ADHD or lack of discipline

Kindergartners aren't supposed to be sitting at desks doing work all day, yet that's what the local school district feels is appropriate. Mine is constantly losing points in the ClassDojo app for being off task, talking, not doing her work... the teacher sends worksheets home for her to complete, but I've chosen not to force my daughter to do them because the teacher is denying her recesses and making her stay in when she doesn't complete her work 'on time.' None of it's graded. The kid isn't completing the work because she's bored stiff and going stir-crazy in the classroom. We spend the evenings going to the park and the lake so she can act like the kid she is.

I so agree with you. It seems that in a lot of instances the teacher will say the child is having issues when it is actually just their age. And, I also agree the parents need to be keeping a handle on their behavior at home and doing their part.

I fear that too many of those tween 20 n 30 were raised to believe that meds will solve all kinds of problems, but like you said all a child that young needs is guidance. I actually don't get why small children aren't learning about nature first, it's a natural learning field and they need to learn about nature long before they learn to read.

It is usually lack of discipline. I dont care what conditions are present, if you dont discipline, they will be no guidance.

Oh!!! I completely agree! Not that ADHD isn't real, but from the description you gave? That was nothing more than a [b][/b]very normal 5 year old. I was told that because my son didn't listen or sit still that he had this (from a stranger) and I am glad I didn't listen to her. For one, I also was not a listener and very hyper as a kid, but I just had a lot of energy and I still do, yet I can focus and get work done. My son is the same way, he is 28 now and he is a hard worker

Children are not raised anymore. You are right they are given medication so the adults job is easier. I don't know what happened but I believe it is because parents both work and there is no guidance at home. When I grew up my Mother was at home and taught us right and wrong, how to act in public and politeness. Of course it is not possible now because families depend on 2 incomes. So sad that children are basically raising themselves or the teachers are raising them.

I agree this seems way too young to be placing a child on medication, especially if there was no history of ADHD like behavior before school documented. Even if it seems needed it can cause major side effects, and the part that I hate it can be easily diagnosed by a number of so-called "professionals" A part of me says that this mother did this only for the benefits related to this diagnosis. If the child has to be medicated, then the child is considered disabled and the parent(s) can receive cash benefits through Social Security. And many single mothers will push for this even if the child doesn't really need it because hey, free money smh I also strongly believe this has to do with the feminization of boys, as they are the ones most likely to be diagnosed with ADHD and placed on medication. I saw this myself with my own son. He has always had other developmental issues, but when he started school (early as part of his therapy), I had a course of several teachers from the time he was 3 until about 7 state that he could benefit from medication so that he was able to focus. After having several discipline issues, I took my son to his primary care physician to see if he thought he had ADHD. The "test" came down to a questionnaire with very general yes or no questions about his behavior. This was the ONLY THING USED. He was diagnosed with ADHD and given a perscription for Adderall. This only worked for his hyperactivity temporarily at the first dose, to which the doctor said to up his dose....after going from 5mg to 30mg in the course of a month and a half I began to worry about what it could be doing to him. Not to mention that even though it wasn't effective, my son was eager to take his medication, even reminding me at times. (Still weirds me out to this day that a 7 year old was taking a pill without one issue). The doctor at this time decides to change him over to Focalin. I only kept my son on this new medication a week, as a very disturbing incident happened. I passed my son's room and he was hanging out of his window. This has always been a no-no in my house, so I say calmly to the boy "You know you're not supposed to be in that window, now don't you?" His response was to bust out bawling. No threats made, not even a voice raised, but here he is with all types of tears. I said that would be the last pill he took. Here we are 7 years later; and while my sons does deal with focus issues, he is a B average high school student, and I've kept true to my word. Not one more pill has he taken. Have I seen children that these types of medicine seem to help? Yes. But I truly believe that if there is any way you can avoid your child having to be medicated for ADHD especially your boys, find it.

My son has ADHD and is medicated during the day. Since he was medicated his learning has improved, where as before medication he was unable to concentrate. I have six children, my son who has ADHD is the youngest, the pupil referral school that he has been going to for about six years teach in smaller class sizes. I am a strict, but fair parent. The school teachers are saying that they are sure that he also has Autism. He was diagnosed at six years old, by a mental health specialist, not a person that just writes pills out for the sake of it. He has never slept from the age of two years old and still is not a great sleeper now, he has to have melatonin to help him sleep, as he do not manage to have the ability to produce melatonin like most people do to help to sleep. In my opinion there are a lot of parents out there that tend to not correct children, but also there are a lot of children that may need help, extra guidance and some that require medication. As far as schools go, they are to quick to judge a child, exclude a child of any age.

If he has done well in the test, that means that he has been paying attention all the time even though he can't or will not sit down quietly and listen to what is being taught. Kids ... you can't make them sit quietly for a very long time. They just want to play and have fun. That doesn't make them hyperactive.

I was a parent rep, for nine years, on the Committee for the Handicapped/Special Ed at my child's school. I learned a lot listening to discussions about various children as to their education plans and problems. There are other things that go along with ADHD. It is common for the child to have ears that get really red, have allergies that are severe, react in strange ways and other things that go along with ADHD. It is almost like a syndrome. Sometimes, the problem is a lack of parenting but not always. child, ADHD, other problems