hurt by someone we loved by either words or actions. Why do you think that happens? Do you think sometimes it could be because we know them so well that it is easy to push their buttons and know their weaknesses? Maybe it's because we know that our loved ones love us unconditionally and will always be there no matter what? Do we do it for attention or out of anger or hurt or stress?
There could be so many reasons why we hurt the ones we love, depending on the situation. I'm sure most of us don't intend to hurt them but sometimes it just happens. Why do you think we always hurt the ones we love?
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
13 Oct 15
human nature sadly - we have needs that are not always the same as our partners need so the give and take creates painful friction - worse if we don't compromise and make sacrifices
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Oct 15
that is an old 50's song. lol. who knows why. not i
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
13 Oct 15
a most interestin' query 'n one that's been asked since the beginnin' 'f time i reckon. i do my best not to hurt nobody, whether i love 'em 'r not. but, schtuff happens. more so perhaps when folks jest lash out instead 'f 'avin' a peaceful conversation 'bout whate'er burrs under their saddle.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
19 Oct 15
So true. I know my brother and I hurt each other all the time. Sometimes I'm not feeling good and he will say something and I snap back at him. Sometimes he is stressed and he will snap at me. We never mean to hurt each other but it just happens sometimes.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Oct 15
@crazyhorseladycx I agree and for the most part, we usually do forgive and forget. Now, my brother and I have 2 sisters that we don't speak to. It's a really long story but the last time we spoke to them, there was name calling on their part and a lot of hurtful words. We don't need people like that in our lives, even if they are family.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
19 Oct 15
@simone10 folks feel that family's jest 'pposed to fergive 'n ferget those kinda thingies.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
14 Oct 15
I think most of the time it happens on impulse. We normally do not want to hurt our near and dear ones but if they have hurt us in the past or we are stressed and tensed, we say something unpleasant and in turn hurt them. It is possible that we repent later for our bad words but once we have said something bad, the other fellow does not forget it easily.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
20 Oct 15
@simone10 - It is, therefore, we should be careful with our words when speaking to anyone.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Oct 15
@dpk262006 I have always tried to be that way because my Mom was one that lost her temper easily and then could say really hurtful things. I always said that I wouldn't be that way and I haven't.
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@marguicha (223863)
• Chile
13 Oct 15
I think we all hurt the people near us, at one time or another. I don´t know why it is nor why they hurt us sometimes. I can only hope than noone means it
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@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
14 Oct 15
Hi there, marguicha, I'm glad to see you are still here.
I think we hurt the people near us because we spend maybe too much time with them. Take for example, me and my old man. He has started fixing the house, making many decorations, a lot of dirt to clean everyday, I think I had enough of it.
He asks me for a little favor to help him and it's already too much for me. My grandmother also has some tasks for me and I sometimes think those tasks are not necessary. That's where people near us can get hurt.
@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
19 Oct 15
@marguicha I think that most of the time they don't mean it but then there are other times when some people do mean it or just don't care about the consequences.
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
13 Oct 15
I dont hurt the ones I love but they sure hurt me Simone. I am sorry you got into it with your brother. Hopefully you two will be right as rain soon.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
19 Oct 15
@simone10 Glad to hear you two are fine now.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
19 Oct 15
I think most of us do hurt people we love. Sometimes it's just by being a bit snappy when we are feeling agitated. It's not like we always mean to but it just happens. My brother and I are just fine now. Very rarely to either of us stay mad for long. Life is too short.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
13 Oct 15
The closest to us are those who we worry about/care about/argue with the most. You never hurt those you hate because you don't care enough about them...it's hard to explain.
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
13 Oct 15
i don't think anyone does it on purpose unless your a kid. Adults just have a tendency to get their feelings hurt. At least that is what I think.
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
19 Oct 15
@simone10 That's true too. Those you love are special to you so you are open to being hurt even if just by accident or a harsh word.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Oct 15
@PainsOnSlate Very true. Sometimes it feels like your feelings are like an open wound, raw and sensitive.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
15 Oct 15
I think the reasons are all of what you said. When we are close to someone, we feel free to act out in ways we would never do in front of a stranger.
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@intal_carl (299)
• Quezon City, Philippines
14 Oct 15
Maybe sometime we felt very emotional and we don't feel that we are actually hurting the people we love.
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@Pinakikrishshna (14)
• Kolkata, India
14 Oct 15
Perhaps we think at the back of our minds that our bond with the person we love is unbreakable. That makes us forget where to stop hurting.
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@DeborahDiane (40322)
• Laguna Woods, California
14 Oct 15
I think we hurt the ones we love because those are the ones who are most easily affected by what we do and say. They are the easiest to hurt, even when we do not mean to.
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